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Boyfriend thinks WLI are cheating

115 replies

Sogfree · 31/08/2025 15:14

Posting here for traffic, as I think it's been lost in my monthly chat feed:

I've not told my boyfriend of 8 months that I'm on MJ. He's not noticed my weight loss really, as it's gradual. He goes to the gym 5/7 days. I've been running 5k+ 3/7 days for the last 10 years.

WLI were mentioned yesterday in conversation. He said "well those injections are just cheating, aren't they?"

I responded with something like "if it helps people become healthier long term, then surely that's a good thing"

Then moved the conversation on.

Where do I go with this?!

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YellowSubmarine994 · 31/08/2025 17:56

Ask him if he thinks a nicotine patch is cheating while quitting smoking. It's just a tool to help and people get weirdly judgemental if it's anything weight related

AngryBookworm · 31/08/2025 18:02

It's not 'cheating' because there is no moral value in self-denial, so you're not claiming any virtue that you don't have. Men tend to find weight loss easier than women (not all, but most) so I'm not surprised if he doesn't understand the struggle that a lot of women go through with weight.

This doesn't mean he's a bastard, but it is worth challenging him with some of the good arguments made here. I hope eventually you feel able to be honest with him but you shouldn't feel bad for not having told him already.

crumbssonmyface · 31/08/2025 18:02

I know it’s hard, but you should stand up for yourself here. Even if my boyfriend disagrees with me on something, there’s no way I’m backing down (and he wouldn’t expect me to either). You should feel comfortable to talk you your boyfriend about something like this x

HeidiLite · 31/08/2025 18:47

I was just discussing food and eating with some naturally slim friends and they have no idea, none, what a torture and torment food has been for me my entire life, as long as I remember really. I have been fighting food noise every hour of every day - whereas normal people don't have that. Yes, they have cravings, hunger, appetite - this is not the same.

So now, thanks to GLP1, I feel like they feel. Finally, I can 'just' use some willpower and 'just' eat less, like normal people have always been able to, because their body is not defective and does not need GLP1s.

So am I cheating because now, thanks to medication, my body functions like your boyfriend's?

PeppercornDelight · 31/08/2025 19:15

FFS with the ‘cheating’. Do these people think using a washing machine is cheating, or taking paracetemol for a headache, or wearing contact lenses to fix bad eyesight? I see no difference at all. Exactly who or what do they think we are cheating? Wanting to improve your health is not a competition.

HeidiLite · 31/08/2025 19:33

People have also told me that driving an automatic is cheating and not real driving. Gets me from A to B very nicely, so not sure whom I'm cheating..

Wildfairy · 31/08/2025 19:35

Sogfree · 31/08/2025 16:57

That's a huge jump @CopperWhite 🤣 Good old MN that dooms my new relationship as I haven't told him I'm using MJ!

I thought the same as him before I started taking the jabs. And then I kept seeing threads pop up on here. I read articles here and there. I processed what posters were saying and the real life impact of how the drug was working for them.

It took about a year to persuade myself to order and get passed the "this sounds too good to be true" solution to getting my eating in check.

So I get where he's coming from.

I think you're right, it's about education @MagnoliaTreePetals . It might come up in conversation again and I think a more information laden response than the one I gave might be a good way forward. He's definitely one to have good conversations with, he learns and changes if he's in agreement.

Edit: I don't feel really upset or shamed at all @WeAllHaveWings Please don't presume.

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Yet you’re still basically lying to him and in 8 months the blokes not even noticed you’ve lost weight?

MixedBananas · 31/08/2025 19:37

Not cheating but unleas you make healthy lifestyle changes and exercise then it is useless and pointless.

RosaBaby2 · 31/08/2025 19:39

It is not cheating, because weight loss and/or having a healthy lifestyle are not competitions.

People are dicks.

Boyfriend thinks WLI are cheating
OrlandointheWilderness · 31/08/2025 20:13

Cheating who exactly!? I’ve been on them and lost 8 stone. If people think it’s the easy way then sod them. I’ve had 40 years of the fucking hard way, you bet your ass I’m
taking the easier way and so would they in my situation!

Mysticmaiden · 31/08/2025 20:37

Well he sounds like a catch...I couldn't bare to be around someone who is negative and judgemental in that way about anything really. Best thing I did for my mental health and happiness was cut out the moaners and judgemental pricks from my life.

