Paul McKenna's Successful Eating Thread (part 5)

[SoloIsAHotCougar]

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONCIOUSLY
4. STOP when you are satisfied

I've C&P'd part 4's links as they are helpful.

Here is the book on AMAZON which is all you need to get started!

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful for cravings.

Please feel free to join us

No, I'm a Prison Officer pp

Yes, I think we should start again :)

Solo
Right. It's going to be tough. But so are you. Get yourself onto a money management website or use the Martin Lewis money tool to help with your budget. Go to CAB and explain that you and family are going to be living on £8pm for food and what can you do about it. Life is going to dump on you and you have to fight back. Try every avenue before admitting defeat. Someone may be able to help.

hugs and good luck. Hope things take a turn for the better soon

Thanks all for the exercised, would be lovely to get rid of bingo wings. Is that even possible? Weigh in day this morning, am now at a total weight loss of 19lb, which is great. Have got to the point now that I have lost enough to start seeing a difference which is motivating. However, baby bump will no doubt ruin this soon

DingDong :) I can't cut down any further. I already manage (if you can call it that) on £35pw for food...There are things I can cut out...Cable tv, but no picture on terrestrial tv without it; internet, but Ds needs it for homework/I need it as it's my entertainment :( and car, but I will need it when i return to work to ferry kids around at unspeakable hours of the day and night.

I could try to sell my body, but would probably have to pay someone to take it, so that's a non starter...

Let's face it. I'm damned if I do, I'm damned if I don't.

There is a solution out there somewhere Solo. There must be something that hasn't been thought of yet. Don't be disheartened. It will sort itself out. I think going to the CAB might be worth a go for some free advice though.

Could you swap your cable for a Freeview box by the way? Only possible if it isn't part of a phone/internet/cable package but it is a one off payment and then that is it.

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it better for you. It must be so energy sapping to have all this on your mind all the time.

Dingdong I think bingo wings are in part at least genetic and it really pees me off when I see massive great women, much bigger than me with decent arms so I think there is a limit to what can be done - like being pear shaped or apple shaped, some put weight on their arms and some of us don't. I would just like my bingo wings to fit into the same size clothes as the rest of me! I wouldn't have thought that was much to ask was it!!?

Solo i admire prison officers even more esp. as you've obviously got a sense of humour (which is probably nec.!). is your ex giving you financial support? apologies if you've mentioned him before but this is a very busy thread.

How's it going today? i've done okay so far.

Yes bingo wings are probably a bit genetic but try that exercise Niecie I find it's tightening up my muscles nicely.

I am really low today. I have fibromyalgia so in pain every day. Depression so on pills that mess with my ability to lose weight. I am taking the kids to school and then sleeping. DH thinks I have sleep apnea and has just said I need to exercise. I told him he hasn't done any for ages and he said "I'm not over weight." He has said sorry for upsetting me but he and I both know he is right. I have really bad food issues and just want to curl up and die cry.

hi can i join this thread? I know page 32 is a bit late! Been Paul Mckenner ing for a whole 4 days and am doing well with the no craving thing tho mildly peed off that the excess 2 stone I am carrying hasn't already melted away!! Not read the book but listening to the tapes each night. Interested in the arm exercises as that is my worst part...can't believe i've put on a stone in the last year

I need to keep motivated- I am ok until my period arrives and then it all seems to go wrong. I guess that will be the proof that its working....

Welcome Jinxediam - It is never too late to join in. It sounds like you have got off to a good start. I think we all have issues around certain times of the month. It's a bummer being female sometimes although if we were male we wouldn't be able to access threads like this so swings and roundabouts! Feel free to join in any time you fancy.

FAB - wish I could wave a magic wand for you too. You sound so miserable. Are you able to exercise at all? Does it help your fibromyalgia if you can manage it? It sounds like a catch 22 - you need to exercise to feel better but you can't exercise as you feel so ill. I really don't know what to suggest. How is the eating going? Are you getting anywhere with the book and CD? Do they even help?

