The Paul McKenna Thread Number 12. A Simple Title, for Simple Weight Loss and All amongst Friends!!

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Welcome to thread 12 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting in your mouth, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer clothes!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry ~ NO we're not!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2013 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get into a smaller size for summer, just think how we could look for next Christmas!

Thanks for that veryberrybug fortunately things seem to have improved overnight I think it was partly food and partly psychological. Just hope it works! Hardest for me is always wanting to read/watch tv/mumsnet when eating, giving that up is tricky.

i know what you mean iggi i always used lunchtime to catch up on reading, & sometimes i miss that but then i remember how much more lovely food tastes now that i notice it & i never get that "oh! where did that go?" that i used to, having finished eating without really noticing & being all disappointed that i'd missed out on (noticing) the taste IYSWIM. glad you're feeling better good night all.

That's weird too very I could've sworn I posted in reply to you and thanking you for replying about the VGB. DH is back now.

WRF to the total consciousness while eating; as you really "get" this esp. the chewing every mouthful 15 to 25 times I find I (whispers) don't keep that rule so strictly.

ooh pp that's shocking!! i think it's probably important to do it in the first place so you can get used to listening to your body again. but that's good to know it's not set in stone & you can maintain your size 10 (& falling down troos!!) doing that. i still have our T in front of the telly on a friday, but i've realised that i now remember to tune out from the telly every few minutes & tune in to my tummy, a bit like flicking channels between telly & tummy! but that's only once a week, i couldn't do it more often than that. but also i couldn't veto our family friday treat, it wouldn't be fair on the kids, it's been a tradition they love for years! bet you're glad DH is back.
well i got the phone call i've been awaiting @3am: my friend has gone into labour! so she dropped DS1 here on her way to hospital. but 12h later she's still not got it out ! so we've got a hyper wee boy here for the forseeable have a nice day everyone

veryberry Oh dear about the hyper L.O.! Hasn't your friend got ILS or anyone else to look after him?!

I'm glad DH is back apart from the fact he likes having the AC on ALL the time (annoying 'cos it rained and thundered again last night so it's a bit cooler) i'm a green so prefer to allow my body to get used to the heat which it is and I'm sitting here warmly dressed in the kichen!

Hi ladies,

I agree you have to be practical about the concentrating on eating thing. You can't make the rest of the family sit in silence just so you can be in touch with your inner being. I have lunch alone so I concentrate then and just try to tune out the family occasionally at dinner time but I am not always successful. It is also why I tend to go a bit off track in the school holidays. I don't get my lunch times at peace when the boys are around.

I have a manic hour or two of cleaning today - DS2 has a friend coming round and the place is a tip. Good exercise if nothing else.

Hope you are all OK.

Finally get where you guys are coming from with the hot weather, hot and humid here today and not pleasant at all. Feel like a ball of sticky sweat, not helped by the fact attempted to reinflate the paddl

NotGood where are you ATM?

hello everybubble! aah bed in sight - cany bloody wait! after a 30hr marathon of hyper wee boy i'm totally done in. don't get me wrong, he's lovely, sweet & well-mannered, & no-one could criticise that much unabated sheer enthusiasm for everything! but just the sheer continuity of the energy (i'm used to my girls who have active times followed by quiet times) twinned with the attention span of a gnat, meant i had to be constantly on the ball redirecting him (when i'm used to a bit of direction followed by absorbed activity) after the no getting back to sleep after his 3am arrival i'm so glad i have relatively mellow girls & i'm glad i stopped at two!! pp my friend is from Syria & her family have all fled to Jordan just now, so not really handy for babysitting! so though it was hard work i'd do it all again for her (when i've had some sleep!) because she's lovely & has no-one else here.
amazingly im going to bed not full after visiting DPs aunty mariannes (of aforementionned amazing buffet) because though not 100% conscious all the time what with being sociable, i did remember to check in with satiety level periodically! & refused further food going on the BBQ!! i didn't even look longingly at the 2 dozen krispy kreme donuts DP bought to take with us & give out, cos i just didny fancy one (& all the bloated farty yuk feeling that would follow!) i'm beginning to think i might actually be getting this BBB i know what you mean about nae peace at lunch - same feeling here. when they're at school, just eating lunch is like a little relaxation of it's own. having said that the holidays are fairly flying in, only 2.5 weeks to go!! now they're older they can be such good company though, think i'll probably miss the little darlings when they go back. ask me again in 2 weeks - same answer?!

Evening all! How's things? I have a sleepy munchkin just settling on me after a fun day out in our camper at Clumber Park!

