Do you want people to comment on your weight loss or say nothing?

[Comedycook]

So I've now lost just over a stone and it's probably not really noticeable yet, but I'd like to lose another 2/2.5 stone I think. Anyway, I absolutely love it when people comment on any weight loss...gives me a boost and encourages me. I've read posts on here where posters have said that they really dislike it when people mention it though? Also posts where people wonder why no one has mentioned their weight loss?

What do you prefer?

Something like "that top is really nice on you, where did you get it?" is fine and I would take that as a compliment I was looking nice.

Anything eluding to weight loss or my body from anyone except closest friends or family and 1-1 only, I'd rather they didn't, would consider it rude, too personal or overly familiar. I wouldn't say something like that to others either.

I really really dislike people commenting directly on my weight loss. I don’t want to talk about how much I’ve lost, or how I’ve done it or what my starting weight was or what my weight is now. All of which I’ve been asked. I certainly don’t want their congratulations or praise for it, that is always super awkward.

I don’t mind people commenting on new clothes or tangential references to my changing shape, but it’s the direct intrusive questioning that I absolutely hate. The “problem” that I have is that I’ve lost over 9 stone and it seems to make people compelled to comment!

I just don’t think losing weight means your morally better, and there’s so much judgment about being obese…I’d rather people just didn’t comment as my weight loss doesn’t make me a nicer, funnier or more interesting person!

After reading on here that a lot of people don't like others commenting, I would probably not comment. I do remember a while ago I lost some weight....one of the staff in my local cafe I go to said, wow, twiggy! I was still a size 14 so nowhere near but I actually felt really good hearing their comment and wasn't offended at all.

Absolutely agree with you on the morality aspect.

I love a quick positive comment. Now I’ve lost 6 stone I want people to acknowledge it!
But I don’t want long conversations about how I’ve achieved it etc.

And I would never tell anyone how much I’ve lost.

Oh I hate it, my thoughts are you never commented when I was putting on loads of weight so why comment when I'm losing.. and some people just go all in asking how much have you lost , how much do you weigh now? I'm like wtf? Who asks that!
People now are asking if I'm still trying to lose and should stop, this is from people smaller and slimmer than me, I like to ask why should I stop ?I'm bigger than you ?

I've lost 5 stone, a third of my body weight. I have been a bit gutted that only 2 people have commented. I am very short so I was enormous and now i'm almost slim. Why on earth would I be offended if people commented? It's not like I didn't know I was fat!

I like it! I know we're all different. But it motivates me and makes me feel good.

I do feel a bit embarrassed but I still prefer it. I tell everyone I'm on WLI and what I've lost, no secrets here.

I don't like it at the time but afterwards once I have had time to process, I quite like it. :) it does make you feel better about yourself.
As a past yo yo dieter I feel awkward when people say I have lost weight as I am thinking in the back of my mind that the next time they see me I would probably be heavier & that they think the same or are thinking how long it will take me to gain it back etc.
I have never liked telling people how much I have lost.

I've lost 5 stone since Jan so its very noticeable.

I like the comments sometimes saying I look good buut. I hate when I get quizzed about what I"ve done as I've told nobody I'm on the jabs!

I detest it tbh. I’ve lost a lot of weight through stress and am currently trying to gain weight. People don’t say “oh you’ve lost a lot of weight” they say “oh you look ill” 😞

Mixed responses so I will just continue saying nothing!

I wouldn’t mind at all. It’s something I’m open about but I absolutely wouldn’t ask anyone else.

They want you to stop losing weight because they want to keep the "status" of being thin all to themselves - because they like to look down on overweight people

I’ve lost about 30kg and it is noticeable, but I am shocked by how many people have mentioned it to me! I would never comment on someone else’s weight or appearance so it has left me totally unprepared for how to respond. For me, it’s a reaction to intense stress as I’m going through the worlds messiest divorce, so sharing that tends to stop further Qs. But also some friends who know all the ins and outs are still persisting with asking / but is it intentional? Are you eating? Etc etc. I was v obese before, now I’m close to healthy bmi (26.5 right now), so I get that it’s a huge change and that a lot of my friends have never seen me as a healthy or overweight person rather than obese.

so I don’t know the answer. It’s lovely to hear people tell me I look amazing - I agree that I look so much better and more importantly I feel so much better. But it also makes me think, oh shit I must have looked bloody awful before :( It’s a weird one.