Oh damn it, I know it isn't the done thing but have a ((((((hugs))))). You sound like you need one. We are happy to listen if you want to off load.

Right come on girls, we can do this. I was feeling really down yesterday because here is the warm weather, and once again I cannot wear lovely flimsy, floating clothes that will keep cool. Humph. But there is no point being angry, and if I get my act together now then at least I can be feeling better before August comes.

solo - that sounds a horrendous situtation :( Is there anything else you could do with your experience to earn more? Is there career progression for POs or is that it? Could you work only part-time and therefore still qualify for some help?
Do you have any equity in the house? Is selling up and renting a possibility? Not great I know.... Local food bank? I know that wouldn't be a long term solution. I'm assuming that you'll be earning too much to get any CTC? I don't know what the thresholds are.
In principal I agree about parents going back to work once kids are in school rather than remaining on benefits, but more thought needs to be given to provision of before and after-school childcare, and to bring it in when youngest is 5 is very soon. 7/8 would at least give parents a chance to train for better paid jobs. We need to move to an american model, or copy what the private schools do and effectively offer wraparound childcare on school sites if parents are really to have the freedom to work rather than trying to find ways to remain state reliant.

ppea - you would fall over laughing if you could see into my house when I am trying out your exercises. Flailing various bits of myself, trying to work out whether I'm doing them right

I am an all or nothing girl.

If I felt I looked better in my gym stuff I would take the kids to school in it then come home and exercise. What puts me off is all the palava of having to change and shower and get redressed. That is the morning gone and I have been sleeping so much in the day at the moment which I have never done.

DH has ordered me the CD and thinks it will come tomorrow and I have just joined the M&S health programme. I tore a page from their magazine which listed ideas for what to eat, giving 1000 calories which left room for treats. I need to eat 1600 calories a day. Going on what I have eaten in the last week my carb in take is too low (20.25% when should be above 30%), Fats and sugars are too high (41.79%, when over 8% is not good), dairy is just right (10.12% - 15-17% is best), fruit and veg is below 33% so too low at 17.72% and protein is just right at 10.13% when 12-15% is recommended.

Just done 50 minutes on the rowing machine. Phew.

OMG original DON"T GO OFF THE MCKENNA PLAN TO START CALORIE COUNTING WHICH WE KNOW WON'T WORK IN THE LONG TERM!!!!!

Have you tried taking the DCs to school in your jeans and forget the redressing\showering afterwards?(Just a quick wash in the places that need it!!!)

Also (sorry to go on) are you looking at glucosamine chondroitin and cutting out acid forming foods like oranges. tomatoes and vinegary stuff for your pain? 'cos I KNOW it works.

Ali Why would i laugh? It's fab you're doing the exercises, everything takes a time to get used to and you'll get much better and more muscle defined the more you do them.

I have just bought some nice salads and soups.

What is glucosamine chondroitin? I don't eat oranges, tomatoes or vinegary things very often but will cut them out completely.

I just feel like I am losing my way as I have a lot emotionally and mentally going on.

Hi all.

FAB you know I fully understand the pain you are in; I'm wondering if my own pain is Fibro actually ~ to go with my ME. 50 minutes on the rowing machine is far more than I'm capable of so very well done there!
BTW, I'm an all or nothing girl too.

I'll try to answer all you questions etc in one lump.
I will earn too much for CTC and I used to get £545 a year in WTC but I think I may not get that anymore.
Dd's father gives me £200 a month, Ds's father, nothing; never has. Can't afford to go to CSA, but then again, the IS people haven't caught up with him yet, so it's unlikely I will.
TV, internet and house phone is one package.

If I send Dd to breakfast and after school clubs, I've got to rely on Ds to get her up and get her there/pick her up. He can't get himself up and he can be absolutely horrible to Dd and that's when I'm there so Lord knows how he'd treat her when I'm not. I also think that just having started school full time, it's a hell of a lot for a 4/5 year old to have to go to a before and after school thing too. Those clubs are apparently £16 a day together too...

