Nephew at wedding

[pastaislife]

Don’t have kids yet so not sure if I am the unreasonable one..

Getting married next month. Sister is staying in the on-site accom with nephew who will be almost 3.

She was asking about accom facilities, and said something along the lines of ‘well of course we’ll miss the first dance/cake cutting as we need to take nephew off to do bathtime and bedtime routine before 7pm bedtime’

I thought for a one off they could’ve stayed a bit longer?! Skipped bath maybe?! Was trying not to pull too much of a face but just seemed very OTT to me! Was thinking of asking if they could stay a bit longer for the main bits but not sure how well that will go down 😵‍💫

[StaunchMomma]

They know their child best, at the end of the day.

Maybe they've kept him up on another occasion and it turned him into a devil child? Maybe it throws his sleep pattern off and they get a week of 5am wakes? Maybe they are anxious parents who just cannot handle the thought of someone else doing their child's bath/bed routine? Some kids/parents handle changes to routine no problem and others don't.

You won't miss a couple of guests taking off to care for their child for a few hours on your wedding day, surely? You'll be busy having fun!

Don't take it personally, OP. Hope you have a wonderful day.

[Tiddlypomtiddlypom]

Some parents are beyond inflexible in their kids’ routines. To the point that they’ll make their own lives really, really hard. I don’t get it personally. I’m all for some routine, but working flexibility into that is beneficial. And staying up a bit late, as a near three year old, and missing a bath, is surely not going to cause the end of the world? Unless their rigid routine has created a child who cannot cope with change of any description.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

It totally depends on the child. Mother of 6 and 4 of them would have stayed up a bit and slept longer. 1 would stay up until after last orders and been up at cock crow.

But dc5 would ruined it. He needed his routine....no matter what I tried, no he needed it. If I had tried to keep him up past bedtime it would have resulted in a mad half hour followed by a mega screaming fit and a horrible day the next day. He developed his routine not me!!

So it's easy to say "oh don't be so precious" if you haven't had one of those kids, and I would have done before he was a toddler, but those of us who have had routine needing kids are more understanding.

[Ladybug14]

It'd lovely that you've invited the child, OP. So many don't like children at weddings. Maybe your sister is on MN and is keen for her child to cause zero 'trouble' 😀

[ZoraMipha]

@Lcb123

Honestly my best wedding advice is don’t worry about what any one else does throughout the day. You won’t notice if they’re there or not

This. You will be having such an amazing time on the day, you are very unlikely to care!

[Thepossibility]

My 3 yo I would keep up for the party. Some other 3 yo would be miserable if kept up late and would make it very plain that they were miserable.
Just enjoy your party and let them crack on with whatever is best.
You don't want a toddler tantrum at your party.

[Doingmybest12]

There must be more to this otherwise why wouldn't you trust your sister to make the best plan for her son or want your sister to do something she isn't happy about. She will be at your wedding.