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Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

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BigMoFos Week 7

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WigWamBam · 22/06/2006 11:11

Everyone geared up for another good week? Nothing like some good losses to gee everyone up ...

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suejonez · 26/06/2006 14:31

...and like the mango and salmon idea Fauve!

BTW are you names after the group of post impressionist painters

JackieNo · 26/06/2006 14:32

Well said suejonez. I'm in it for the long haul too - it's taken me a good 30 years to put the weight on (I'm 40, btw), so it's going to take a fair while for it to come off.

MrsJohnCusack · 26/06/2006 14:35

WWB
The thing is I think lots of us on this thread have been there - I know the food 'daze' only too well
You've had some good advice here - I can't think of anything better to say, but I am thinking of you. And look at the lovely things you said to me the other day when I was in a bit of a downward spiral - great support, that's what we're here for, come on here and get it out of your system.
It's much easier said than done I know but one binge doesn't ruin nearly 2 months of fabulous success (have you seen your weightlosses?!)
Maybe today is just a 'Jonah' day. Doesn't mean it has to be a Jonah week/month/year

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WigWamBam · 26/06/2006 16:21

Fauve, I didn't know that about mango ... must get some.

Sue, I don't need fluffy stuff, hugs and sympathy are nice but I probably need stern right now ... or if not stern then at least straight talking, I deal with that far better. Believe me, I've been giving myself a good talking to. And re: exercise being a good way to treat depression ... I took myself off for a long walk after my last post and have been tramping around in Sutton Park in a sad attempt to raise my spirits. Walked for a couple of hours until it was time to pick dd up and am now attempting "normal" so that she doesn't pick up on it.

"The problem with us food addicts is that we equate our relationship with food with some kind of running commentary on our worth as human beings". Oh lord, yes - do we ever. Even when we know it's all crap; it's just so ingrained. However we get over that I don't know, but to answer your question, I'm in it for the long haul - I want to be, anyway. I guess that in a couple of years time the odd binge won't have mattered in the long run, but what frightens me is, what if I've opened the floodgates and now I can't stop? It just seems uncontrollable once it starts.

A Jonah day ... that would be one way of putting it I guess. Am horribly prone to depression and although it's nowhere near as bad as it was at its worst, it's still a scary place to be.

Sorry for the rambling, selfish posts today - and thank you for the support xxx

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JackieNo · 26/06/2006 16:38

We're all behind you, WWB. Good on you for getting out for that walk, too .

coppertop · 26/06/2006 16:52

Sorry you're feeling so down, WWB. You and the rest of the BigMoFos were a great support when I couldn't stop feeding my face with chocolate a couple of weeks ago and ended up putting a pound on. We're all here for you. xx

suejonez · 26/06/2006 18:17

Walk a bit faster if you're feeling down - a) gets the endorphins going, and b) you can't eat as well if you're out of breath. No mosey-ing, around, brisk march until you're out of breath. Just imagine me yelling behind you.

Attempting "normal" is also good - it is better to put on a brave face in my experience, sometimes if you pretend enough, you do actually feel better.

I'm glad you need a talking to - am much better at that than the sympathic stuff

And putting it in perspective, you have only eaten some food, and despite what you might feel now, you know you can stop eating and get back on track. You aren't going to keep eating until you explode you know! (I hope!). Food is not the enemy, low self esteem is (repeat that again, everyone).

Why don't you weigh yourself today then have a two day week before the next weigh in - what ever weight you've put on this week, try to stay the same during your two day week (not lose anything, just get your eating under control again). Then aim to start the new week again on Thursday and lose next week.

Repeat after me everyone....

we like WWB and we think she deserves to be thin;
we like WWB and we think she deserves to be thin;
we like WWB and we think she deserves to be thin..

Littlefish · 26/06/2006 18:20

In response to your question about the counselling WWB, one of the things I started to consider this week was how to avoid the "good foods" and "bad foods" label. If I label foods like that, then I also label myself as "good" or, more often "bad" for eating them. What I really want to aim for instead is "NORMAL". At the moment, I'm trying to work out what "normal" is. I mean, how do normal people, without food issues view food, and use food.

I think this issue is one which we have probably all considered at one time or another.

I don't know what a "normal" portion of food looks like, I don't know what a "normal" pattern of eating feels like, I don't know what "normal" hunger feels like. How hungry should I feel just before meal times?

These are the questions I'm currently working on. I'd be really interested in hearing anyone else's views.

suejonez · 26/06/2006 18:32

My sister is very thin and the last time I lost weight I thought a lot about her attitude to food and exercise. It does seem very relevant to your "normal" comments.

When I overeat, I feel depressed because I have been "bad", whereas my sister thinks - "oh I have eaten too much, must cut down tomorrow/next week/whatever", of course she may be a bit blunter than that! But her attitude is more normal, she doesn't see food as good or bad just food IYSWIM.

I'm quite scared of food - I'm scared of having too much and I'm scared of not getting enough. I like a lot of carbohydrate and I almost panic when going to others peoples houses to eat because I worry I won't get enough carbs. Physically that's down to the insulin resisitance, but the panic element is psychological. I am trying to persuade myself that it is OK not to have enough to eat occasionally - I'm not exactly going to fade away!