I'm delighted to say yesterday I did a 4k run (well intervals). Left Faithlet with DH and she was snoozing when I got back. Going to try and do it most weekends now, it felt great! :)

faithy well done on the run that's progress indeed! are you happy running in the summer heat though? each time i ran, i started in january & stopped at easter, though for reasons unrelated to the weather (sore knees) i was glad not to be running in heat. even just last week i had to totally slow down at zumba (which i adore flinging myself about at) because i was overheating didny ken whether to drink my water ir pour it over my head!!

BBB i forgot to say, you did totally have me chuckling away to myself at you can't make the family sit in silence just so you can be in touch with your inner being my poor sister's off work sick just now & she said she's "going blind from navel-gazing"!! LOL

pp how's the AC today? i can imagine you sitting in jumper & wooly sox in the kitchen while it's glorious sunshine outside done it myself, but not from AC just our basement tenement flat stays cool with the big old stones.

as for eating? well after a bit of a sugar-craving-cycle on sunday, i got back on track yesterday & today & just had a lovely nap listening to my new pillow-speaker (thanks faithy) i'm listening to "easyloss" just for a change, basically the same principles but a bit more relaxing (sometimes i find Paul speaking 2 different things & trying to count back a bit manic)

Glad the speaker is working for you berry! I don't run when it's really hot to be fair. Saturday we ran about 9am before it got too hot. I went again last night! I ran about 6pm and within minutes of me getting in it rained so it wasn't too hot. I'm trying to focus more on eating well (did an online shop with tasty, healthy snacks so I will have those options) and trying to exercise three times a week. Does DH good to look after Faithlet. Last two times I've come home to a sleeping baby! Also does me good to have time without her!

How is everyone?

Hello ladies. Im sending love from north yorkshire as im on my hols. Totally not pmking atm. Im finally eating proper food, so making the most of it. Hope youre all ok. Catch you soon.:)

Hello ladies.

Solo - enjoy your holidays. Don't blame you for not Pauling at the mo. If you haven't been eating properly you deserve some time off and you can start again when you are ready. You need to build your strength up first.

Veryberry I think I know what your sister means by going blind from naval gazing. I just wish I didn't have to think about 'stuff' sometimes. I wish I was a take it or leave it, happy go lucky sort of a person but I'm not. Defo a navel gazer if given half the chance. I really need to be kept busy for my own safety.

As predicted, the boys are indeed playing havoc with my eating. They are always hungry and they want meals are regular intervals. Gah! Still we are off on hols on Monday so I reckon that will do me a favour as I could end up weighing less. Holidays force me to be more active - we do trips, walk around a lot and we aren't ones for lounging by the pool or on the beach (although I wish we were sometimes) so I probably get more exercise than I do at home. I really should pretend every day is a holiday obviously!

Where's ppeat at the moment? It isn't like her not to post regularly unless she is away but she didn't mention going anywhere, I don't think

ppeat, hope you are OK.

Good morning to everybody. Cooler day here so that is a relief.

And Rules. Not Rules either! Rules hope you are OK too.

Have they gone on hols together? Are they in France secretly indulging in a daily diet of croissant, fois gras and the best vintage or are they both hanging out in Rules's spa on a Welsh mountainside?

Honestly what am i like, i come back, mark my place and then completely forget to come back and make a comment! We'll put it down to brain fog!

Have completely fallen off the PM wagon. And this last week i've eaten everything not nailed to the ground, even the dogs have avoided me in fear. Really need to get back into it. I've added to my PM collection by purchasing the HGB but not sure whether or not i'll use the CD... But was really curious about the book i'd heard so much about. Something needs to change, i'd be happy with a 1/2lb loss a week. Feeling very fat and very self concious. Even worse i'm due to return to work in 3 weeks and i'm a stone heavier than i was when people last saw me so feeling quite nervous about that. I found out on Friday that my project is not being refunded this coming year so i've been offered a part-time post that is quite a drop in money but hopefully will be alright. Also been trying to get my debts sorted out and have sent out offers for a Full & Final Settlement so waiting to hear how that goes....

Anyway how is everyone else getting on? Hope you're all enjoying the nice weather

Hi Ladies,

Im here. The thread has gone awfully quiet hasn't it. Im still working out in my gym. I now do weights for three quarters of an hour one day then a 20min bike ride the next and alternate. Im sure it must be doing some good but it takes time. Usually about 3 months you start to see the difference but scale wise......nothing. Its a dangerous thing to go on the scales when your doing weight circuits because your turning your fat into muscle and muscle weighs heavier so hoping on the scale can actually make you feel gutted so im trying not to do it too regularly.
Im definitely pre menopausal as the bloody night sweats are keeping me up most of the night. Anyone else suffer??? Or is it just me.

