Comments on your weight loss - nice and not so night things people have said?

[threeeggsontoast]

I’ve lost 2 stone and 2lbs and people are starting to notice. So far, the handful of people who’ve said anything have been nice and today, a colleague walked up to me and said, ‘gosh, you look lovely. You can really tell’. I was quite touched by that.

At some point I imagine there’ll be some catty/snippy comments but just wondering if anyone else has had some nice (or perhaps not so nice) comments about their weight loss?

Typo in subject line! Should say ‘nice’ not ‘night’.

You will start getting 'but don't lose any more now, you look way too skinny already' comments even when nowhere near skinny.

People who keep waffling on publicly about how much I've lost, subtext 'but ooooh you were sooooo fat before' even when I am looking clearly uncomfortable and not engaging.

But nice ones, tons of those. I have always worked out, so now I've gotten rid of the fat, I look shredded, so people often comment on that. This I don't mind at all, years of hard work has gone into those muscles.

I have had a lot of comments, of the "oh my gosh, you look amazing" sort, which I don't mind, and is well intended.

It's the ones who keep going on too long and emphasise that I really have lost so much weight, like a LOT. I feel like saying ok ok rein it in, I was a size 16, yes I was obese, but it's not THAT big to warrant such a reaction.

I was chatting to someone who doesn't know me. They said they like to bake cakes but not eat them, so I came back with well I like to eat cakes, but don't bake them, so we will make a good pair, and she glanced at me up and down with a look on her face as though I was mad and said "well, you don't look like you like to eat cakes". It was quite an odd moment. In fairness, it's very rare for me to eat cakes these days, and I could just see how I must look/sound to her

Two things I’m sick of hearing -
“You must be on that Mounjaro”, and,
”I can tell you’ve lost weight but definitely don’t lose any more”.
My BMI is still well into overweight

Probably ‘are you going to lose any more?’ 🤣 I’ve lost bloody 14 stone Janet!! I’m trying but what’s left appears to be hanging around for good, despite my best efforts!

I think it's really funny when people who are lighter than you tell you not to lose any more weight.

Just don’t comment on anyone’s weight! It’s not hard is it?!
Same with asking if someone is pregnant - don’t fucking do it!
Jeeze 🙄🙄🙄

I sort of see it both ways. If a colleague has lost weight, I usually don’t say anything for fear I might offend them. But then I personally like it if people comment on my own weight loss.

I’m losing weight for my own health and wellbeing but it does encourage me if people say nice things.

My mother’s husband said “you look so much better now”. Sorry if I offended with my vastness in the past. Some people!!

I also worked with someone who was fairly slim apart from her stomach, she came in one day so upset as had been asked when the baby was due by a total stranger. Just not necessary to comment on people’s appearance at all unless to say ‘I like your dress/shoes’ or ‘you look nice’.

it is a bit of damned if you do damned if you don't. Many people have posted on weight loss topics that they are upset - have made massive efforts to lose a ton of weight and people pretend they don't even notice. I think 'You look great!' is appropriate and should not offend anybody.

I’ve lost over 2stone now. Nobody has noticed/commented as I’m very large and have some way to go yet. I haven’t told many people and tbh I’m kind of dreading that stage. I mean yes the “wow you look great!” Comments are lovely but I hate, hate hate, the way people feel a weird sort of entitlement to your body when you’ve lost weight.
by that I mean constantly commenting on what you’re eating (none of their business!) or telling you how much “better” you look or warning you not to put it back on etc. The worst weight loss comment I ever got was “I’m glad you lost weight, you look much better because you were bloody fat before weren’t you?”
said by my grandma’s “speak as I find” next door neighbour.

People can get weird and rude around weight loss so I’m hoping to not experience that for as long as possible.

I feel like everyone has commented since I hit 5 stone and not one negative comment, everyone has just been mega supportive and I love the cheerleading.

My mam keeps saying 'you may as well stop now, you've lost so much' but that's because she's phobic of medications and doesn't want me taking any!