Re hunger - at the end of week one I commented that I'd felt hungry (occassionally) for the first time in months and wierdly it felt good. It made me realise that I was eating all the time and never get hungry. It's almost like I don't know where my next meal is coing from so have to stock up at every available opportunity.

JackieNo · 26/06/2006 20:28

We like WWB and we think she deserves to be thin;
We like WWB and we think she deserves to be thin;
We like WWB and we think she deserves to be happy...(you do, you know)

JackieNo · 27/06/2006 12:54

How are you doing today, WWB? Hope you're feeling better. Or if not - come on here and vent to us about it .

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WigWamBam · 27/06/2006 13:47

You've all been lovely; thank you. Wry smile at the "deserves to be thin" bit though! Am keeping my head above water at the mo, thanks for asking xx

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JackieNo · 27/06/2006 13:57

Good on you WWB Struggling a bit myself at the moment, going back to eating the same size portions I used to eat, if I'm not careful. Maybe it's a time thing - our minds just rebel every so often, and we just have to whip them back into line

suejonez · 27/06/2006 14:05

I'm struggling today too - pick pick pick. I NEVER pick at food (or very rarely) I have eaten my breakfast then a bread roll then my lunch, then a hot cross bun, then another hot cross bun, then 2 crackers with a bit of cheese, then two wine gums - and its only 2pm!

I'm bored, I'm supposed to be sorting out a very complicated spreadsheet which is wrong, for a meeting this afternoon. I'd much rather eat.

Ah well i guess one day won;t kill me - I'm always a bit listless after a good week - perhaps I know I can;t top it so I just give up a bit. Thank god wednesdays not far off and I can feel that I'm starting again.

suejonez · 27/06/2006 14:07

And keeping your head above water is a GOOD position to be in! That'll do fine for now.

JackieNo · 27/06/2006 14:07

Yes - is it that we feel that we've been 'good' and so can 'reward' ourselves by being a bit more relaxed about what we eat?

(Mmmm - hot cross buns )

suejonez · 27/06/2006 14:12

hot cross buns, fruit scone and crumpets were all my saviours on my last diet. They don;t have masses of fat or sugar so found I could have them without cocking everything up too badly. No butter or anything though - just "raw" IYSWIM.

Interesting point about being able to eat being the "reward" I think thats probably true but I think it will take some time to train myself out of it. Also I think taking a break and eating what you want to for a few days can be good for you. If only becasue it reminds you that you'd rather loose weight when you step on the scales.

dublindee · 27/06/2006 14:18

Crumpets [drool]
Oh god I want one!

WWB hope you're doing better hun. Just remember this whole thread was your idea and none of us would be where we are if you hadn't the vision and insight to start up this club thingy.

Fauve · 27/06/2006 16:07

Glad you're feeling a bit better, WWB. I, too, am very grateful to you for setting up this club!

Suejonez, I do like the Fauvist painters, but the name Fauve is also a girl's name - I read about a little girl called Fauve in The Observer, and thought what a brilliant name. It means 'wild beast' in French, perfect for any dd of mine. However it was far too late for me to give it to my dd, so I gave it to myself (I am a Leo). In any case, it would've been far too pretentious for dd; I also used to dream about calling ds 'Storm' (I know, I know), so if I'd done both, our family would've looked like that painting by Rousseau they all learn about in school - you know, the tiger caught in a storm?

We are quite noisy...

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WigWamBam · 28/06/2006 10:53

I can't take the credit for starting this up; I had been considering doing something for a while but probably wouldn't have done anything about it if it weren't for an email I had from suejonez. She'd read something I'd written about weight and shifting it, and she emailed me to see if I would be interested in doing something like this. We had a bit of a chat and realised that we and others would probably benefit from setting up a thread for those of us who get put off other threads where 10 stone women wail about having lardy arses and needing to lose 4lb, and so I set it up.

I'm really glad it's here though, regardless of who started it!

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coppertop · 28/06/2006 10:57

Hurray for WWB and suejonez!

I've e-mailed my results. No loss but also no gain so I'm happy enough.

Good luck, everyone!

suejonez · 28/06/2006 11:00

"I can't take the credit for starting this up"

Actually you can, I had a smidgeon of an idea and before I knew what what happening it was here!

Happy with having my name in lights for a brief moment though - won't be there for long one I've weighed today though. I have heartburn - always a sign I have been eating too much.

Before I got back on this diet, I had heartburn pretty much consistently - lived on Pepcid2. Now take about 1 a week and am hoping to cut that out too.

Good reminder to me that I am happier on a diet than not! I

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JackieNo · 28/06/2006 11:47

I'll weigh later - have a feeling I won't have lost, but you never know. Whoever it was who started this thing off, thank you suejonez for the idea and thank you WWB for setting it up - 'I love you guys'.

hub2dee · 28/06/2006 12:09

In Poole last weekend at fancy place with dinner included... chocolate fondant every night and it was delish.

Also had a crumble yesterday and that was v. fine and as we were away I gave myself a holiday from the gym... and you know what ? I don't give a hoot if I've put a wee bit back on. This is a long term thing, innit !

My WW weigh in is tomorrow and next gym is Friday ! Will post any information on a need to know basis.

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