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[Imahappycamper101]

Hi, I’ve had to postpone my wedding from October to next end of next year. I’m devastated, in my head I was getting married this year and now it’s been taken away 🙁 I’ve explored every option to do it the date we wanted, we can’t. So now my dress comes in a few months and I’ve over a year to wait to wear it. My family and friends say they feel sorry for me but I don’t think they Understand the devastation I do. Anyone else feel so so sad the wedding has been put back a year? It might not seem much to younger folk, I’m getting closer to 40, plans for a family put on hold again..it feel like it’s never my time for anything, feeling very sorry for myself this week🙁

Of all the years to try and get married aye!!

I'm still here, still planned for December. Christ only knows what's going to happen. We need minimum numbers of 50, as that's what our prices are based on. Just wondering whether I'm holy to have a meal and a few drinks and just socially distanced, or whether the dancing is a deal breaker for me.

It's hard to know what to do but I'm sick to death of everyone's opinions on the subject.

Anxious hope it works out ok for you.

My wedding is a secret and thank god too because I would be sick of being asked if it was going ahead and people giving their two pence worth. I feel for you.

I don’t mean to rub it in but I’m just putting this out there to show that it can still be all ok. We got married last week on our original date. We had 9 guests. Went to a local bistro for afternoon tea.p had a few drinks in our local pub and then went on to a hotel just the two of us for the night and a meal. It was an absolutely perfect day. All of our friends said it was the most perfect chilled out wedding they had been too. Don’t loose hope ladies.

Yes but if you’ve already spent over £10k on your wedding you kind of what what you’ve paid for Butterbeen and what you booked. It’s frustrating when you can’t cancel but won’t be having what you’d planned either unless you want to lose a load of money.

Glad you had a good day though!

I totally get that a smaller day is what works for some people but it's just not for me. I can accept it's not going to be the original numbers but I really don't want to do it with less than 70. Think I'd just feel gutted and probably a bit upset if there was just a few of us there and not everyone. Realistically wondering when it can ever change now though?

Glad that it's worked for some people and that they have had a lovely day though ❤️

We were meant to be getting married in June and have postponed to the end of December. TBH I've been stressed about this wedding since we announced our engagement back in 2018. Both parents kindly gave us money with no strings attached but then DP's parents were trying to invite every person they had ever known and constantly asking what we were having, their opinions on our choices (apparently rubbish) and how we wouldn't be able to get a band/hair/suits if we didn't hurry up and book them asap (9 months before). This pushed me to the point that in January I was looking at whether we could secretly legally get married on our own then just have a pretend wedding with everyone else. I never wanted a big wedding but DP did. By March I'd started to get excited as I had my hen do and other friends were engaged... then covid happened. We chose to move to December as the date a year from our original was already a close friend's wedding date and summer next year DP's sister is getting married. I have started to feel happy about a small wedding but really don't want my guests to have to wear masks and not dance. I am also worried that our friend's who can't come will ignore the fact we got married if they can't come and that makes me slightly dread their large celebrations next year. (this is then going to sound so petty) We waited a few weeks before telling people we were engaged and phoned people rather than posting on social media. Anyway, a group of girls that always recognises these life events by grouping together to buy flowers didn't send us any and I found out later it was because I hadn't announced it publicly on social media.
I've considered moving again if December can't happen how we want it to but DP's parents have basically said it can't happen next summer because of his sister's wedding... sorry for the long rant but I've not been able to vent for a while.
I also feel ready to start a family and like you feel like we'd be trying now if it had gone ahead.

Just remembered I posted on here and thought I'd pop back. Any re-arrangers still planning?

We're booked back in for next July. Not planned anything since postponing last July - planning to see how the ground lies at the end of January