Should we go ahead and have a small wedding?

[CanIBeGingerSpice]

We had originally booked to get married in May after 4 years engaged and 8 years together. Obviously it was cancelled. we rebooked for October with it in mind that things might be ok by then (how naive!) we now have to make the decision of whether to go ahead with the October wedding and have the 30 people, or postpone yet again.
I have my dress waiting, and we want to start trying for baby #2. One of my bridesmaids died suddenly during lockdown and it’s just made me realise how short life is and almost worry who else might not be there if we wait another couple of years.
It won’t be the 100 guest, big fancy wedding we had in mind. But it will be much cheaper and the most important people will be there.
Opinions welcome!

[IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere]

My older daughter has no regrets at all. She would have liked to have had her siblings and grandparents there but what mattered was starting married life.

Younger daughter who is getting married next week is really excited. She is going to wear her original dress when she has a big party but this is her proper wedding and again, the start of her marriage.

[SheWoreBlueVelvet]

How awful, poor bridesmaid.

But you’re right. No one can predict the future and if being married is important to you I’d go ahead.

It’s annoying that your choices are dictated by the virus. However there are many, many pluses to a small wedding. I had a small wedding abroad which was amazing.
Cost is a major one , although you may have lost money due to circumstances. Nothing like the smug feeling you’ve saved £1000’s.

Crucially saying your vows in front of the most important people in your life (rather than plus ones and people you’ll never see again) feels so meaningful. It’s very special and you can concentrate.

It’s nice to talk to guests properly afterwards and they like spending time with you. It’s much harder to enjoy the day with 100 guests you know you need to chat to.

It’s much easier to organise the day you want rather than the variables that come with size.Less stress.

Photos aren’t a massive trial, everyone’s involved.

You feel the love! It’s not just a big party, it’s your wedding day!

[Elieza]

Being married gives you security for your child. In that basis alone I’d get married this year and have a big do to celebrate later when we are allowed. I’m not romantic at I

[JorisBonson]

Following this thread - we also rebooked for October.

Given in to the fact that we won't have a big party any time soon, but our wedding was small anyway so just hoping upon hope we can still do most of our plans (22 in total including us then the same for a meal after in a private room).

Been pretty chilled about the whole thing but feeling quite teary about it today.