Oh I thought of another one! ‘We were really worried about you’ (before I lost weight) for some reason that really pissed me off. It was obviously meant in a kind and caring way but it really irked me.

That made me laugh, thank you!

I used to be naturally very slim like 5”7 size 6 without trying and yes I got very used to bitchy comments.

I’m now in my 40s and have recently gotten back in shape after the baby years and I’ve had a couple of people refer to my “shredded abs” or whatever in a sarcastic tone.

But you know what? I look great, I feel great and everyone else can get lost with their jealousy.

I have only had a few people comment on how much weight I've dropped but not until I'd lost 3 stone. A couple of people asked if I was on MJ I didn't say yes or no just changed the subject, one is very suspicious and would broadcast the fact !
generally people should not ask about/ comment on weight loss, as others have said just say you look well should suffice no body say's you've got fat!

I think all unsolicited personal comments about people’s weight are rude.

People are so weird about it. I would personally never comment on anyone's weight or body in general. We have an 11 year old DD and try to project body neutrality at home. If I think someone would appreciate a compliment I usually go with 'I love your jacket' or similar.

I've lost about 3 stone since January. My MIL asked me 'is your mum pleased' which made me snort with laughter as it really sums up the boomers' attitude to these things. They don't know each other but it was very on the nose as my DM is weight obsessed and even tried to bribe me to lose weight when younger. She has also made negative, daily mail type comments about WLI, obviously assuming that I am not on them. I would never tell her either way, but I have attempted to rebuke some of the comments in a more general way, just like I would her comments about immigrants etc 😉

All my comments have been incredibly positive, all the you look fantastic stuff, except one client who kept going on about how I’d lost soooo much weight,and i look so much better now. It was repeated so much I started to think yeah alright stop going on, I didnt look that bad before.

i also had a weird male colleague, who I’ve never actually spoken to past hello and been in the same vicinity as (he’s from a different country) march up to me at a work dinner, literally he walked from one end of the very long table to the other, he spoke to a colleague, eyed my plate and then suddenly asked me why I’d not finished my meal and inform me I need to eat. I was utterly dumbfounded. Like proper dumbfounded by it, I genuinely didn’t know this man past who he was and to look at, and i just stared at him open mouthed, my boss was next to me, and stood up and he started sort of moving from one foot to the other like he wanted to say something but was also so shocked he couldn’t think of what and was doing a gold fish impression.

I’ve lost four stone and no one at work seems to have noticed aside from one colleague who said. “Even if you don’t lose any more you’ll be better as you are if you can manage to keep it off”

thanks then !!!!!!

I bumped into someone I’d not seen on a year or so the other day and she said I was looking great etc then started with the “don’t lose any more, you’re just right as you are. You’ll look ill any thinner” - I’m still over 4st off a healthy BMI (not actually wanting to lose that much, but still another 3st or so to go before I’m happy), so by no means “skinny”. Still a size 16-18 at 5ft 8

I remember my gran saying “losing weight is the easy part, keeping it off is the hard bit. You won’t stay that thin for long”

this was years ago. My family just couldn’t be happy for me! I kept it off for 10yrs but then menopause hit and my mum (apple doesn’t fall far from the tree) was delighted.

luckily radio silence on my recent weight loss (2.5stone). It would pain her to comment on my looking good, although she’d certainly count it as cheating if I said it was due to MJ.

Some of these comments have made me laugh! 😂

I remember losing 3 stone about 7 years ago and even though I had another 2 stone to go, a colleague kept complimenting me and telling me I didn’t need to lose any more. I half jokingly said to her ‘don’t say that to me, I’m at the halfway point and this is usually the point I give up, but I need to keep going’.

She then went into this spiel about my long term health and how she ‘wouldn’t let me’ give up. This is right after she’d told me to give up (!!) and now she was acting like some weird unqualified life coach.

I agree with most of the comments though. You don’t need to say specifically ‘have you lost weight?’ But you can tell someone they look lovely. They’ll know what you mean.

Best ones are people who say don’t lose anymore yet you’re still bigger than they are.