The Paul McKenna Thread Number 12. A Simple Title, for Simple Weight Loss and All amongst Friends!!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread 12 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting in your mouth, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer clothes!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry ~ NO we're not!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2013 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get into a smaller size for summer, just think how we could look for next Christmas!

Nogood you wouldn't love it here we had a huge thunderstorm but it's go HOTTER since (though we're lucky 'cos of our shutters and AC) The problems occur if we have to go out!

Quite a bit cooler here today, highs of 25 expected but nowhere near now. There is a draught coming through the open patio door.

I think it is due to go back up on Monday so I will enjoy not sweating and maybe even wearing a cardie when we go out this evening!! Hope everybody is feeling better and that the cooler weather is helping.

Well, overnight, I have had a metamorphosis - I am now the mother of a teenager.

Where did the years go and my tiny little 6lb 10oz baby? He seems to have been replaced by a hairy, gangling, deep voiced man child who is taller than me (and lighter grrrrrr). I am no shorty either - 5ft 7". He is lovely though and apart from a few mega tantrums in the last year, shows no particular signs of being the grunty type of teen. Long may that live.

..........And now I have to go and hang out of a window for a bit - a cloud of Lynx body spray has assaulted my nostrils from the downstairs. I wouldn't mind but it is my 9yr old spraying it not the 13 yr old. He is going to be the challenging teen, I can feel it in my waters.

Long may it live.....Yeh right....it's only just begun BB lol!!!!
Another hot one here .Im looking at the sea drinking my panad and its lovely. How far up north are you NoGood

Anyone heard from Solo......

No not heard from Solo. I had a look at FB the other day to see if she had been on there but no, not on her MN account (don't know if she has another one)

I live in hope about DS1 being OK. He has done puberty. Hair grown, voice dropped (and, ahem, other bits). He can be stroppy and as I say, had a few mega tantrums in the last year (his 13th of course so we have been calling him a teenager for a while ) but he is OK. He has never been a boundary pusher. He never really had the Terrible Twos (not perfect but not horrible) so I just think we may get off lightly with him. There have to be advantages to him having mild Aspergers and I am hoping this is one of them.

I reckon we will get double with DS2 though. He is a paragon of virtue at school and everybody raves about him. At home he is an attention seeking, button pusher and very worried about image and being 'cool'. An utterly gorgeous, cuddly mummy's boy too but as stubborn as a mule (don't know where he gets that from ) and inclined to argue (again don't know where he gets that from either)

They will be different - they have been so far so I am hoping that we get a quiet introduction to teenagers with DS1 before the whirlwind of hormones and angst with DS2.

cheers rules & pp glad to entertain you poor ill waifs during your consumption do you find echinacea works? i used to use it but noticed that when the two weeks was up & i'd to stop taking it, a bug would take over me & it had just suppressed the bug not got rid. glad you're on the mend. i think i killed what was trying to rear it's ugly head with cocktails of rum, cointreau, campari, gin &whatever else i could find hurrah it's the way forward!

witty are you near northumberland? it's still roasting up here in embra. my fone weather keeps saying "today 22°c then thereafter 19°c" but each day it updates itself to "actually 27°c" so i keep putting off cutting the straw grass 'til tomorrow but then it's roasting again! 25°c yesterday felt quite balmy!!

BBB OMG we have parallel kids! (well except for the gender & aspergers bit) my DD1 age 12 is mostly lovely but when she gets a bit mumpfy fe hormones she more likely than not just needs some cuddles & sympathy about how hard life is (!!) & a bit of basic reasoning goes down well. however DD2 who's 9 has exhibited all the hallmarks of a primadonna (OMG she's a dancer too), is a fashionista & gives me attitude like you wouldn't believe if i upset her plan of lazing about like royalty with, say, chores or other such evil tasks which are obviously beneath her!! tsh! still love the little darlings unequivocally

have a lovely day everyone

Hee, hee. I wonder if we will be around to hear about each other's 9yr olds hitting 13.

I am not sure the Aspergers has much to do with it except he is pretty immune to peer pressure as he doesn't really have friends which helps. He is very happy with his own company and doing his own thing. He is a happy chap unless he is anxious about anything and then he can be stroppy but if you can work out what might be bothering him then it is often easy to deal with.

Funny you should say a cuddle works with your DD1. As I say DS had a few wicked door slamming tantrums a few months ago. I sent him to his room and he was still ranting a while later. Eventually, I tried to stop shouting back at him and just gave him some sympathy, told him his temper can't have been fun for him either and then gave him a hug and the transformation was amazing,. He calmed right down and was as nice as pie.

Can't see the same working with DS2 except he hates me ignoring him so that might be the way to deal with him. He will not help either with house stuff either unless it ends up being a full scale rant from me. I really do wonder if the school talk about the right boy because he is as nice as pie and eager to help there.

