Paul McKenna's Successful Eating Thread (part 5)

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The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONCIOUSLY
4. STOP when you are satisfied

I've C&P'd part 4's links as they are helpful.

Here is the book on AMAZON which is all you need to get started!

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful for cravings.

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Oh, that cycle! yeah, do it after.
I aim for first thing in morning, after my wee and before I've eaten or drank anything, but don't pay too much attention when I'm coming up to my period. Which reminds me, I really need to go to the doctor. Remember my thread the other day? Well, now I'm having a full paeriod, 2 weeks after the last one finished.

Bleeding between periods does need checking out. Good luck.

Thanks FAB
I will go Thursday.

I also wanted to ask you guys something O.T.
I'd like opinions
Dp isn't divorced from his x-w, and in true lazy man fahion, he can't be arsed with the hassle of getting divorced so we can marry, so I've been thinking about changing my name by deed pole.
I would like to get married, but it's not a massive issue that he doesn't, but I would like to feel like we are a proper family and I'd like the same name as everyone else in my home.
I'd like to be able to call my son's nursery and say "this is SilveryMoon Jones" and have them know what child I will be talking about instead of saying "this is SilveryMoon Adams, Ds Jones's mum" iykwim.
I've asked dp what he thinks and he's not bothered as long as I talk to my dad first.
I'd like him to think it's nice that I want to make another commitment to him (other than his children).
What do you think?

Why does he feel you have to talk to your dad first?

If you want to marry him I would hold out for that tbh as he might not see the point if you change your name by deed poll.

He just wants me to ask my dad if it's ok to ditch his name, although I'd lose my maiden name on marriage anyway.
My dad will be fine, I was going to speak to him about it anyway.
Tbh, I'm not overly fussed about the marriage, we both have wills in place to cover the other one if one of us died.

Do what you feel is best for you and what you want.

Thanks fab.
Just spoke to my dad and he said he'd rather me change my name by getting married, but that from the day I was born he expected me to lose his name at some point.
He also thinks dp's name is a shite one, lol. Which it is!

Propose to your fella!

He seems to care what your father thinks. use this to your advantage!! (sparkly bits, new dress, party!!)

Yeah, but do isn't divorced yet and has no interest in doing that either.

Silvery - why isn't he bothered about divorcing? It is very easy, half an hour with a solicitor will do the job unless there are assets to divide and DCs to consider.
DH was married before me, and was separated but not divorced when we met. I refused to even go on holiday together until he had the decree nici (sp??) through because his ex would have been considered his legal next of kin.

Propose! And then we can help you find a lovely wedding dress for your new, slimmer self

This evening I have exercised :)

Please can I ask - when Paul says 'imagine doing the things you do in your daily life as a slim person', what do you think of?

That would be great Ali I can't wait to get slim clothes.
Dp is just one of them that needs everything done for him, it's like having another child! He can't even order a curry, nevermind try and organise a divorce.
He did look into it a couple of years ago, but we couldn't afford it then. He wants his ex to split the cost with him.
he then thinks a wedding would be too much even though I said I'd be more than happy with a charity shop dress, a registry office, 2 witnesses and then our friends could join us at an all you can eat pizza hut buffett and pay for themselves!
Doesn't have to cost more than a arriage license and then the cost of reg office. He has a suit. I have seen some reasonably priced dresses on ebay. God, I'd even do it im my little miss naughty nighty! as long as he was there, with a sterling silver £10.99 ring from argos. Happy days!

I think of doing the housework , walking ds1 to school, just sitting down and being comfortable with my body

Alibaba - I think of running on the beach with the DSs a bit like in some suntan lotion ad. Not that I have ever run on the beach, nor do I ever think I ever will! Very cheesy.

I also think of walking to school although in my mind's eye I only see me from the back. Of course my entire body shape has changed, I am several inches taller and I have the figure of a supermodel so I suspect, I might possibly be a tad disappointed when the reality doesn't match the dream.

