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Monday weddings

78 replies

bardos · 30/12/2021 22:49

Thoughts on a Monday wedding. Either from the brides view or a guest.

Background: fallen in love with a venue for our reception and the difference between a Monday and Friday is £3000.

OP posts:
jo55ie · 30/12/2021 23:22

I generally wouldn't go on a weekday unless it was a very close family member

MySaladDaysAreGone · 30/12/2021 23:23

Fridays fine! Mondays not!

MrsPworkingmummy · 30/12/2021 23:27

DH and I are both teachers and got married on the first Monday of the Christmas holiday 6 years ago. We had 60 guests during the day and over 250 to the evening do. Not one guest declined. It was an absolutely fabulous day and started the lead up to Christmas perfectly as Christmas day itself was only 4 days later

Original poster
bardos · 30/12/2021 23:27

Thanks everyone. I'll stick to looking at Friday/Saturday. I work shifts so never really bothered by when events are, so wanted to get an idea of others opinions. Glad I did or I might of had a lot of empty chairs!

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 30/12/2021 23:30

Fridays are still no good for teachers unless they’re in the school holidays. I suppose you could just ask teachers to the evening do.

Kite22 · 30/12/2021 23:32

Well, as has been said, you have to look down the list of people you are thinking about inviting and see how practical it would be for your guests.

Snally82 · 30/12/2021 23:40

Just had a Monday wedding. No declines and no one left early

Madmother1963 · 30/12/2021 23:43

I'm getting married on a Friday and told people a year in advance. No one has refused!

2pinkginsplease · 31/12/2021 09:38

A wedding would mean most people need to take the Next day off. However not everyone worker Monday to Friday. Many people work the weekend too.

Book your wedding for whatever day you want, those important to you will make the effort to be there.

Macaroni46 · 31/12/2021 10:31

@2pinkginsplease however important the person is to me, I would not be able to get the time off to attend a term time weekday wedding.

bcc89 · 31/12/2021 10:59

I would personally think you were being cheap, because it would be costing me more as a guest to attend a Monday wedding (annual leave, extra childcare) and I'd probably leave early for work the next day.

I had a Saturday wedding that worked best for my guests. After all, if you're having a wedding party in the ££££ thousands, it's also about the guests you're inviting and for them to have a good time. If it wasn't about the big party, if it's just about the couple, it doesn't matter what day you do it.

Anyway each to their own! :)

Kite22 · 31/12/2021 13:07

@2pinkginsplease

A wedding would mean most people need to take the Next day off. However not everyone worker Monday to Friday. Many people work the weekend too.

Book your wedding for whatever day you want, those important to you will make the effort to be there.

Not necessarily. You could give 4 years notice, but if you work in a job which means you can't take days off in term time, then you can't take days off in term time, however important the person is to you.

People work in all sorts of jobs and live in all sorts of circumstances - as you point out with shift working, or of course those people that always work on a Saturday. Which is why a couple getting married have to look at the people that they want to share their day, and see what their circumstances are.

20viona · 31/12/2021 13:13

I would absolutely attend on a Monday for a friend or family member. It's a no brainer!

PurpleDaisies · 31/12/2021 13:16

@20viona

I would absolutely attend on a Monday for a friend or family member. It's a no brainer!
Plenty of us are saying that we wouldn’t be able to take the time off. It’s not that we wouldn’t want to. It’s not a no brained for everyone.
GrendelsGrandma · 31/12/2021 13:19

Depends on the size and closeness to me. Family member or best friend, ok I'll use annual leave. If it was someone less close to me I'd probably say no.

Ivchangedmynameforthis · 31/12/2021 13:23

I got married on a Monday. It was during school holidays though with very few guests. In fact all of the female guests work in education so no work issues there. Only 2 people had to take annual leave.

20viona · 31/12/2021 13:27

@PurpleDaisies I answered the question that the OP asked. It's a no brainer for me 🧐 not sure why you're jumping down my neck.

PurpleDaisies · 31/12/2021 13:27

You’ve taken that target personally.

PurpleDaisies · 31/12/2021 13:27

Rather not tart her

PurpleDaisies · 31/12/2021 13:28

Target

I give up!

alwayswrighty · 31/12/2021 13:29

We got married on a Monday. The service was parents and siblings (plus their partners) only, as was the wedding breakfast. The ceremony was 3pm (latest we could get) so by the time we'd had the wedding breakfast it was about 7pm and we had more guests for drinks and a buffet. We didn't want a late one, and we don't know any teachers, so no one dropped out.

hapagirl · 31/12/2021 13:31

I had a Monday wedding with close family only. All my family expect my sister were abroad so came over to the UK. Had a lovely tiny reception then had a big party a few weeks later on a Saturday for friends.

20viona · 31/12/2021 13:32

@PurpleDaisies because you @ me of course! 🤦🏼‍♀️

EurghCobwebs · 31/12/2021 13:50

Fridays are definitely more acceptable than Mondays for guests.

waitingpatientlyforspring · 31/12/2021 16:42

I would only attend if in school holidays. I work in education so can't easily take term time days off.