Am going to stop eating crap and lose 4 stone. Want to help me stay on the straight and narrow?

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That's it really. Need to lose 4 stone, have failed at every diet I've tried so am going back to basics - 3 low fat meals, 2 healthy snacks, 2 litres of water, more exercise.

I have to do it - on a serious note, have two gorgeous DCs and I want to be fit for them - this weight is not good for me and I know that I'm putting myself at risk of heart trouble, diabetes etc etc - and what's more, I want to wear a size 12 again - instead of size 20 for fuck's sake.

Have failed on all the summer weight loss threads so am hoping that starting my own will spur me on! So anyone with me? Or just want to come and shout at me when I want a chunky kit kat?

welcome back Rugby :)
Tis friday ladies - how is it?

I managed 2lb which is ok but had hoped for more mid week - ah well.

12st 6.5 is probably the lowest since 2006!

Well I've managed to get rid of 2lb since last Saturday so I am really pleased . Now 14st 3lb. I'm really pleased because I've been too tired this week to do any real exercise.

Well done Flo, 2lbs is great .

Wow - well done Florence. 2lbs is great but being lighter than you have been for over 4 yrs is even greater.

I am 1.5lb down and also hoped for better this week but unfortunately, the school governors' meeting I went to last night ran on longer than I had hoped (should have expected it really as we have just had an Ofsted) so all I managed for tea at 9.30pm last night was peanut butter on toast, some grapes and some little chocolate covered cookies left over from Christmas because the children were to ill to eat them.

And then I had a catastophic run-in with some wine gums.

My mother is coming round to baby sit later as DH and I are going out and it means that the house needs a damn good tidy up today. Thank goodness we only go out together about once a year. I couldn't be doing with so much cleaning in one day on a regular basis.

Rubylovingmum - welcome back.

Well done losers! wow! you are all doing great!

I can't remember what I was last week, but today 14st 1.75lbs
Still can't grab the mindset but at least I'm not back up to 15.1...I think if I could maybe get to 13.13 (therefore be 13 something rather than 14 something I might be able to kick start my mindset again...
One week until Paul McKenna...

You were 90kg or 90.5kg last week Solo so by my reckoning you have lost something. I checked so we could see if we have a full house of loser this week and we do! Yay!!

I wonder if you feel different after PMcK? Is he just doing a weight loss thing or is it about motivating for other things too (doesn't he do a money one)? You could be slim AND rich in 6mths time!

very quick
size 16 trousers :)

Whoo Hoo!!!

He's just doing the thin one Niecie. I want to get his rich book/cd too. I have happy and have listened to it every night mostly on repeat, so I should be beaming now...

Well, that's good! we are all losers then! :)
Flo!!! size 16 trousers!!! yeee ha!!

Good going ladies! Well Done Everyone
WE are all losers indeed

Weighted in at 12st.11 lbs (2 lbs loss WHOOP WHOOP)

I bought the 30 day shred to do every day of feb... but have yet to summons the energy to put it on, once the kids are in bed...

I am feeling very self-controlled that i haven't had my glass of wine tonight.

Have a lovely weekend x

morning all. Yesterday was a bit of a disaster DH cooked and it was lush but he didnt follow the rules! lol. Work to be done this week I think

Bah humbug!!! says it all really...

And that Florence is exactly why we have weigh in on Fridays. I had a bad day on Saturday so I know how you feel.

DH bought me 2 boxes of chocolates for Valentines Day.

And strictly between ourselves, although he should know better since this is our 20th Valentines Day, he bought the Thorntons Classic ones. I am a dyed in the wool Cadbury's lover and if I have to have Thorntons they have to be the continental ones.

x post Solo. Same applies to you. Hide the scales!

I just feel so depressed...it makes me want to go and eat the chocolate muffins I bought for Ds's packed lunches.

After yesterdays weekly shop and a letter from the income support people, I think I'll be having no trouble dieting from here on in.
I just cannot believe what is happening to me and I feel ill, I'm crying, I don't know what to do...

I buy 'cheap'. I try to be really careful as I just don't have any money. I mean none. I went to get the Dc's Tesco 50% blackcurrant cordial stuff yesterday. It was 99p pre tax hike after which it was £1.01. Yesterday, it was £1.49. Last week it was £1.01; how has it jumped 50% since last week?! I can't begin to tell you how hard it was to stop the tears in the supermarket yesterday. Over flipping blackcurrant juice! I don't buy the Dc's anything else. No fizzy, no fresh juice ~ nothing! but my Ds goes through it like it's going out of production. He'll easily go through 2 bottles a week at my house and one at my Mum's...I always used to buy two for Mum's and two for home. I can't afford to buy it anymore. Ds is upset and angry. Dd doesn't really understand yet...what the hell can I do? And to crown it all, the payment that the government were paying towards my mortgage interest has been lowered by over £80 four weekly. I can't begin to imagine where I'll find that extra from when I can't aford to buy cheap flaming blackcurrant juice for the Dc's...

Sorry to rant. Sorry.

Oh Solo rant away! That is awful. I don't like Tescos - I can't say I never shop there but I don't like their practices and the juice thing is just another example. I bet they would say something like there has been a world blackcurrant shortage but aren't they not making enough bloody profits?! Can't the absorb some of these market flucuations? I know it is the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak, not so much the juice itself though.

Is there anywhere else you can shop? I know that isn't always possible but it can make a difference.