Silvery, what about if you arranged all the paperwork for your DP so all he had to do was sign? I don't know how possible that is - presumably he would have to have some input in the process. Or is it the idea of getting married again that is scaring him rather than the effort of divorcing? Is he perhaps thinking, if it ain't broke, don't fix it?

Changing your name by deed poll doesn't stop you getting married in the future. And then we could all come! It would be a great goal - for us all to have got to our target weight for your big day and wearing lovely new frocks and crying into our hankies!!

hehehehehe Niecie
His ex got engaged last year so she asked for the marriage certificate so she could do the divorce, so I sent it off to her, then her and her fella split so he's need to get it back from her.
Suppose I could look into it on his behalf.
Him and his ex were together for 9/10 yrs before they got married. They'd had a big row and he asked her then because he knew that's what she wanted and to make the row all better and make her happy , 2 yrs later he'd walked away after repeatedly suspecting her cheating and catching her at it a few times.
Me and dp have now been together for 5 years and I can completely understand his reluctance to do it again in fear of another breakdown.
I don't want to change my name to his without his full and proper permission, but when I tried to talk to him, he just said if that's what I want, and when I asked how he felt, he said he didn't have any strong feelings about it, that I could if that's what I wanted as long as I checked with my parents first, which I then did, they are fine, now just gotta give him a few days.

Silvery - Good luck!!!

Ali - I stupidly think of myself in work . I have tried to be more adventurous and think of myself in social situations wearing something nice, looking in a mirror and seeing a nice slimmer "normal" body.

DD3 cooked dinner last evening, which was lovely, but finished off with a chocolate pudding with chocolate sauce. I had a small ish piece, but then felt very icky! Went for my swim, though, so feeling righteous good, but hungry this morning.

Have a good day everyone.

Name is changed.

When Paul says 'imagine doing the things you do in your daily life as a slim person', what do you think of? Well, Alibabaandthe80nappies, the first thing that comes to mind is sex. For the first time since before DD was born 3 years ago I felt comfortable being completely naked in front of DH the other night and with the lights on. Usually I'd wear a skimpy vest top or negligee type thing but now I'm getting leaner I'm getting more confident and it really made for a better sexual experience as I lost all my inhibitions (TMI? Sorry if so!)

I also think of myself sitting down laughing with my friends and family over lunch at a restaurant and not even being conscious of my belly or if I look fat or if my clothes are disguising my body sufficiently. In my mind's eye I am simply enjoying the moment (wearing fab and trendy clothes - all of which are in my wardrobe, many items of which I am now able to wear again!).

SilveryMoon, your message of Tue 31-May-11 22:26:38 suggests to me strongly that you want to get married! I say, push push push - make all the plans, tot up the costs, investigate quick divorces and present him with all the facts. If you give up your name before marriage, they'd be even less point for him to get married. But, as ever, this is my opinion as I am a great believer in marriage and wouldn't have stayed with DH if he hadn't proposed . You must do what you, deep down, feel you really really want. And as another poster has said, you can still get married (if you want) further down the line even after you've changed your name .

X-posted with you Silvery. How do you feel ?

Wow Silvery .

I feel good. Happy. Now I'll have the same name as my dc's which is what I wanted more than anything else.
Bssh I do think you're right though, and it'd take me to sit down and put all costs and plans on paper for him to see.

Go for it, Silvery - you've nothing to lose . Congrats on the name change too.

Yes Silvery I agree with Bssh. When can i buy a new hat?!!!?

Wow, well done Silvery! That is great news.

Have you been practising your new signature?

Hi Ladies!!! Congrats Silvery :) by the way, you don't need the marriage certificate to get divorced. I still have my 2nd one and my ex2 did his own divorce without it because he wanted to remarry. I wasn't going to do it because I couldn't afford to, but actually, you can do a DIY divorce for about £100 which is what he did.