When did the 'concerned' comments start for you?

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Am part way through my MJ Journey, having been a February Starter. Now don't get me wrong, i have lost a lot of weight (over 100lb) so far, so am looking very different to how i started - but i am by no means wasting away, looking dangerously thin or frail . In fact i have just dipped into a 25.7 bmi so just into a healthy weight for my height bracket.

Has anyone else had comments like this, that seem a bit ott ?
I get i look different, but am still 10 stone, so i don't think i would draw a look in a crowd, but over the past couple of weeks i seem to have had these comments and it is starting to grate a little bit - not one of these people commented when i was knocking on the door of 18 stone.

Do you think that with quite quick weight loss it takes a while to settle into your new size if that makes sense, or is it just people being a bit knobbish?

But no one does that, literally no one, it would be perceived as so utterly rude. No one says “ I can see you’re getting really fat, are you ok, can I help you, do you need support “? I am really struggling to beleive you’d want people to have done that, as the orverwhelming majority of people would be horrified.

People always say these sorts of comments. A lady I know has just lost ten kg and one of our mutual friends tried to suggest she was starting to look haggard and should be careful. Such BS! She looks fantastic

The watch out with the injections is they strip you of muscle so there is a genuine possibility of becoming a bit haggard looking. Work on your strength

I am not sure what you mean by noone commented when you were overweight?
Surely that would be rude AF to comment to someone that they are overweight- who would do that, and all I see on here are comments like "they know they're overweight, you dont need to tell them" etc so dont quite understand why you would want people telling you you need to lose weight?!!

I think the concerned comments are just coming from the huge change is all. I dont think people are being unkind and to be frank, some people do look shockingly different losing a large amount of weight in a short period of time and it doesnt always look good when its lost super quickly. I've seen people look quite haggard and drawn from losing weight very quickly

The injections don’t strip you of muscle, cmon. Dieting does that, if you lose weight, don’t eat enough protein and don’t do strength training, you will lose a lot of muscle, but it’s not the drug that does it it’s the diet,

Agree, I see it a lot on here to be justified in being annoyed about people commenting on weight loss. Who on earth wants people to tell them they are getting fat and ask if they need support.

id have been horrified if someone said to me, oh I see your now obese, have been gaining a lot of weight, are you ok? Do you need my support to get that off”

Sorry, I call BS on this. Noone is going to ask someone who is fat if they are ok and tell them that they should lose weight. It's a complete social taboo and considered extremely rude. Most people would be very, very offended if someone did this.

Honestly, you cant win here- if you dont comment on weight it's apparently rude, if you do comment on weight, it's also rude. Someone posted recently on here that they were really offended and upset noone that had mentioned their weight loss to them or talked to them about it and they found that rude.

Apparently everything is rude when it comes to weight 🤷‍♀️

I would never comment on weight either way.

However, I would be concerned at someone being on MJ for that long and I would be concerned if you were not looking well. Could that be the reason?

Had a couple of ‘don’t stay on MJ’ comments after a year.

Right? I would never dream of saying to someone "hey, I've noticed you are now officially obese, I really think you should do something about that for your health- are you ok?" - in what universe would that ever be an acceptable thing to say to someone?

Bloody hell. The things I read on here sometimes

It’s so tricky isn’t it, deciding whether or not to raise as a topic of conversation someone’s personal health and well-being. Generally, if you wouldn’t comment about other health issues, then don’t about weight. Ok, so you run the risk of offending the people who want you to comment on any obvious weight loss, but I guess you have to choose who to upset. Better to avoid the topic imo.

Why would you be concerned about someone being on Mounjaro for that amount of time?

sure, be concerned about someone looking unwell. But why on earth would you be concerned about someone being on it a long time, it’s a life time usage drug, are you also wandering round concerned about people on other long term meds?

Life saving meds, no.

Unnecessary long term medication. Absolutely.

It wasn't said in a negative way, just more surprised that i needed mounjaro. I think it is an example of the loss of concept of what is normal and a reflection of the weight of the nation, particularly amongst HCPs who see the overweight/ obese more than the healthy part of the population (and that includes that staff - I'm a HCP).

