The Big Fat List and the Days of Doom (TM) Part V - Once we were plump but now we are thinner, and looking forward to our Christmas Dinner! (Also incorporating the New Year weigh in confession thread)

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So, here we have our nice new little thread. No food type is banned from being mentioned. It is Xmas afterall . So pull up a comfy chair, I've put a good film on the telly for you, put some logs on the fire and laid out some snacks. We have stollen, mince pies, chocs, shortbread, smelly cheese and crackers, wine and baileys.

Feel free to add anything else!

This thread will self destruct later in the new year, so don't worry about confessing to eating naughty nibbles, or putting on the odd pound (or 8).

Enjoy, and Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

pimpy Do not despair. Its the second week weigh in. Its always crap. We know this from the biggest loser. Stick with it pal, plan B is def the way to go.

No worries pixie, I am around all next week if you need a sympathetic ear.

This weather sucks. What to do today? I got the bloody delivery time wrong for our shop. So we missed baby group and our food delivery isn't until 5pm. Now what to do all morning? I guess I could get the ironing done?

TSP I'm voting for water retention. I'd say, try the way you're doing it for another week. If the result is the same, tweak what you're doing. Please don't get down about it though . You have a fab goal in mind (I'm not talking about being a 10st fox, which obvs you will be anyway).

Now then - may I swear? I know I don't normally, but here it comes:

Oh fucking bastard H.

Skip the next bit - it's all me me me (sorry )

Now, I should know by now that if I check something I shouldn't look at, I'm going to find something I don't like. And yes, I shouldn't talk about it here and you lot must be sick of sitting there thinking "and you're still with him WHY?".

Just looked at his facebook. He sent a "customer" a message saying that he was at the Arsenal game on Sunday (didn't realise he'd cloned himself), and saying he'd be at the pub 1 minute down the road from here from 3pm on Monday if she fancied going in for a drink (he got home around 6pm that night). Also a message from another woman in the village yesterday saying "have you got a catalogue, bring it with you tomorrow" Eh?????

Naughty me for looking, but oh my heart has just sunk to my toes.

I may as well glue bristles to my arse and lay down in front of the door. So the question of the day is, do I wait for the housing thing to get sorted and try and salt away (God knows how) a bit of cash? If I say anything about this to him face to face he will get nasty and shouty.

On Monday I took £40 at the ATM. I never have any cash, have to ask for money to pay playgroup etc. He has said in the past the joint account is for both of us. I got questioned as to why I'd taken it, and told we now couldn't book our holiday that night etc etc, but there was still relatively plenty available!

Sorry. I really should do a seperate thread, but I don't want lots of random bods piling in saying leave the bastard.

Ok, so just spoke to him on the phone. Claims he pretended to be at the game because she's a fan and like to talk about football (she's 68 apparently - not that that makes it right). And that he's working on her car and it was so she could give him the keys to save him walking up. Also claims he didn't have a drink and swore on our children that he didn't. I didn't dare mention the other part.

I should delete all that really, but hey ho.

Bee Just to say that I have read that and sworn viciously and will be back later, but am being given the Padding Stare by the boss and must provide him with whatI should have done last week. But couldn't read and not pause to give you and a returned bear hug.

Oh fucking hell bee.

Fucking Twat.

What do YOU honestly think / believe he is up to?
I'm going to have a think before I write.

Right, Boss is briefly occupied elsewhere.

I realise I have probably missed out on some earlier discussions about this so others will have better advice than me. But there is something that occurs to me. I know this sounds really really odd, but can you work out what you want from your future FOR YOURSELF, rather than responding only to what your husband does or throws at you?

I know it seems bonkers to try and make decisions about things whilst setting aside the very events that demand you make the decision in the first place. But I think women (mostly women) sometimes fall into the trap of just responding to stuff rather than gripping the situation by the scruff of the neck and saying, "Fuck you, I deserve better, I will have better, I can have better, and I don't care what you do or don't do: This is now about ME and what I WANT now".

That's probably absolute guff. But I just wanted to say, that you DO have power here. Oh and a pox be upon him.

I think you need to think long and hard about you want for yourself. Just you. This is your life, you only get one shot and bein happy is the most important thing of all.

I'd walk, without a second glance. But then I've left a man who made me miserable after 8 years together. And now I'm very happy with a wonderful man. So I have the benefit of hindsight.

Oh Bee. I have no real advice to give as there is just no simple, decent answer. A massive massive problem in the situation is that every time something like this happens your heart sinks - so its as if you are just waiting for the worst to happen all the time which is no way for a person to live But on the other hand, and this is thoroughly depressing, at my lowest moments last year I realised that I financially couldn't leave DH no matter how bad thngs got. I have no savings, big debts and no one to help with the baby. How would I live if I left him? I imagine you are in much the same place, although the fact that you are in the housing system already is probably a plus. So its not just so simple as "chuck the bugger out" is it?

I'll second the pox though. May his bits drop off etc.

"A massive massive problem in the situation is that every time something like this happens your heart sinks" - sorry, thats a bit muddled. What I mean by that is, you don't think "Oh weird, what the hell is that about", you think "Oh fuck, I've just discovered him cheating" - which says a lot about the view you have of him, how you think he would treat you and how you expect this relationship to end.

Thanks lovelies.

Cheese I honestly wish I knew. There haven't been any, ahem, relations in our house since... mid October. Bloody hell, didn't realise it was that long ago! He would blame ds for that, but falling asleep at 9pm doesn't help either.

I think he's doing the secret drinking thing. When he swore on the dc that he wasn't I told him not to, so he swore on me instead . Like that'll make me believe anyway.

