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Monday weddings

78 replies

bardos · 30/12/2021 22:49

Thoughts on a Monday wedding. Either from the brides view or a guest.

Background: fallen in love with a venue for our reception and the difference between a Monday and Friday is £3000.

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PurpleDaisies · 30/12/2021 22:50

Unless it’s school holidays, no thanks.

Piggy42 · 30/12/2021 22:51

I wouldn’t attend a Monday wedding unless it was v close family member eg sibling or a best friend. To much hassle with taking holiday, childcare etc.

OGenkiDesuKa · 30/12/2021 22:51

We got married on a Monday evening two weeks ago and it was perfect!

kitcat15 · 30/12/2021 22:55

I wouldn't attend a Monday wedding unless family....my annual leave is precious.... but other people would I'm sure

Justkeeppedaling · 30/12/2021 22:57

I think it's a great idea, as long as you give people plenty of notice.

LilyE1234 · 30/12/2021 22:58

No I probably wouldn’t attend or I’d leave early so I wouldn’t have to take 2 days off work.
If it was my wedding, I’d save up a bit longer and go for the Friday.

Sinner10 · 30/12/2021 23:00

Can it be a bank holiday Monday?

Wowcherarestalkingme · 30/12/2021 23:00

I got married on a Monday. Was during the Christmas holidays and everyone came except one guest who is a Dr and was working. I wouldn’t have done it not in the holidays as people would have struggled to take the time off but then I’m a teacher and wouldn’t be able to anyway.

Laufeythejust · 30/12/2021 23:02

I would be annoyed but would probably still come and grumble loads to DP beforehand. I can’t help but think it’s cheaper for the bride and groom but they are passing on the expense to their guests (time off work or loss of wages).

beautifullymad · 30/12/2021 23:03

We got married on a Wednesday for this reason. We were able to hire the venue for 4 days and had 22 family guests stay over so their accommodation was included in our costs. It worked really well.

A Saturday wedding was many thousands more and we could only have the venture for two days.
We timed it over a half term to accommodate children and people travelling the length of the country.

It all worked well.

gogohm · 30/12/2021 23:04

No because it means 2 days annual leave. Much prefer simple weddings that wouldn't cost more that £3k anyway

LethargicActress · 30/12/2021 23:04

I’d be disappointed with a Monday wedding invitation because it would mean leaving early and probably driving.

burnoutbabe · 30/12/2021 23:04

Only for a sibling would I attend.

And Most guests would surely leave after dinner, ie 6/7 to avoid having to take 2 days off work.

InTheMiddle23 · 30/12/2021 23:07

I wouldn't worry about guests annual leave. It's just a transfer of time.

PurpleDaisies · 30/12/2021 23:13

No teacher friends will be there if it’s teen time

PurpleDaisies · 30/12/2021 23:13

Term time

MajorCarolDanvers · 30/12/2021 23:15

If you were a relative or very close friend I'd take the time off work. Otherwise I would decline.

Kite22 · 30/12/2021 23:15

If it were school holidays, then it would be fine for me, but if it weren't, then people that work in schools couldn't attend. You know who you would like to invite and what they do.

If it were a sibling, or someone very close, then people would make more of an effort, but if it were someone a little more distant (in terms of relationship closeness) it becomes less likely that people will want to start using annual leave for weddings - especially if they are already stretched covering when their dc are on holiday.

I mean, obviously if you are talking a guest list of a dozen people you are closest to, and a quiet meal afterwards then it makes sense, but from the fact you have said the venue would be "£3k cheaper " then I guess your numbers are quite a bit bigger than that......or will be until people start to RSVP that they can't come.

PurpleDaisies · 30/12/2021 23:15

@InTheMiddle23

I wouldn't worry about guests annual leave. It's just a transfer of time.
I don’t understand what you mean by “transfer of time”?
Kite22 · 30/12/2021 23:16

I also think you will get people who will come to the ceremony and meal, and then leave in time to drive home so they can get to work the next day, so if you are planning an evening party, you might find it falls a bit flat.

Yummypumpkin · 30/12/2021 23:17

It's a no from me unless its a very small, very civilised, discrete wedding.

LyraVega · 30/12/2021 23:17

@Piggy42

I wouldn’t attend a Monday wedding unless it was v close family member eg sibling or a best friend. To much hassle with taking holiday, childcare etc.
These are my thoughts too - if you're happy for only really close family and friends to be there then go for it, if you were wanting a bigger wedding then I'm not sure you'd really get the attendance I'm afraid
Maryann1975 · 30/12/2021 23:18

Nope, we wouldn’t attend unless you were a best friend or very close family. And even then, I wouldn’t be overly impressed at us all having to take time off work/school and probably wouldn’t stay late to avoid having to take the Tuesday off too (I’m self employed so if I don’t work I don’t get paid).
I agree with the pp who said that to save you £3k, you are passing the cost on to your guests having to take time off work.

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bardos · 30/12/2021 23:20

I'll keep looking at other venues. This one isn't even fancy, it's just for the venue hire of a cricket club (beautiful, but still just a cricket club haha) so I can't justify the extra £3000.

What about Fridays, how do people feel about those? Again, quite a lot cheaper than Saturdays but would only need 1 day annual leave, or half of wedding is late enough

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Macaroni46 · 30/12/2021 23:21

If you were family or close friend id be very hurt as I wouldn't be able to go (teacher).
I think you need to weigh up what's more important to you: the venue or the people you want to celebrate with?

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