OP, I'm really sorry your thread ended like this for you. I don't think putting new users off asking questions reflects very well on the forums, despite posters' probable intentions.
I think, as a community, we really need to find a way to help new users kindly, without making them feel attacked and patronised.
It's literally the third time I've seen an OP chased away by 'abrupt' advice in 3 days, and imo it's escalating, as more users join up.
It's not enough to say 'don't take it personally' imo. People turning to MJ are likely to be familiar with unwanted judgement, feeling a bit scared, a bit excited, and full of questions to help their journey be successful. Getting judged and treated like an idiot here must feel like the last thing they need.
I'm sure I've posted thoughtlessly at some point, thinking I was helping, we all do. I just think giving helpful information kindly, without the judgement and attacks, should be what we aim for.
You'll probably not see this OP, but if you do, please don't stop asking questions!