HansHolbein · 31/08/2025 20:45

Lotsa red flags here.

napody · 31/08/2025 20:48

Branleuse · 31/08/2025 15:31

A lot of people seem to think that, but tbh, im doing it for the sake of my health and mobility. Not because I need a challenge or enjoy the misery of dieting.
Its the only thing that makes me feel like my appetite is normal and not controlling my whole life. Waking me up in the night. Feeling dizzy or frantic about food.
If someone thinks its cheating, then they are looking at it from a different angle to me.
If it was a weightloss competition then maybe it would be cheating, but it isnt.

If it was a weightloss competition then maybe it would be cheating, but it isnt.

This.

tostaky · 31/08/2025 20:52

He hasnt noticed your weight loss??
Never mind the comment about MJ, he doesnt deserve you!

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Sogfree · 31/08/2025 20:58

tostaky · 31/08/2025 20:52

He hasnt noticed your weight loss??
Never mind the comment about MJ, he doesnt deserve you!

Neither have my adult children, my sister and my best friend. They've known me a lot longer.

None of them clearly deserve me.

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Sogfree · 31/08/2025 21:01

HansHolbein · 31/08/2025 20:45

Lotsa red flags here.

There really isn't. He has no knowledge of WLI, except the snippets he'll have picked up from the media.

You have seen today's headlines about fat jabs, haven't you? It's the way I used to think until I read more about WLI, thanks to posters on MN.

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RosaBaby2 · 31/08/2025 21:10

Sogfree · 31/08/2025 20:58

Neither have my adult children, my sister and my best friend. They've known me a lot longer.

None of them clearly deserve me.

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How much have you lost?

IReallyNeedThisToWork · 31/08/2025 21:41

Cheating who? Out of what? It buys into the bollocks that being thin is morally superior.

I reckon be alert for other signs of idiocy!

MeridaBrave · 01/09/2025 07:10

RosaBaby2 · 31/08/2025 19:39

It is not cheating, because weight loss and/or having a healthy lifestyle are not competitions.

People are dicks.

Perhaps it could meet the 2nd definition? Avoid obesity and its health risks? But as I said further on this thread I’m taking them and even if it’s cheating so what?

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 01/09/2025 07:18

I don’t have advice as to how to deal with this with your boyfriend but I do find the idea of it being ‘cheating’ interesting. I think it’s because of what it says about the person who thinks it (and how we’re conditioned as society to view (especially women’s) weight.)

Cheating infers a competition and therefore assigns achievement, status and perhaps virtue to the slimmest, and the process of weightloss itself. Rather than it being about what’s best for an individual and their body, there’s an assumption that their weight reflects and impacts the way others feel about their weight. It’s like… (and this bit is lighthearted) when everyone could get a blue tick on Twitter - some of the people who already had them felt it reduced their own status.

rwalker · 01/09/2025 07:46

Well he not wrong just not great to hear

Deadringer · 01/09/2025 07:56

I would say that back in the day when washing machines were still new people who had to hand wash their clothes thought that having a machine was cheating. Going to the gym is cheating too isn't it, working out in a nice air conditioned building when you should be doing it the old fashioned way, working out in the fields or some other form of labouring. Taking the pill so you dont get pregnant, definitely cheating. Taking medication for illnesses too, surely thats cheating, when the traditional way was to, well, die?

rwalker · 01/09/2025 08:09

Deadringer · 01/09/2025 07:56

I would say that back in the day when washing machines were still new people who had to hand wash their clothes thought that having a machine was cheating. Going to the gym is cheating too isn't it, working out in a nice air conditioned building when you should be doing it the old fashioned way, working out in the fields or some other form of labouring. Taking the pill so you dont get pregnant, definitely cheating. Taking medication for illnesses too, surely thats cheating, when the traditional way was to, well, die?

I don’t think your comparisons are the same all your examples still need effort MJ requires zero effort
but in the big scheme of things who cares

Pumpkinforever · 01/09/2025 08:11

Ltb

RobinEllacotStrike · 01/09/2025 08:16

you’ve been on MJ for 8 months and your partner hadn’t noticed any weight loss?

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