The Big Fat List and the Days of Doom (TM) Part IX - The One With A Wedding and Some Weightloss

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Here we are again - new thread time! Can you believe we're on our 9th one?

I've been down to DFS and got us some new squidgy sofas. Feel free to add anything else you like

Sorry to hear about your uncle's news ria hope he is coping well.

I woke up this morning with a very sore neck. I often get muscle spasms so am quite used to it but still hate it. I've ventured downstairs to the kitchen for a cup of tea and some super strength painkillers. I went back to bed though as the tablets literally knock me out. I haven't got to be anywhere until 3 pm so I think I'll get as much rest as I can until then.

thank guys. I don't think he is coping well ATM, he has had a bad few years - my aunt died, then he has losing the sight in one eye, and due to an admin mix-up by the time he got referred (I think it took over a year) they couldn't treat him, and then the prostate op had to be repeated twce. But as you say, hopefully when his meds kick in he will feel brighter. Luckily he isn't on his own as he has met a lovely lady-friend who adores him.

am going to a michaelmas fayre this morning, then to the supermarket to buy ingredients for Nigella's autumnal birthday cake, which I have never made before.

have a lovely saturday

hoe you feel better soon kid, and hope your dd recovers soon tom.

Ooo I've been spotted!

Doing well, thanks. 8 stone so far, in just over a year. I have a new coat to squeeze into (ordered from H&M and it's a very mean 18) so am on a drive to lose another stone in the next month. FX for me please :)

Ria, I'd love to be spending the day with you! I'd live a fayre then cake baking!

Unfortunately I am in bed with a rotten dose of cold/ fluey thing. Topped up on ibuprofen which is burning the guts out of me. Dh has gone into town with ds and my little dd (10.9) is nursing me :)

Kid, hope you feel better soon.

Debka, what a loss!!!! Is it sw?

I'm feeling better now. The high dose pain killers gave me enough movement to shift the spasm plus DS gave me a lovely neck/back massage. I made it out of bed before 12, only just. So pleased I did all the housework yesterday as that means I can just chill today.

Debka 8 stone loss is amazing. Good luck with getting the coat to fit. Personally, I find H&M's clothes to be stingy with their sizes.

FHF, enjoy being looked after by DD. Hope you are all better soon.

glad you feel better kid, hope you feel much better soon FHF.

fayre was a bit pants (though I bought some dragonfly earrings from a dead cheap handmade jewellry stall), but we have been and chosen DS1s new specs finally, and bought the obligatory helium balloon for mums birthday. Have had a snooze with a stroppy DS3, then just having a cuppa and going to do some baking and make the kids pie for tea

Well I'm out of bed and sort of straightened the house!

Am about to jump in shower. Tablets have made me less achey but still missin my girly night tonight cos I can't be near J when her immunity is do low. It's pants, but I insisted they went ahead as she's feeling good today, but may not be if we reschedule.

Had lovely spaghetti and toast [heb] for lunch followed with pineapple, strawberries and Greek mullerlight. Only wish I could have tasted it :)

Am feeling very sorry for myself today, fil is about & he asked ds why we have a courtesy car - ds said his mammy had a car accident and fil laughed :( never asked how I was or anything. Prat. Now this will give him good gossip material for fuckface sil later on.

well done for sticking to plan fhf.

Hello peeeps,.sorry not been about much, hormones been all over the shop since wedding. Kinda wanna go back on pill (would help acne, too) to help stabilise moods, but we're gonna sorta maybe start trying to conceive.

Debka!! Good to 'see' you, how are the kids? Your weight loss is inspiring - you should think about uploading pics to our secret fb group Congratulations!

Tom How is DD now? Horrible when they're poorly

I've got ridiculously low self esteem right now, has really knocked me for six. Usually see the good in everything, but can only see bad right now (still struggling to forgive my Mum for missing wedding ceremony tbh) but am sure I'll snap out of it really soon.

ria A whole shoulder replacement for dh?! That sounds severe. hedge good to see you back. kid well done on exercise classes. fhf Sorry you're poorly, hope you're well soon (hugs) and that you can see your sister soon.

Slinky, great big hugs for you pet, you're usually so upbeat and positive, it's strange to see you low - chin up. Our parents are not our responsibility, I know it's hard to come to terms with the fact your mum missed the ceremony - how does she feel about that?

I stuck to plan slightly Ria, had a few onion ring crisps with the kids when x factor was on, then had beef, green pepper and black bean sauce from Chinese, with boiled rice. I didnt eat it all though.

Dh has gone golfing today, I need bread, soup veg etc, would it be slatternly to drive there in my pjs and let dd run in?

Thanks fhf Feel stupid as I know it's not the end of the world, and there are far more important things to worry about. People have far bigger problems than me, so feel like a spoilt brat. We haven't really talked about it tbh, she sent me a text the other week saying she'd never be able to apologise enough, and that she hopes one day I can forgive her. I said of course I would, but it will take time. She came over for lunch last Sunday and we all just acted normally.