All other comments I've had have been positive comments on my skin/ looking healthy/ something different from female friends/ colleagues, and occasional compliments/ comments on the weightloss, mostly male colleagues that i have a good rapport with. Which leads me to conclude that women have got the message not to comment on people's weight, and men...

They are life saving. Obesity is the biggest killer in our society, the number one cause of cancer before we look at all the other issues, heart attack stroke etc

why are you on the thread if you don’t understand either obesity or the drug? And proclaiming to be the walking worried about something you don’t know anything about, used to treat a condition you know nothing about?

Really, in 3 months my cholesterol has drop the amount it would take statins to lower it in 6-9 months, would you say the same about statins, or is it just WLI because fatties get to be thin and thus, objectively, more attractive and we can't have that can we!!

Who are you? The thread police.

The OP asked a question and I answered it.
If only obese or weight loss drug users responded she would hardly be getting a rounded view.

You have no idea what knowledge I do or don’t have on this subject.

So cholesterol lowered, healthy weight.

Great!
Then you stop yeah?

I think this is a big part of it. One of the perks of being overweight is that it can make you look younger, so when you lose a lot of weight I think you start to look the age you are which people just aren’t used to! And we know women aren’t allowed to look old lol so it’s deemed a negative and thus can be construed as not looking well.

I don’t think it’s a case of people losing sight of healthy, I’m sure people who don’t know you know you look healthy, but you look very different to people who know you.

Would you suggest i stopped taking statins if they were effectively lowering my cholesterol and just yo yo on and off them for ever more? No of course not, especially because the evidence base does not support that, well the evidence base for mounjaro does not support that either, and evidenced based practice is good practice.
Time for you to start reading peer reviewed studies not daily mail comment sections!

I haven't been on MJ but I did lose a large amount of weight quickly some years ago. I had the "concerned" comments, which pissed me off at the time, as I was a normal BMI. But the rapid weight loss does cause a certain look, I think, because the muscle/skin can't keep up with your weight changes at first. I did look drawn and unwell, though I never would have said so at the time.
I have a family member who has a history of an ED, and they are now abusing MJ. I know that abusing any drug is awful, but societally, using MJ when you don't need it is so accepted in comparison to, say, abusing valium or ADHD meds. My family member accuses anyone who is concerned of being jealous, will say they've never been as healthy as they are now, will say their BMI is normal. Meanwhile, they are skeletal, unable to function normally, worrying symptoms all round. I guess what I'm saying is that MJ is absolutely brilliant when it's used by those who need it, but the general public are concerned about its misuse because it is abused so often.

Also BMI 27 (having lost 15kg at that point) when family started to mention ‘eating disorders’. I pointed out I was still on overweight BMI and was being sensible and shut down the conversation.
I’ve just dropped into the healthy BMI range after losing another 6kg but my loss has slowed right down so it’s not a noticeable and no one has mentioned it for ages now.

MJ does appear to make people a bit ‘spiky’ doesn’t it.
I also didn’t realise it gave you an insight into other people’s knowledge and reading preferences.

Perhaps just try without it if your cholesterol is lowered and you’re a healthy weight.

I have an underlying endocrine problem, do you think MJ will have magically fixed my pituitary too, if you do, be a dear and, send your quality study to my endocrinologist at the regional endocrinology centre I'm under.

People are obese for a reason, mounjaro acts on that reason, yo yo dieting is known to be harmful. Using mounjaro temporarily is a temporary fix. Why are you so concerned about other people taking one specific medication long term? And just to save your an intermediate post - GLP-1s have been used safely at the same doses for diabetes for more than 2 decades.

@Financial "Perhaps just try without it if your cholesterol is lowered and you’re a healthy weight." why? Should I try without my BP medication because my BP is now in the normal range?

You seem to think that only WLI are unnecessary as a long term treatment, despite Mounjaro being approved for long term treatment. Pharmacies are prescribing it long term for maintenance. Why do you think they are all wrong to do that?