But why invite someone down, female or not for a drink, and then claim he didn't have one? That's like saying ds could sit in a pile of choccy buttons and not eat one.

I am very confused.

Sorry x-posted with you all.

I'm almost in tears, you lot are lovely. Just had him on the phone crying and saying he loves me. Guilt perchance?

Anyway. I'll respond when I can later. Got to go and pick dd up from playgroup and then on to the council, then Sainsbo's. I shall however think very hard about what you've said. Yes, my life seems to be all about responding. I think I lost the real me years ago.

Bloody hell, this is waaaaaay too deep for a Wednesday morning!

Can we talk about chocolate oranges now?

(But honestly, thank you )

I fucking love choc oranges

Hmph

Tears and protestations of love are all very well and he may well mean it.

But it's not enough if you are left feeling shiteous on a comparatively regular basis.

I never manage to bang chocolate oranges in the right way. You're supposed to do it so that it falls beautifully into a sort of glossy chocoalte flower, right? Does it fuck as luck. EIther I break the furniture or I'm picking shards of chocolate out of my cleavage for days

Does it fuck as like, I mean, but I do like that version

I don't try and break them up, I bite into them like an apple

Har! Champion!

Here anyone got any ideas for motivational websites to keep us all enthused??

Success stories, blogs, that sort of thing?

I follow a couple of style blogs and fall to sleep at night dreaming I too can one day wear mini-dresses and stack-heeled Louboutins

....I want and demand a weight loss blog written my someone exactly like me, but 2 months ahead of my 'journey' (). Anyone? Anyone?!

Good idea but I'm crap at blog following. No idea.

I def haven't just eaten 1/2 DDs mini hot cross bun

Bee, I am so sorry. It must be hard for you. On the one hand your DH is being lovely and helping M with lifts to the hospital etc when her DH isn't able/willing to and on the other hand he's acting like a total twat. I can't offer any advice, so will instead just say I am thinking of you. Also, that I hope M's DH is able to come to terms with what is going on and support her much more. So much going on for you right now.

Pixie I am sorry you're having a hard time. I also live away from my family as my DH is in the army and it can be hard at times I know, plus it can make things that are already hard even harder. It's a total pile of shite your boiler has now packed in too! Does that mean you have no heating or hot water at all? Hoping not. I agree that seeing your GP may be the way forward (although obviously no help with the boiler!).

Cheese, sorry your loss wasn't good. Are you sure you haven't been biting into whole chocolate oranges this week? Maybe things are evening out after such a fabulous loss last week?

Dorothy and TSP, sorry you didn't have great wiegh ins this week. Even more annoying TSP when you can't work out why. Hopefully you can get motivated again and next week will be much better.

I am feeling much more motivated this morning and although I do know 3lb off is good really (and I started a few days before going to group, so overall have probably lost more than that) I am going to eat as many superfree foods as I can this week and walk myself and the dogs half to death and see if that helps. I had already walked to Asda and started soup making by 10.30 am this morning. I think todays menu will be a bit like:

Breakfast: melon and thawed summer fruits (well, it was exactly like that actually! )

Lunch: syn free roasted red pepper and tomato soup with wholemeal bread. (HExB)

Dinner: more soup then Gammon and a HUGE salad and a few syn free potato wedges. Maybe a mullerlight.

Snacks are going to be fruit/veg sticks and my HExA is 375ml of skimmed milk.

I wasn't measuring my milk last week and having measured it this morning (and been on semi skimmed not skimmed last week) I think I was definitely going over on my milk, so I am being stricter today. I'm going to do EE this week, but erring towards red days too.

Have a 'thing' on 3rd Feb and it will be mine and DH's first night out together since our DD was born, so want to lose as much as possible before then.

Oh, and on the subject of chocolate oranges, my DH has one in the freezer and keeps having one segment a night. I keep seeing the blasted thing in there every time I open the door and it's making me want it!!!

One segment at a time midori? Blimey, he deserves a medal for his amazing will power. I am hoping its all period related this week and next week will be better. I should prob watch the milk thing too. You sound really motivated, tres bien!

haven't read the thread as been on placement this morning, but as for the bit that jumped out -

* bee*

will catch up later after band practice.

Happy doomsday everyone who are we PM-ing this week? I might be late as going to see Dsis and rant about her X-H after the rehersal.

Me ria

I sts the same this week but I don't mind as I had a most enjoyable weekend with chocolate cake, chips, burgers and loads of junk!

I am in a bit of a dilemma about tomorrow though as I have to go to work and I have furniture being delivered at some point during the day. I had arranged for someone to be here but they just backed out so I have to come up with some alternative by 8:30am Trying not to worry about it right now as there is nothing I can bloody well do but I can say I am so not impressed.

It was me that recommended the spaghetti carbonara, DH and DS loved it but requested that I did a bit more bacon with it next time. There was loads of bacon in it, but most of it ended up on my plate

I haven't read thread properly yet, have to pop out to collect DS and then decide what to do for dinner. At least we have loads of food in the house, for the time being anyway.

o dear o dear o dear

I was walking home from work - which is 3.5 miles so not that far - and got a bit wibbly. No idea why, as I had a 450 cal lunch

Anyway there was a bit of an accident in an oriental food store and I ate some weird Japanese snack thing that involved dipping long thin biscuits (stamped with pictures of cute animals and observations such as MOLE IN A HOLE!) in a pot of gooey strawberry gunk.

I thought it was only 160 cals but misread, so I am 320 cals over AND have just eaten some almonds.

Starvations rations for me tomorrow, I think!