Queen I did listen to the hypno tape about 3 months ago and I have to say that I can not eat past a certain point now even if I wanted to. I feel sicky if I do. I have always managed to somehow stick to the 4 rules because overeating really doesn't agree with me but for me the hypno band is definitely like some force that just makes me physically stop before my mind has processed it. I continue to listen to it to re enforce it. Too many people expected miracles with it but it is there to give you an advantage of being more aware of your tummy. You can override it if you wanted to but I cant. I eat mindfully all the time now. I have anything I want but don't overeat. I wouldn't want to ......its my way of life.

hellooo all how's life doing? up here in embra the weather's returned to type: 17-19°c & rain always threatening (but often not coming ) only 1 week 'til kids go back to school! so we're doing the "oh what were all the things we planned to do in the holidays & haven't?" & trying to pack them in. royal yacht britannia tomorrow alongside school-shoe shopping. now DD1 is off to high school it's a challenge to find something that meets strict sch rules & is cool enough! because she's a complete tomboy so no girly buckle shoes, but don't want to get her formal boy sch shoes in case she gets picked on for being boyish (some git already called her a he-she, grrr just let me at 'em). all i can say is thank jiminy for sports bras, cos all the others have little bows etc just too feminine! aargh it's a challenge finding stuff but i'll just do my best cos it's who she is. some all-black skate shoes looked promising

anyhoo, aye it's been quiet on this thread, i popped in & chuckled away at bbb's & queen's comments after laughing about the dogs fear i relate to the "i look so much fatter than last time they saw me" worry, i got an email about upcoming school reunion (20 y!!!) i was only there for a year so didny ken too many out of a 6th year of 200 pupils, but i think about a few of them more than folk i knew longtime in old school. but still, having not been to the 10 y one, i feel there would be more riding on trying to make a good impression if i went to this one. what's that i hear? chicken noises!?!

i think i'm doing ok Pauling, again my bodyfat% had gone down a bit, but i seem to be eating a lot of crisps, chocolate & chips, which can only be slowing my progress. now, though i don't want to put them in the "bad" category (which is no more) as that would sabotage me, i can't help but wonder if i can tweak things somehow so my results are better quicker. any ideas how to do this within PM framework? don't get me wrong, i love the freedom & also choose a lot of salad, but when i was thin i only wanted to eat crap once in a blue moon...

Wow Very your kids are going back in a week??? Our hols only started last week in july and they go back first week in Sept.
With regard to mindful eating tips I would have to say just always do it. Make it second nature and then it doesn't matter what you eat you will only have as much as your need at any given time. That's the signal your body is sending you when you feel just a little bit full and the excitement of eating something has tapered off just a little. Maybe you possibly havnt let go completely with regard to what you call crap. When you were thin crap probably didn't taste all that brilliant so you wernt bothered but after all the years of dieting and now allowing yourself to eat whatever, maybe you still have some "diet" demons left.
If you have a bag of crisps do you always finish the bag or always finish the cake or the sweets or choc.? I open a bag and more often than not I have a few then put them in a container cause I don't want anymore or should I say my body doesn't.

Hi all. Im still up here in the north. My son has annoyed my uncle so much that he went home this morning. I could spit teeth im so angry. Partly because son is so bloody teen agro and obnoxious and partly because I now have to drive mum and the kids home alone on Friday and not looking forward to it because my ME has been/is terrible and I feel better driving with someone else in front on such long journeys.

Son if course thinks hes not to blame for any of this mess. Mums even more annoyed than usual and I feel like pig in the middle here now.
Do they ever improve? Im so hacked off :(

How old is he.

They improve as they get older because they don't rely on you so much and you don't see so much of them ha ha!!!

cheers rules i hear what you're saying. i'll consciously re-ask myself "do i really want this or did i just fancy it cos it was there?" our sch hols always end of june - mid august, scottish ones different to rest of UK. my mum still doesny get it (though she lived in scotland with us at sch for 10 yrs) & i get random texts asking "how's mid-term break" when they're nowhere near a holiday, LOL!

ooh solo what a bugger, that sounds shit. IKWYM about them thinking it's nothing to do with their actions, butter wouldny bloody melt, etc. mines are younger, but i think my parents started liking me better when i was no longer living at home & stropping about how long 'til then? sorry it's pooped on your hols & you're feeling ill too

pp where are you? are you ok?