I really don't know what I can do, but just being able to have another 12 months off work, would make both my Dc's 12 months older too, which could make so much difference.
I can only go part time in my job by doing 20 hours, so would still be earning too much to get more than a few quid in help and the way Dave is cutting things, I more than expect him to chop that help away too.
Don't get me wrong. I've always worked. I worked from age 16 for 27 years before claiming any kind of benefit at all. I've always paid my way, my taxes etc. So now I'm asking for help to continue to work and I don't see a way to do it that would ensure my children are safe and happy whilst leaving me with enough money to actually feed and clothe them and pay the bills.

And to top off how crap I feel; I've just found out that a childhood friend died last year and my family wasn't told...I just want to sob with everything in my life.

And I've lost some poundage this week.

As you were!

Sorry for your loss of your friend .

Well done on the weight loss.

Thanks FAB.

Solo I hadn't realised that you had the option to wait another year before going back. I would definitely take that if i was in your position - hope you didn't think I was trying to persuade you to go back for the sake of it!
I'm all for working if you can, but to leave yourself unable to feed your kids is not an option.

Yes and I too am sorry for the loss of your friend :(

Ali, work don't have to grant me the last year, but if they do, then I'm not sure what the legalities are of me claiming job seekers allowance when I am already employed, but not earning iyswim? DC wants us back in work when our youngest turns 5. Dd will be 5 at the end of December. I'm just not confident that I can trust my Ds to do what I need him to do...also, from what I've seen online, there's no breakfast club available! What the hell do I do?!!

But you're ill Solo Surely it would be best to stay off any work for you and the DCs? And a big UNmumsnetty hug from me !!! also congrats on getting back on P.M. IFYSWIM!!I'm over next week if yr LO is over the C.P. maybe meet?

Glucosamine chondroitin is a supplement, they prescribe it here (from any chemist and or health food shop) It helps, removes, all aches and pains if you look it up on the Earth Clinic site along with yr ailments it'll explain more.

I just remembered another thing you can do to help arthritisy pains; always eat fruit when you're hungry, easy on P.M. This works because most fruit is semi digested and just rots on top of a normal meal giving out toxins, causing reflux, indigestion. aches and pains etc. My sister (who usually ignores me!) does this now and immediately felt better!

Oh and welcome jinxie How are all you newpaulies getting on?

Solo, sorry to hear about your friend, and that life is feeling a bit crap at the moment for you.
Is there any CM you could give less money to for before and after school care, which could well be cheaper and would not be relying on DS to do it? Or another mum with DC at the same school?

I am plodding along here ok. AF arrived this week again and I have not been half as bad as I was last month, so I am pleased. I am still heading in the right direction and I think I should meet my next big step by the time we go on holiday in 19 days time.

I cant remember who it was who was going back to calorie counting, alongside Pauling, sorry, I cant find the post right now, but I remember reading it. Anyway, this is totally not Pauling and I would really recommend not doing it! The freedom of Pauling is what has kept me going. In the past i would enthusiastically diet and think it was all good, for a while, then would get despondent when I stopped losing so much each week, or whatever, I would then spectacularly swing the other way and eat everything that I ahd not been allowed to for weeks and that would be the end of another attempt ending in feeling like a failure, putting on more weight, etc, etc.
No food is now banned, so I dont feel deprived in any way.

This week I have run out of soft fruits that I have been eating loads of and I have found that I am eating other stuff, while fancying srawberries/rasberries/blueberries and not being satisfied at all. Today I am off to fill my fridge again.

Have a good day everyone.

Can you claim incapacity benefit or whatever it is called these days?
It seems daft that you can't work when you want to!
I do think the chop off at aged 5 is too draconian. It gives parents no time to get kids settled in school before finding a job.

Do you have a mortgage or rent?
God I really feel for you and I wish there was something I could do

and I just lost a very long post grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!