Oh you lucky lot!!! You've got the teen strops to cope with. I always found that withholding pocket money before the housework is done works quite well. DD1 was quite an easy teen (apart from the fact she hated school and was often 'ill'. She still did very well in her exams though.which pissed off her teachers!). DD2 was a bit difficult in that she liked to go out a lot (from young with her sister) loves her friends, she also hated school and wasn't so good at her studies (she has top end dyslexia).

DS was an early developer (and always has been) . Despite us sending him privately he wasn't a great scholar either/ Although with a very high I.Q. his charisma meant that the other DCS followed him into naughty ways (the teachers said that to us) and chucked him out of the private schools. At age 13 There were no spaces in our local comps. He H.E. himself with the help of tutors (who he sometimes wouldn't get up for typical teenager in that respect !). Sorry I'm going on; suffice to say they are all successful in their own ways now!!!!

We're about 30 mins south of Newcastle in lovely (ahem) Hartlepool, we've got 3 gorgeous sandy beaches which never get busy (cant think why, maybe it's the nuclear power plant looming in the distance?!)

Dreading the teen years although you make it sound v easy! DSS is 13 in March, but I think we'll escape the worst of it as he's no bother for us at the moment (we have him weds nights and all weekend) but think his poor mums going to really suffer as they're already clashing on a regular basis. Not helped by the fact that she's convinced there's something wrong with him and has got CAMs involved, he has a few quirks but there's no way he has either aspergers or autism, but I don't think she'll be happy until she has a label for him, poor lad.

I do remember being a teen (and having parents who were not very understanding!) so I was careful to not overreact about anything!!

Well my DD is now 23 and has always been a prima donna, but we get on beautifully now and we are very close. Each morning we have tea in my bedroom and put the world to rights. We go shopping together for clothes and just generally hang out a lot at home! She is naturally clever and has always been top of her class, at school, at college, and is now at Uni. She is getting married next July and Monday we are going to look at Wedding dresses. I just know I shall need a box of tissues with me. DS is my little baby of 21. He and I are close. He talks to me a lot about his feelings. He has always been less prone to tantrums but gets cross if things don't go perfectly. He is sort of 21 going on 18 though. He has finished college and is now in his first job but he is out every night, working every day, he is a skateboarder and organises skateboarding competitions with live music. I took them both out of school in 2003 and home educated them myself for 3 years. They went back into mainstream education to finish high school. They are loving this weather and can be found on the beach most days with friends and then bbq in the evenings. Bless. BB is their a MN facebook page then?

Just saw that Mel Smith has died of a heart attack....bit shocked and so sad. Loved him back in the day. When tv was just 4 channels and no one had heard of mobile phones. Gosh, hasn't the world moved quickly really. We were just kids then.....well some of us ha ha.

Sad news indeed :( RIP Mel.

It's cooler here too, bedroom is 20degrees instead of 24! I'm pleased to report the pillow speaker works a treat! I can hear it, DH can't. Actually it's easier to get the volume right than on my headphones. I'll add the link if anyone is interested.

I had a good day Pauling yesterday. Sat at the table for dinner and threw 1/3 away! Today I have not done so well! Had a BBQ and I stuffed it away. Ah we'll starting again from now. Have a snoozing baby on mr. Will settle her and see if in actually hungry. Might just have fruit.

I was the same with low carbing. I missed carbs! Also it's quite expensive to do and hard to maintain a variety of protein choices, especially at breakfast. I think I will dig my curves book out just for the recipes and snack choices. The principle of 3 meals/2 snacks a day is a good one and thru have good snack ideas.

blimey that's a surprise about mel, mind you he must've been getting on as he was bald (& funny!) when i was just a mere slip of a gel.

aw so lovely to hear you all talking about how your DCs have turned out & have the benefits of all your parenting experiences pp i too remember being a teenager really well & having distant/dismissive not understanding parents, & i hope just that understanding of what it's like having all these strong (hormone-fuelled) feelings (& being a lot calmer than my DM was!) will be enough for me to wing it through. rules boarders tend to be pretty chilled in my experience, in fact on our holiday we met a lovely geordie guy working on the campsite & when we were talking about how well kids mixed irrespective of nationality/race/language (on the campsite we had dutch across the road irish next door & french behind & ours & all played together grand, & at our kids school they've got 70% english=2nd language, 33 languages in one class, yet they all play together) & he said the loveliest thing: "the only borders there should be are skateboarders"! aww it brought out the hippy in me! witty interesting how different parents bring out different (best/worst) bits in the kids, it's true sometimes you need to just stand back & no be part of the problem. it'll be nice for your DSS to have no-aggro time at yours i'd imagine, my goodness teen years are difficult enough to live through when it seems the world's against you, without having a parent making it worse! i hope that my having had teen-goth rebellion & numerous battles with depression & DP dropping out of uni to work in a pub & take dodgy stuff, yet later fund himself through Open University, will give us a bit of understanding to deal with our kids!

faithy i'll admit i still like the curves recipes too, nutritionally sound & tasty (& better when you don't have to count how much you're having!) does the pillow-speaker go inside a normal pillow? yes i'm interested please put the link! i find with earphones i like getting the left & right side bits separately, but then i need to wake up & take them off so i don't garrot mysel in the night! if i just play it out my fone ipod speaker the R & L bits just sound garbled so i dunno if i'm getting it...