We got the professional photos through on Friday, and after they finally loaded (problems with disc/laptop) instead of being happy and excited, seeing them just brought back all the bad memories again. All I could see was what was wrong in the pics (don't like my dress, or hair, or the room, blah blah) but I guess it's human nature to be over-critical of yourself. Dss (12) said "you're only noticing the bad things because they're your wedding pics, if they were anyone else's you'd be saying how lovely they all are!" and he was so right.

Like I said, hopefully I'll snap out of it soon, and some nice memories will come to the forefront of my mind (there were lots I'm sure, but all I can remember is worrying about my Mum during the ceremony...I just wanted one afternoon where everything ran smoothly and I didn't have to worry about her )

Well even the 'unprofessional' pics I saw on fb looked amazing, so I can imagine how stunning the professional ones have turned out.

We are our own worst critics though, do your lovely ss is correct, what a wee pet.

Your mum knows she has let you down, or it seems like she does anyway, I guess how she remedies it will be up to both of you?

slinky. Probably, because the run up to a wedding is so full-on with organising, and preparation, and anticipation, and you have so much on your mind, afterwards it's probably normal to feel a bit flat. (I am no expert though). Your DSS sounds very astute, bless him. Take good care of yourself and concentrate on yourself and DH and your family stuff, and "lock" all the other stuff away until you feel you can look at it without it being all-consuming. Easier said than done. You looked fabulous and happy, and you have the rest of your lives together to concentrate on.

Hope that makes sense x

just read this thread and feel inadequate now!!!

How do some people plan that far ahead?

So far I have Monday - soup, no idea tue, no idea wed, etc......

Thanks ladies, your kind (and sensible) words do help! I know you can't change the past, only the future, so will focus on that. The main thing of course is that I couldn't be happier with the man I married; he is amazing, puts up with my stupid mood swings and he and the boys make my life complete Will do as you say and focus on us.

"astute" is a very good word for dss; he's also very kind, caring and sensitive. Feel bad for him being a step-kid (ExW left DH for another man about 7 years ago now) as know what it's like to be piggy-in-the-middle.

So, have we all stuck to plan over the weekend? Kept to under 10 syns per day? Feeling all lithe and holy?

Nah, me neither

P.S ria those people on that thread need to get a life! Seriously, I sometimes plan two or three meals out of seven, but the rest of the time I wing it! (or eat round the PIL's....!)

Well, I have vodka & a bowl of crisps, which doesn't add up to under 10 syns

Last night, three of us (myself, dh and a friend) got through four cans of scrumpy jack and four, yes four, bottles of wine...whoops! Then today I went to a baby shower and binged in a bid to cure my hangover.

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Tonight I will pray I turn into a rabbit, and enjoy the salad I will force myself to eat all week.

I'm just finishing of the last of the wine tonight. Well I helped finish off the white wine and am now having the last glass of rose wine. I am at the gym tomorrow for a 45 minute step aerobics class. If for some reason it is cancelled, I'll use the gym instead.

I am really struggling to plan my meals, I need to plan them before I do shopping rather than try and shop from memory and then try and come up with some meals with the food I bought. My plan to eat loads of extra fruit and veg hasn't happened yet, but I'm still thinking about it.

Slinky, I know several people who have felt a bit low after their weddings. I think its because you put so much time and effort into making the day perfect that when its all over, you have nothing big to look forward to. Its perfectly normal and will pass.

dreading DoD this week, have an inkling TotM is looming, plus being bad with food/not eating properly, I would say it's not looking good... I would try speed soup or speed curry or bee's colonic pie, but I have a school trip on Wednesday, and don't fancy repercussions when on a bus with 23x 6 year olds, and as I've never tried either before I can't predict the affects! I'll just have to take the bad WI and deal with it next week.

feeling pretty grim just now, off to bed. I may have to spend all day tomorrow knitting as I'm trying to make my first-ever knitted item for my Mum's birthday on Tuesday. (She is making my DS1 a hat, and I have been watching completely in awe and bewildered, but I'm having a go try and impress her!)

Night all x

I'm on that thread. I do need to plan that far in advance as time is short in the week. And it saves money

Had a pretty crappybweekend all round.

slinky you looked gorgeous in your photos. It is such an anti climax after especially after what happened with your mum. Just take one day at a time with her and try and focus on the bits of the wedding you enjoyed / mattered the most.

it's not the planning part of it Tom, just some of the meals seemed a bit "special" for an ordinary weekly meal-plan IYSWIM. Some menus read like something DH would put on a function menu!!! I'm all for planning ahead to be organised and save money. Maybe it is the boringness of my meals that makes my kids so miserable!

Ha! Sorry Tom. I only had a very quick look at the thread, and also thought some of the meals looked quite 'posh' for everyday/week meals. But I'm common as muck so would be too embarrassed to write down 'potato smiles and tinned spaghetti

As ridiculous as this sounds, I think I have spent quite a lot of the past four weeks feeling as if I'm 'grieving' for the wedding day I should have had, IYSWIM? Hindsight is a wonderful thing, wish I could change the past, won't ever get the chance to do it again, blah blah. Plus have felt awkward when people at work/baby groups etc have asked how everything went. I just smile and say "fine thanks!" even if I don't really think that. At least our mini-moon was wonderful.

Why did you have a crap weekend Tom? Cos dd was so poorly? How's house move going?