No engagement ring just wedding ring

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We have decided to get married after 20 years together. Thinking of just getting a wedding ring and not bothering with engagement ring. Anyone else done this? Not sure if it will look too plain.

Snap. As a small nod to an engagement ring I do have a minute diamond in my wedding band, and I mean minute.

Neither my mum mor I ever had engagement rings. We both got married within a few months of agreeing to marry our boyfriends, and neither saw the need. Had we had long engagements, we might have felt differently.

This was us too! After being together for 10 years, I didn't want a proposal, we just decided one day between us to get married, but I did want an engagement ring.

We got it months after deciding to get married when I found one I liked, the weird thing was MIL then started ringing everyone and telling them we were 'engaged', then we got lots of obligatory 'congratulations on your engagement', which was bizarre as they'd all had the wedding invites already!! The ring was just a tick on a check box, so we just laughed it off as MIL being a bit weird.

I think people of certain generations struggle with none traditional engagements/wedding, but it really doesn't matter, just do what makes sense for you as a couple. The good thing about doing it this way is you could pick an engagement ring and wedding ring that works well together at the same time, rather than try to find one to fit the other further down the line. Or just pick a wedding ring if you want one, and don't bother with the engagement ring, there's no rules at all.

I have a wedding ring. Don’t even wear that.
I think if you’ve gone 20 years with no engagement there is no
point to either ring.

I only wear my wedding ring. The stones on my engagement ring used to catch on my tights and it did my nut in. I love my wedding ring as it was a bespoke design, it's very comfortable and very me. I also don't wear a lot of other jewellery and prefer just wearing the one ring.

I'd also add that you are allowed to do whatever you want as it's your wedding and your marriage. I hope you have a lovely day and future together.

We did this, no engagement rings and just each picked our own wedding rings. It’s actually never even been mentioned by anybody to be honest - a lot of people just do their own thing now and tradition is not as important.

My mum never wore her engagement ring because she was too afraid to lose it, she wore it for special occasions where she dressed up but definitely not to work or doing anything around the house. She wore a plain gold wedding band for 60 years that in the end she couldn’t take off if she wanted to.

I’ve been married twice and never had - or wanted - an engagement ring. I have very small hands and two rings, even narrow ones, would be too much. I will never have an eternity ring for the same reason.

I did. I only wear my wedding band, in three different colour gold. It doesn´t need anything else. Engagement rings never were a thing for me.

I did have an engagement ring, but very modest. We both believed in being ‘engaged to be married’, not being engaged as an end in itself, so we were engaged for a short time - we arranged our wedding in the few weeks following agreeing to get married, and our wedding was just less than six months later. I wore both rings for a year or so after but the cluster of my engagement ring increasingly annoyed me by catching on things so I stopped wearing it and have only worn my slim wedding band for over 20 years now.

I haven't got an engagement ring. I didn't see the point. My wedding ring was custom made with a sliver of diamond flush to the metal. My DH doesn't have a wedding ring. He wasn't bothered and I don't really like jewellery on men. Do what you want.

We did this. The ring has a teeny tiny diamond sunken into the surface so almost flush. Very subtle. So it's like an engagement ring and wedding ring in one.

I don’t have an engagement ring.
Gold wedding band.

I have a titanium wedding ring with a tiny diamond. I didn't wear rings and definitely don't wear sparkly jewelry so I just had the wedding ring which I wear for work/ going out mostly.

We were also skint

I have an engagement ring but only wear it for special occasions, I normally just wear my wedding band on it's own. My wedding band is a half eternity style ring with little diamonds in it.

I went straight to a wedding band.
Happily married for 15 years and together for 24, we were never technically engaged/no proposal, we just set a date and planned a wedding.

I did get a beautiful eternity ring after but I still only wear the wedding band day to day.

I had a promise ring for years before we got engaged, I did have an engagement ring but it broke not long after I got it so i returned to wearing my promise ring as my engagement ring, I wore that with my wedding ring for a while til it too broke. I now just wear my wedding ring on its own. I would like my other ring repaired but I had it assessed and the repair would cost more the ring did when we bought it.

https://www.maisonbirks.com/en_ca/large-diamond-ring-tri-gold-birks-dare-to-dream/CONFIG450015428274.html
I love this ring!
loads of 20 year worthy significant bands to be had.
I’ve been married 45 yrs and wear only an updated band (same style same color same jeweler just bigger as my original wedding band).

I had a ring we used on the wedding day because we needed something
You dont need a ring.
We skipped that part out.

I was never engaged but when we married spontaneously after 30 years together, I received two rings during the ceremony, one plain, one with stones - just because I felt like it. I think of them both as wedding rings. There are no rules, so do whatever makes you happiest!

I worked in a manufacturing environment when we got married, so could only wear a plain wedding band - the engagement "ring" was a nice necklace that I wore on special occasions.

I know a few who have done this. I always say do what you want not just what everyone else does or expects. Go your own way. All the best

Makes sense

I've been married for over 30 years none of the rings I regularly wear on my ring finger are my original wedding or engagement rings. The wedding one is flat and I find it uncomfy/eczema cause, the engagement ring is a bit high and liable to get bashed.

I wear a white gold band that has 3 tiny inset diamonds or a gold half eternity ring mostly. There are some nice rings out there with small stones that look classy and would feel great for everyday wear.

I got married in 2000. We got engaged 2 years prior. It was either a ring or a new boiler. I opted for hot water and heating! I did not feel that I had missed out by not having an engagement ring.

In about 2010, my mum passed onto me one of my granny's diamond rings. My Mum had worn this ring for years.

I wear this as an "unofficial' engagement ring if I am going out.