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Monday weddings

78 replies

bardos · 30/12/2021 22:49

Thoughts on a Monday wedding. Either from the brides view or a guest.

Background: fallen in love with a venue for our reception and the difference between a Monday and Friday is £3000.

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PatchworkElmer · 31/12/2021 16:47

Friday is fine, although I would prefer to not use annual leave for a wedding… Monday is a real pain.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 04/01/2022 14:30

Monday is bad, Friday is good. I’d still go on either day but I heart would sink a bit opening a Monday invite.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 04/01/2022 14:33

Normally on these threads the people who had a Monday or weekday wedding say were really good and the guests were happy and the guests or potential guests who reply say weekday weddings are a pain.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 04/01/2022 14:34

Unless you’re my sister I wouldn’t take a Monday off for someone’s wedding

maddy68 · 04/01/2022 14:34

I wouldn't be able to attend as I am a teacher

Alicetheowl · 04/01/2022 15:08

Where are your guests coming from? We would not have considered a weekday wedding as our families are from opposite ends of the country so for our wedding they would have to have got there the day before, and travelled home the next day. If you have always lived in your hometown, met your fiance in the same place, and your friends are local, then it would be different.

traintraveller · 04/01/2022 16:01

If it was someone I was close to / liked enough to attend their wedding it wouldn't matter what day it was on. I got married on a Friday and everyone invited attended including one teacher although I doubt we'd have noticed if she couldn't make it. Perhaps if there were lots of teachers in my friendship group or family I would have considered a Saturday instead but it had already been postponed due to covid (original date was a Saturday).

rookiemere · 04/01/2022 16:03

I'd go to a Monday wedding if it was within driving distance ( 2-3hrs max) but I'd leave the evening do early to drive home and avoid taking an extra day off work.
Friday is better if you're having it during the working week.

ParkheadParadise · 04/01/2022 16:05

I would go to a friends wedding any day of the week, in the same way, I would go to a funeral any day of the week.
I would also travel abroad for friends wedding.

NYnewstart · 04/01/2022 16:08

I’d prefer a Sunday to a Monday as still only one day off if you want a late one,

Can you get married on a Sunday?

Kite22 · 04/01/2022 17:40

Normally on these threads the people who had a Monday or weekday wedding say were really good and the guests were happy and the guests or potential guests who reply say weekday weddings are a pain

Quite.
Same as people that have photo booths and personalised favours and 'lawn games' for 3 hours between the ceremony and the meal, etc etc.... always say their guests really liked it, but in truth, I would never let a host know it was all unnecessary faff, so people aren't getting quite the anonymous feedback they they do by asking on here.

DirtyDancing · 04/01/2022 18:19

After the 2 years we have all had- go for it! One thing I have learnt is that to be glad of invites to lovely events like weddings! I do think a lot of people feel differently now. L

Yummypumpkin · 04/01/2022 19:04

@DirtyDancing

After the 2 years we have all had- go for it! One thing I have learnt is that to be glad of invites to lovely events like weddings! I do think a lot of people feel differently now. L
This actually is very true!!!
ImInStealthMode · 04/01/2022 20:42

Monday is tricky, but as a guest it wouldn't be a definite no from me, depending on location, travel time etc.

Yuppie20 · 15/01/2022 11:48

Ive just booked a Monday wedding and was worried too but it's across the border in Ireland on a bank holiday back home so don't have the price hike of a bank holiday but majority of people should be off and everyone will be staying over the night so maybe they will book the Tuesday off if they need.
Still wish I could have the weekend before the it's thousands difference in price

RedHot22 · 15/01/2022 11:53

For me, any guest who isn’t prepared to take a days annual holiday to attend my wedding, probably isn’t worthy of an invite anyway.

It’s obviously difficult for some, those who work in education etc. Although others may have the same problem with weekends

WhatAWasteOfOranges · 15/01/2022 16:14

Nothing says I’m passing on the cost of a venue to my guests like a Monday wedding! It’s a big ask from likely a large proportion of your guests. Friday is a lot more manageable for most….

Original poster
bardos · 16/01/2022 07:47

Just to clear up a few things. Wedding is going to be in school holidays so that children can attend if the parents wish to bring them. All guests will be local (within 30 mins of venue) unless they move away before the wedding. We're going to stick with Friday afternoons, better financially for us, and means guests will only need to book one days holiday, or come after they finish work. Hopefully our guests will be happy to do that. Thanks for everyone's input. It's been helpful

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Marchmount · 16/01/2022 07:58

@RedHot22. I know you probably think your wedding is the most important day in the whole world but it’s rude to not consider your guests. Expecting multiple people to use precious annual leave/ pay extra childcare just so you don’t have to fork out extra money on a venue is very selfish.

The OP seems to have taken that on board and is being considerate unlike your bridezilla approach to wedding planning.

RedHot22 · 16/01/2022 08:35

[quote Marchmount]@RedHot22. I know you probably think your wedding is the most important day in the whole world but it’s rude to not consider your guests. Expecting multiple people to use precious annual leave/ pay extra childcare just so you don’t have to fork out extra money on a venue is very selfish.

The OP seems to have taken that on board and is being considerate unlike your bridezilla approach to wedding planning.[/quote]
I only invited people we love and who love us. Not various randoms who complain about the audacity of an invite. We chose the wedding we wanted and invited people to join us, or not.

I’ve also taken days off to attend weddings and birthday celebrations.

I’m constantly amazed here on MN at the amount of posters who complain about an invite. If they didn’t get one, they would complain about that too.

Marchmount · 16/01/2022 13:49

Yes and I’d put my loved ones at the centre of my planning and not make it more difficult/ costly for them just so I can save a few quid. That just seems selfish.

See also destination weddings where the bride and groom effectively pass on most of the cost to their guests.

Of course it’s not a summons and anyone is free to decline the offer of forking out cash/ using precious leave to attend but it pisses me off when brides are so self-absorbed that they think it’s a privilege to attend and the guests should be hugely inconvenienced just so the couple pay less.

piney07 · 16/01/2022 13:50

Taking time off for a Friday wouldn’t bother me in the slightest for a wedding.

Monday different as you also need to take Tuesday off and it just feels less like a let your hair down fun day!

onethingonly · 16/01/2022 15:59

I'm getting married on a Monday, I am a teacher though. It will also be during the school holidays. The majority of my guests will be able to take annual leave or have it off anyway and like others say...if they want to come they will come!

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 16/01/2022 16:13

I think we all have to accept there are going to be more weekday weddings as there is still a backlog as well as 'new' couples deciding to get married. I doubt there will be enough availability on weekends to cater for everyone

piney07 · 16/01/2022 16:22

@onethingonly if holidays then totally different. Also I would still go to a wedding on Monday and be very happy to have been asked, everyone understands! Your guests will have a fab time!