BigMoFos Week 7

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Everyone geared up for another good week? Nothing like some good losses to gee everyone up ...

Oh MrsJC - hope you start to feel better - thinking of you .

can put my feet up a bit today but need to blitz flat as our buyers are coming to look again tomorrow. and we're (i.e. I'm, as DH doesn't drive) going to a wedding in Oxford tomorrow.

it will all be OK. Panicking about moving to NZ and how we haven't done anything, and we need new homes for the cats, and we need more quotes for shipping our stuff and.....everything really!

"I think today is just a Jonah day, as Anne of Green Gables would say." I just love Anne of Green Gables

Don't be down MrsJC - lovely concert in two weeks for a lovely cause and a lovely baby gently simmering. All is right with the world (just 5lb more right than it was last week).

Hello again everyone. Well done to all of you on your fantastic weight losses. I'm really impressed.

I think I'm finally ready to come and give it a go!!! I've had 5 weeks of counselling and feel that I am beginning to scratch the surface of my problems with food.

WWB, I still weigh the same as the last weight I sent you, so is it ok if I just send you my weight loss next Wednesday?

Of course it's OK, littlefish. How's the counselling been going?

Hope you're doing OK, MrsJC. Thought of you yesterday as I live not too far from Oxford. Was there today, having a bit of a wander round. Not been having a particularly virtuous weekend, at least not in the choice of food, but have been trying to keep the portion sizes sensible. It was our 17th wedding anniversary yesterday, so we all went to Pizza Express in the evening. Didn't have any alcohol, had salad (mind you, that's not necessarily the low-calorie choice it sounds) and no pudding. How's everyone else doing?

Thank you for asking JackieNo( I do love your name BTW) (and everyone else for asking too). and well done on PE meal - yes the salads aren't always that healthy, but no pudding - well done that woman.

I am feeling much better today, not so ravenous, not so tired, not so depressed in general - hurrah. Managing to not stuff my face at the moment AND am drinking lots of water
Wedding was lovely - in University College chapel. Except we made it in there just behind the bride - yet again (the third wedding we've done this ). luckily we could slink in, only for me to leave after 5 mins as DD v.squirmy.

hello littlefish. This seems to be a thread that works (if you ignore me!). The weight losses are fab

Couldn't you pretend to be a bridesmaid?

Am having an odd weekend. Sort of well intentioned but keep skipping meals which is bad news for me. Eat three very nice raspberry and chocolate lollies but have reationalised that they were breakfast + treat together.

Am eating healthy food but too much off it - made a low fat curry for dinner with extar rice to keep for tomorrow and ending up eating it all .

Think I need to up my exercise a bit as well, I just never feel like it when the weather is warm.

Raspberry and choc lollies sound yummy, suejonez. And at least you do some exercise - I still haven't managed to do any (although I did make a point of walking up the stairs in the shops I was in today, instead of standing on an escalator lost in thought as I usually do).

Glad that the wedding went well and that you're feeling better, MrsJC - long may it continue.

Sorry - just realised that I sound like I'm criticising the amount of exercise you do suejonez - it wasn't meant like that at all.

even better they were raspberry and white chocolate with little bits of nougat.

Back on the wagon today though!

And I'm not such a flimsy woman that I would take offence at your exercise comment JN, especially coming from a fellow QVC wathcer/Liz Earle lover.

Yum. Are you stalking me suejonez? I think I did actually know about your liking for Liz Earle stuff before, though. Didn't know you were a fellow QVC addict, though. Just had a boring cheese salad sandwich and an apple for lunch. Before doing this, I'd probably have had a sandwich, then a yoghurt, maybe a bag of crisps, followed by my second chocolate bar of the day.

Not exactly an addict, though came pretty close when I wasn't working! I have bought a few things from them and generally found them to be good. They also do large sizes in many of their clothes so tend to watch for that. I was brought up in a noisy family and lived above the shop so poeple always araound and I've never got used to having things quiet. So TV or radio is always on, QVC is a reliable option when there's bugger all else on.

Wouldn't think I was a company director with a dgree and various other letters after my name would you! Not most peoples image of a QVC watcher

Feeling disgusted with myself, had a huge binge this morning and am disgusted at my total lack of control. It was almost as if I was in a daze, went around the shop and came home with all this stuff I can't even remember putting in my basket, then ate it all, the whole lot within minutes. All the while thinking "I know I shouldn't be eating this".

Have let myself down and almost feel as if I've stuffed the whole thing up again. If I can't stop bingeing a few weeks into a healthy eating plan then I don't stand a chance.

I can feel the black clouds of a depression coming on again as well and this hasn't helped. I could sit and cry - I didn't even enjoy the food, just sat there shovelling it all in as if it was the only food I'd see for weeks.

I know I need to just put it behind me and get back on the wagon but I hate myself for being so bloody weak. I am my own worst enemy and I don't ever seem to be able to let myself win.

Sorry, I know I have only myself to blame and I shouldn't be whinging but I need to get it out. I feel crap and even now my first thought is "where's the chocolate?". Jeez.