Tell me to shut up if I am stating the obvious but are you claiming all the benefits you can? Could you go the CAB and get them to have a look at your finances to see if there is something you haven't thought of?

Sorry, doing my usual trick of trying to fix things when all I can really do is give a big ((unMN hug)).

And feel free to rant away if it helps. Listening might be the best we can do but I am sure we are all happy to do it if it makes you feel better.

Thanks Niecie.
My Mum likes Tesco and I do her shopping every week, so I just do mine there at the same time...otherwise I'd end up spending even more time in bloody places that are just fleecing everyone and I hate it.

I don't think I'm entitled to anything else, though I really should try for free school meals for Ds and uniform grants if they still do them. I haven't given the schools any fund contribution this year for Dd or for the last two years for Ds...
I only have a maximum of £35 a week to spend on food and diesel for the car and if I try to make the extra payment on the mortgage, I'll have less than £15 for those things. I just can't do it. I felt like I'd coped really well keeping the mortgage free of arrears (and catching up when I was), but this is just too much for me. I don't think I can take any more. I have nothing else to give up. I don't drink or smoke, don't buy myself clothes and the Dc's usually get cast offs ~ which is fine btw, but bloody hell! I'm fed up.

I can understand being fed up - there must seem no end it and that must be really hard. I think people can get through most things if they know for certain that things will get better by a particular date.

I was just thinking, would you be able to renegotiate your mortgage term and get the payments reduced a bit? You would pay more in the long run but if it means you keep your house them maybe it is worth it. I orginally thought about the possibility of taking a mortgage holiday which is fine if you know you are going to earning again in the foreseeable future but it isn't great strategy it you can't see that happening - in 6 or 9 months you would have to start paying again without anything else having changed. Presumably the government's contribution would also reduce though. I suppose you would have to weigh up the net gain.

What about your children's fathers - are they paying what they are supposed to pay?

Free school meals would help a bit. You may also be able to get clothing grants here.

Growing some of your own veg etc if you have the time, the space and the energy might also help (although not if you have to fork out for loads of materials and equipment). Unfortunately, that isn't going to help much in the next month or so unless you are happy to live on mustard and cress.

I'm doing it again aren't I?! Problem solving. I should have been a bloody man. I not good at being quiet sympathy and it is particularly hard to be quiet when all you can see is the written words on a screen. If you could see sympathetic silence then I might be able to shut up more!

Please don't let me put you off if venting helps.

Bloody cold here btw. Central heating packed up Friday afternoon. The plumber was supposed to come today but he is ill. I have found another one but he can't come until tomorrow. We really should have replaced the stupid thing last year.

And AF arrived on Friday evening which explains the wine gum eating binge on Thursday.

Sorry Niecie :(

I will make an appointment with the mortgage company, but I really am loathed to extend my mortgage time any further...as it stands now, I will have had one for 36 years by the end (because of my blasted ex husbands...), so putting off the end until (still) later in my life feels really crappy!
Dc's fathers...one pays, one doesn't ~ never has and the JC+ people supposedly put it through to the CSA, but I've never got anything.
I will be going back to work at some point, but the unsocial working hours and child care costs mean that going back sooner rather than later will cost me more than I'll earn once I've taken off my living expenses (bills, mort, travel costs etc incl), so it feels pointless right now. I have a big garden, but it is overgrown so would need lots of work to make it ready for growing veggies. It all feels overwhelming right now.

February is a crap month isn't it? I defy anybody to feel motivated to do anything in February. I am sure it is not helping how you feel.

The weather here is lovely though...

True. Nice here too.

Just so long as we aren't saving the rain up for next week when we are going to see the in-laws in N Wales. I have experienced their special breed of horizontal rain before and don't wish to repeat it.

From a diet point of view it is a bit difficult next week. PIL idea of a walk is to go somewhere in the car, park up, have a coffee, which has to come with a cake or biscuit, walk a bit, go and have another coffee with cake or biscuit and come home. All very pleasant but the walks are getting shorter due to FIL having back problems and therefore the coffee breaks are getting longer and more frequent. It will be worse still if the walks are shortened by the rain. But DS2 won't care whatever the weather - he'll get a dog to walk for the week!

Blimey Solo no wonder you are feeling at your wits end. I am so sorry. Struggling is so tiring isn't it, all the worry. If worrying burnt calories I for 1 could be sylph like.
Hand to mouth here but nothing like you are trying to manage. Hope something comes out of the blue for you soon.

Solo, how are you today? Hoping that some how you will find some relief or a solution to your situation soon.

Boiler still broken here. If being cold really does make you slimmer then I would be half a stone lighter today. If it weren't for the fact that the heating guy is hopefully coming today I would go back to bed to keep warm! Am a bit concerned that they are going to condemn the boiler as not being worth repairing too - we might have pushed our luck as far as bringing it back from the dead is concerned.

Morning

How are you Solo and how is your boiler Niecie? Are the last rites required?

Morning all,

Morning florence, no last rites thank goodness. It needed a new fan and £250 spending on it but it is back in action! It has taken until this morning for the temperature to get back to normal but I don't have a cold in my bones anymore. And he put it back on the wall properly. It was being held on by the flue. No idea where the screws went!

We do still need a new boiler but we can do that in the summer now. We get through about a fan every 11 months it seems, because the boiler is old and not big enough for the house. Unfortunately a boiler is 10x as much as a fan but the number of fans we have had now would have bought half a boiler and we can't keep patching it up.

How are things with your Florence?

Solo, thinking of you too. Do you have a weigh in today with the nurse?