Anyone else stopping due to how aging losing weight is?!

[Hedgehogtimeagain]

I just wanted to see where everyone is drawing a line on taking wli (unless maintaining) as I have recently stopped after losing 2 stone.

I originally stopped in October last year at a bmi of 24.5 but then restarted in March as I had put on 2kgs, I feel in hindsight this was irrational.

I am now at a bmi of 24 and stopped a month ago as I felt it was really starting to age me. I’m now happy being between 24-25.5 and a size 12.

All the collagen in the world won’t prevent the loss of volume in the face that is associated with wli, and I look at photos 3 years ago and think how much better I looked with more padding in the face.

I just wondered how people are balancing losing weight and being at a lower bmi against the effect that it has on how you look? It’s been quite alarming in my case, and I don’t want to go down the route of fillers/ Botox but it’s that age old thing of solving one problem but creating another!

Yes a husband actually, and no neither of us bitch about my friends appearances.

I do worry a bit about my face, but think I look permanently puffy and tired now (50, BMI 34).

What I hate though is the faux concern. First its about health (being overweight is unhealthy, increases disease, we’re worried about you) then as soon as you lose weight noone cares about your health anymore, just about how old your face looks.

It’s almost as if people aren’t really concerned about you at all.

I find it's ageing me, definitely. It's the jowls more than anything at the moment but also I just look a bit shit in general as I've got thinner hair and a load of regrowth coming in that is at that can't-flatten-it stage. So I think there are various factors playing into feeling I look like I've aged.

My boobs are looking much smaller in clothes and I feel younger with that - probably a personal thing as I always had small boobs until I had a baby, and since then I've always felt shelved and matronly with the larger ones. My legs are looking decent but my backside has also gone. I think it was the first place I noticed weight loss, my backside and my back in general.

I think it takes time for your face to settle. I have been maintaining for around 9 months now and I feel that my face has started to get some fullness back. It was shocking at first though, I felt I looked so old.

My face has improved with heavy weight training. Specifically my jawline. I’m thinking it is the strain and grimacing. I can see in the mirror that I pull faces that involve tensing my jaw and neck. I do lift heavy so there is strain. My jawline is better than it was in my 40s and I’m now almost 60

It depends on how big she is. Not by your opinion but factually. What size is she? What approximate BMI?

carrying extra body fat is far more a health issue than loose skin on the face. People have lost sight of what a healthy weight is and think being something like a size 14-16 at 5’5” is healthy. It’s not. It means too much pressure on the heart and too high a level of visceral fat. Rapid weight loss will cause some degree of skin laxity but some of this will resolve by itself over the next 12 months. If someone was obese, carried it in their face and neck and lost it over 50 then sure there may be skin laxity even after some time but this is favourable over excess body fat. HEALTH over VANITY

Agreed, for so long I kidded myself I was OK at 5ft 5 being a size14, but I knew deep down that I looked bloody awful as well as being aware it was not healthy, I am a healthy size 8 now, with a gentle exercise regime and a realistic diet, I look how I'm supposed to look at a healthy weight of 8 stone, not kidding myself that fat is OK.

One thing to add is that for amongst my friends there has been a period of fast aging in our early-mid 50s regardless of weight loss - obviously menopause related. My neck is noticeably worse than theirs as I carried a lot of weight in my face and neck, even though I’ve lost weight very slowly and was only just bmi 30. I don’t think it’s going to recover but I am so much more healthy than I was that I don’t care at all.

I'm sure you both never discuss anything out of the ordinary, just what's for dinner and on the television! 😆🤪🙃

Your jaw line looks great. I've bought some weights and a kettle bell. I do enjoy lifting weights.

Wegovy is relatively cheap low-dose, and almost as effective as Mounjaro?

Yes, it’s incredible that BMI makes almost no distinction between the weight of an 18 year-old girl and a 60-year-old woman. It’s quite ridiculous and so I don’t know why people are overly-concerned with it.

I always think it’s the belly that’s ageing , often coupled with the matronly bosom on top of it. A large bust on its own isn’t ageing, ie if stomach is flat, but a large bust coupled with a big belly is what’s ageing

Yeah well that’s me 😁! One big juicy apple!🍎

Losing a couple of stone has made me at least a tinsy bit more “hourglass”. Ooo, er, missus!

Also, at least in photos 🤪 , the “moon face” was not a good look for me. So losing weight in my face at age 64 has not been a bad thing. My neck seems to have settled a bit…

It’s a strangely unclear question in a way. Some older women look great being a bit overweight. Sometimes it seems to be linked to their “big” personality and joie de vivre. Other women (more rarely I would say) look great being very slim.

I was sitting opposite a woman on a boat, yesterday. She was probably in her late 40s/earky 50s. Very slim, maybe a size 8 to 10? A perfect BMI weight? But she looked tired and miserable with her boring tight jeans and her boring tight navy jacket and not even one smile or word to her partner the whole journey. She could’ve been 90, in some ways. Just using her as an example, and of course the same can apply to overweight people. There’s just more to age than how much you weigh on a scale hey.

Agree generally speaking - but some people, especially older women, have taken it too far, and it’s not a good look …

This is not an example of anything but a nasty streak running through you tbh.

You sound nice though 😜 lol.

Was my general observation a bit close to the bone? Is that you, possibly 😂 … could be!

Looking tired and miserable has nothing to do with weight, or age for that matter.

I am 50. I have been through incredible trauma and grief over the last 5 years. I’m sure it has aged me considerably. What’s worked in my favour is that I’m overweight which has probably puffed out the lines.

it’s not healthy for me though, and arguably a form of self-harm.

but I’m certainly not going to stay an unhealthy weight so you don’t have to look at my sad face on a train.

It doesn’t always look better unfortunately. My ex colleague has lost weight naturally gojng from a size 12 to a size 8. She is 62 and I was shocked when I saw her last. She looked properly old and scrawny and the agonising over the least calorific thing on the menu was a bit tedious. However, she is very fit and strong so it’s obviously good for her health and she is mindful of that.

I am nice, that was kind of the point. Your comments about the woman you saw were nasty but don’t put me in the same category as you for pointing it out.

They say as you get older you have to chose between your ass and your face. Whrn I was bigger I would always joke I chose my face. I lost almost 6 stone but had a few people tell me (actually tell other people) I was looking ill. So I put back about 5 lbs on and think I look better now. I really don't want to be scrawny as I'm 54 and it's not a good look, but I was loving the low numbers on the scale so had to give myself a really good talking to.

And there you go, proving my point…

Oh, and again. Well done and thank you.