May not be around for a day or two, MN is a bad place for me when I'm down so I tend to avoid it - but I will still post the results, so don't forget to email me. Mine will probably be a + figure this week ... not so good, hey.

Can I join without posting my weight? I really need an incentive. I need to give up wine (again, did a whole month and more but have slipped recently) and chicken skin and chocolate.

Sorry you're down WWB.

Oh WWB - so sorry to hear you're not feeling good. I know that 'eating in a daze' thing so well - you're not alone in it, by any means. Come back when you're ready - we'll all miss you if you're not around. Thinking of you, FWIW.

Oh, I'll live, WWW. It'll pass and I'll be fine again for a few weeks. Sorry, didn't mean to harp on so much.

Of course you can join in without posting your weight, no worries on that score, would be good to have you along.

Oi WWB - you're not harping on - that's exactly what we're here for: to give each other support. So you don't have to apologise for talking to us. Sending you a virtual .

WWB - please don't beat yourself up. You have done amazingly well so far. We all have days when we slip up. The main thing to remember is that it DOES NOT make you a bad person. I completely understand the black cloud feeling, and the desparate need to eat the food, whilst knowing that you really shouldn't.

The really important thing is that you knew you really didn't need the food. That is a big step forward. You were not just blindly eating - you were eating in full consciousness. That is a great starting point for beginning to recognise the signs that a binge is starting, and recognising that you need to do something to distract yourself, or comfort yourself in another way.

I also recognise why you need to stay away from MN, but could you just avoid the rest of the board, and just come here for support? We are all here to help each other. You have been wonderful and supporting everyone else - please let us do the same for you.

Yes, you might put on this week, but you've had several weeks of great weight loss. The difference about this support thread is that we will all keep going, and keep each other going. One slip up will not sabotage our efforts. We've all done that too often in the past.

Please keep posting - we are all here to support you.

LF
xx

www - welcome, we are a friendly bunch and all know what it feels like to struggle with our weight and issues with food. I hope you find posting here helpful.

wwb I am sorry you are feeling so low - I have been having a pretty low week and been bingeing too! Have eatn anything and everything and now in panic mode about weigh in. I had lost every week and now feel like I have 'ruined' it. I know how you feel - it is hard to get your thinking back on track whn you aer beating yourself up about it. I hope we can get back on the straight and narrow - we need to remember why we are doing this and if we don't care enough about ouselves to do it we need to do it for our children. ((hug))

Thank you for the nice words, girls. I can barely read them throught the tears but it's good to know that someone's there.

I know it doesn't make me a bad person but it makes me feel like a stupid one. Ha, and even as I'm typing that I know it's not true but it just feels that way, you know what I mean?

It's horrible and it's disgusting and I did it despite knowing what I was doing, just blindly shoving the stuff in. How do you stop that? How to you start to care about yourself enough not to do this crap to your body?

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Sorry you're feeling down, WWB. I think it's inevitable to some extent with dieting, to have real lows

I read that mango has an anti-depressant effect, so I try to keep some packs of pre-prepared mango in the fridge, and I stuff myself with them if I feel slightly miserable. If I feel more miserable, I hit the smoked salmon which I also stock for the purpose. If I feel worse than that, it's straight to the ice cream tub - or worse...

Another of my tricks for cheering myself up is to buy magazines, sometimes quite a few. They are a luxury I usually resist, so if I buy, say, five, the effect is similar to wolfing down masses of chocolate. Preferably ones with not too many recipes in, though. Shopping is of course brilliant, but taxes the budget. Can you go out and do something you really enjoy, to cheer yourself up?

{{{{{Lots of hugs}}}} anyway.

Welcome aboard WWW. I tried going incognito at first because I thought I would have to publish my weight every week; however, of course WWB is more tactful than that, and anyway I soon blew my own cover (but only WWB knows my weight)

"I know it doesn't make me a bad person but it makes me feel like a stupid one. Ha, and even as I'm typing that I know it's not true but it just feels that way, you know what I mean?"

I do indeed know what you mean - see my posts last week!

I don't know if you need a stern pull yourself together type of chat or a sympathetic fluffy one, as I'm not very intuitive about these things (for future reference could everyone put a cross face if they need stern and a sad face if they need sympathy, please).

We've been going for almost two months now and I'd be amazed if we haven't all had the down week by now - you've held off longer than most and lost more weight than most - you have earned your binge. You know the most effective way to treat these depressions - exercise .

The problem with us food addicts is that we equate our relationship with food with some kind of running commentary on our worth as human beings. Even when we know its madness we still do it. I'm not sure that there'e anyway around it - just steam full ahead and you know it will come right in the end. Putting on 1lb, 2lb, or even 5lb isn't going to be what makes the difference in the end but how LONG you stick with it. One of my old WW leaders said that the people who reached goal were always the ones who came EVERY week. No skipping weeks if they thought they'd put on and they just kept coming (bit like the energiser bunny) even when it got old and tired they still kept coming.

That will be you and I - WWB, still here in a years time, plodding away but 5 stone lighter than we were, and if necessary in 5 yrs time too. I'm up for it if you are?