Yes you just pop it inside the pillow slip under the pillow. I bought this one. I was surprised how good it was considering how cheap it was!

I can't quite imagine Faithlrt being a teenager yet!

Has anyone heard from kinky lately?

very Mel wasn't old ....he was 60 so very young actually

It is very sad about Mel Smith but I don't think he has been a well man for a while. I think he had a problem with prescription drugs if I remember rightly. Still, a part of my youth gone. Not the Nine O Clock News was one of the first 'grown up' programmes I used to watch as a teenager. It felt a bit naughty watching it, not that I was allowed much as it clashed with the Nine O'clock news....... obviously!

Talking of teenagers, it seems to me the drama queens also seem to the be very bright ones. DS2 is my drama queen and very bright - he's ended yr 4 above where they expect children to be at the end of yr 6 and they are already talking about putting him in for the advanced SATs papers in Yr 6. I just hope he doesn't rebel especially this year when he is very unhappy about the class he has been put in and being separated from his mate. In personality he is a lot like me except I wasn't quite so bright - I was bright but nothing special bright. The other way I was different was that I didn't set myself up to defy people. I used to agree to do things and just not do them (sneaky). DS2 just refuses and causes arguments. He needs to learn my way. But we are both motivated by challenge rather than praise and we are both perfectionists although DS is a lot worse than me for not doing something unless he can do it well. Neither of us recognise our strengths either although I tell him all the time, even if nobody told me. Different era to start with plus my dad is a misogynist and would never admit that I was better at something than he was or that anything I was good at was worth anything. Anyway, if DS ever finds his confidence he could go a long way so that is what I am trying to do - boost his confidence and self belief without making him a big head. I'll let you know how I got on in about 10 yrs!!

Rambling on again.

On the subject of food, I have been out for dinner for DS's birthday. I ate quite a lot, more than I should have done but not uncomfortably stuffed but obviously full. It was very nice though, we were able to take my mum as my dad is in respite care and I am enjoying not being too hot to eat!

Glad you had a lovely evening BBB

Just marking my place. Hope everyone is okay and enjoying the hot weather we are finally having.

Speak to you all soon.

Hi Queen.

Hello and morning everyone are you over the worst now Rules? Iam but still taking it a bit easy! Hey the bug has made me go off chocolate !! Yes thanks for the humorous help through me pain very!

IMO Mel Smith never looked very young (maybe the receding hair and chubbiness) but he's died young though blimey 2 years younger than me! See why I'm on a healthy WOE BB?

When I was a teen my mum and dad were really big on family time, which is obviously a nice thing, but I remember wishing I could have some quality time just me and my mum so we could have a proper chat but it never happened. That's definitely something I'm going to do with both DS and DD, even if its just going shopping together.

On the subject of food, I still use a lot of slimming world recipes as I like the fact the focus is on making everything from scratch, I just don't bother with any of the low fat nonsense or measuring things like cheese - the more the better IMO! Despite the fact that its chilly here and I had half a bottle of wine last night, yet to notice a massive increase in my appetite, or maybe this WOE is actually starting to sink in (fingers crossed!)

Hi Queen

Sorry ppeat had to laugh at your last comment - it was the way you compared yourself to Mel Smith - you have to have healthy eating habits or you could end up like him because you are a similar age. I get that but in my Sunday morning befuddledness, it sounded like there was even more of a comparison to make. Does it mean that you have a receding hairline and are prone to chubbiness? (I know you don't really )

I think his unhealthiness stemmed from the fact he appeared wheezy a lot. I imagine he was asthmatic. I don't know if he was but he did have the problem with an addiction to painkillers apparently.

Still cool here - overcast and grey. I quite like it! I'm not hungry yet but we shall see what effect it has on my appetite today!

Oh yes queen! how's it going?
Well I suppose if I wasn't careful there MIGHT be a slight resemblance but I have a good thick non receding head of hair(though greying on one side so I blonde it up a bit) Iam a natural blonde so it's allowed NO double chin it's on my DH's side of the family though!
The temp here is already 25 in the shade so I'm sitting with doors and some windows open but shutters closed the crickets are chirruping away outside!!

I just remembered his mouth (I have a nice shaped mouth though!!)