My French friend commented which is to be expected. I don’t mind

I've lost 5 stone and I don't like people commenting on my weight loss. I know people think they are complimenting me when they say "wow you're so skinny now!", I don't find skinny a compliment at all. I'm not skinny, I'm actually strong and muscular as I lift heavy weights, skinny is just not a word I would describe myself as. I don't want to be told 'well done', or I 'look fantastic' either because I made peace with my larger size too and I wasn't going to feel less than no matter what size I was. I lost weight for my physical health - goal achieved. I dont want anyone commenting on my size ever. And I don't comment on other people's bodies either.

I don't mind if people comment on my weight loss as it is usually meant as a compliment. What I did object to. was a co-worker I used to have who was always commenting on people's weight gain and she did not mean it as a compliment.

Interesting. I have lost 3 stone and have had few comments. Like maybe 4, 2 of which are from dh and the only other person who knows re the mj.

part of me wants the comments. It’s an acknowledgment of my efforts. But I am 100% motivated by carrot not stick in everything, I thrive and do better with positive reinforcement. Part of me thinks it’s a bit personal.

and the vain part of me just wants someone to say I look nice. But actually at the moment I don’t really, my clothes are a bit too baggy and look scruffy as a result (am not buying new summer stuff at this stage), my last hair cut was a bit shitey and I’ve not been sleeping that well. So I actually don’t look that great to be fair.

I like it. I find it actually a bit funny if people totally ignore it and don't say a word, not even a generic 'you look well'.

I love a genuine compliment!
I like it when someone says they notice I have lost weight, I say 'yes, thank you, I have', and then the conversation moves on.
I've just seen a good friend who I haven't seen since February, I have lost 3.5 stone since then and she didn't say anything, which surprised me and made me realise that yes, I do like it when someone notices.
I have seen it in peoples eyes when they haven't seen me for a long time, (Ive lost 4.5 stone overall), there is a sort of 'WOW! It's YOU', type look. I like that as well!
I do not like it when people start asking me to go into detail about how I have done it though, and then, without waiting for an answer, telling me how dreadful WLI's are and they hope I am not taking them! I just say I think WLI's are great for those that choose to take them and then change the conversation.

Oh, I love it. When I lost weight in my 20s, people practically gave me a lap of honour. Now, 15 years later, not so much.

I miss the compliments but I understand why they aren't forthcoming as, personally, I'd never see it as my place to comment unless a person raised it themselves. Their body, their business after all, and you never know if it was intentional or due to stress, illness, grief, etc.

The only time I commented was a co-worker who had taken up running. She lost weight but she also developed the most gorgeous glow - I'm not kidding, her skin was practically luminous. I think I said something like 'you're just radiating good health these days' and stayed away from body size, which was well received.

Feel like wearing a sandwich board sometimes that says 'Yes, I've been trying. Validate me, validate me!'

I don’t really care although I do like to be told I look amazing! 😂

Tbh, to start with, I really hated people commenting and talking about me (I have halved my body weight so it’s very obvious!!) especially when they said I looked like a different person (old friends haven’t recognised me!) but I think I am more used to it now.

I do also find it odd when people I haven’t seen for ages just don’t say anything! I don’t WANT them to comment particularly but it is quite funny when their jaws drop and eyes pop out in amazement but they just don’t say a word! 😂😂

Words such as ‘tiny’ (I’m only 5’1 and now weigh about 8 stone) and ‘slight’ bother me a bit as I just can’t relate to them and they don’t feel like they apply to me.

So basically, I have very mixed feelings! 😂