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The imaginatively-named Wedding Quiche

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TobyLerone · 21/10/2012 18:49

Come one, come all.

Getting married? Come and tell us about it so you don't have to go on the scary Bridezilla forums.

Wedding-whore? Come and relive the best day of your life.

Wedding-voyeur? Bugger off, you freak! Get your fix here.

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TobyLerone · 28/11/2012 20:23

I was thinking that about the January sales, but my mum gave me a 25% off voucher today which I can use in conjunction with the 3 for 2, so I think I'll just get them this week. Also, the wedding is on 12th January, so I don't want to risk leaving it too late!

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Scheherezade · 28/11/2012 21:08

I'll buy them off you when you're done then

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TobyLerone · 28/11/2012 22:25

You can if you want! I'll have loads of crap to flog after the wedding, and I'm selling it all. Cups/saucers, cake stands and fairy lights mainly. It'll all be going on eBay, but I'll try to remember to sneak a little list on here beforehand :)

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TobyLerone · 28/11/2012 22:25

Oh, and my dress!

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Scheherezade · 28/11/2012 22:59

Deffo :) just make sure they're nice soft warm ones :) but yeah, cake stands is another good one. I'll have the lot, save elbowing the crowds in the sales haha

Scheherezade · 28/11/2012 23:00

You're not showing on my pinterest btw

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TobyLerone · 29/11/2012 08:21

I'm definitely following you. Can't link to mine as on phone but will do it later.

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TobyLerone · 29/11/2012 08:22

Or I have linked to it way way back in the thread if you can be arsed to look

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Scheherezade · 29/11/2012 09:51

How are you organising the seating WRT it being all self service? What about clearing away, and I'm guessing it'll be slow, so the ones who started first will have finished long before the last ones. And then clearing plates etc?

Think I might have to find myself some cheap waiting staff :(

DP wants formal seating plan to make sure no one is next to someone they shouldn't be (e.g. my very strict, iranian) family next to drunken party animals from uni! But I can't see it working when everyone's getting up and down. Rather than having the scones on a seperate table, I thought maybe have them piled up on plates all along the tables for people to tuck into as they want.

Scheherezade · 29/11/2012 09:53

That dress is lovely btw ellargh (Sorry, only just got on laptop as can't C&P links on my phone).

Scheherezade · 29/11/2012 09:54

You wouldn't have a picture of the dress your friend got? I'm happy to buy second hand/off ebay, btu I just worry about buying from china, because you can't return it if it's no good!

Where do you hire a seamstress from? Am guessing bridal shops wouldn't be too happy about it!

Scheherezade · 29/11/2012 21:23

Right, I now have to put together a proposal for the village hall committee. Stating that the walls are a yucky yellowy peach colour, the curtains are horrific and it'd solve everyones problems if rather than hiring a load of muslin to cover it all up, I buy some paint and decorate the place myself with a lot of help from DP in return I get hall for free.

I have the preschool which is run there on side.

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TobyLerone · 29/11/2012 22:12

Busy couple of days but I'll be back soon. In the meantime, though, decorating the hall sounds like a great idea :)

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TobyLerone · 30/11/2012 15:24

Right. Re seating everyone, I've been to plenty of weddings where there has been a seating plan and a self-service buffet and it works fine. There needs to be someone who tells each table to get their food, so that there isn't a huge bundle at the buffet. But it's perfectly normal to do it like that. Everyone goes up when they're told to, and then when everyone has had their first plateful, it's usually announced that anyone who would like seconds can go and get some. Not everyone will, so it's less of a free-for-all and people can usually be left to their own devices. There isn't really a lot of 'getting up and down' once everyone has their food.

As far as clearing away goes, you'll definitely need some staff. Temp agencies will help you if need be, unless you can find someone yourself and pay them cash in hand. That's what we're doing. We've hired an 'event manager' for the day (a friend of a friend who organises weddings in a hotel as her day job) and she is bringing a couple of people she knows to serve drinks, clear tables, move chairs and set up tables after the ceremony etc.

We're not having a seating plan. We're setting up more chairs than there are people, and everyone can sit where they like. I really want it to be very relaxed and informal, although my BFF (WeddingPlannerZilla) is having kittens about everyone sitting down and DP and me not having anywhere to sit I can't say I could care less if I sat on the floor, to be honest!

Oh, and Pinterest, for Scheherezade :)

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Scheherezade · 02/12/2012 19:59

Good news and bad;

Good- we've got free wedding photography from photography students. The crockery at the hall is gorgeous, white bone China. The chairman is happy for us to paint it in exchange for free use. I'm going wedding dress shopping Tuesday!

Bad- the village hall committee are actually applying for a grant to completely re do the inside. Which might be in summer, after our wedding. Either meaning we can't have it there, or can't paint it as they are having a new floor put in. The next meeting is early next year so we have to wait till then to find out.

Scheherezade · 02/12/2012 20:01

When I say paint it, I mean just the inside! Should be really cheap to do, ceiling is fine, just cover up the dodgy 90s peach walls

ellargh · 03/12/2012 15:12

I've decided to go with black for the bridesmaids. I have a size 8 and a size 24 so for a late Autumn/Winter wedding I thought www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Long-Black-MontyQ-Dress-Long-Sleeve-Formal-Evening-Maternity-Dress-Party-Gown-/261096519393?pt=UK_Women_s_Dresses&var=560170615541&hash=item3cca90b6e1 these would be perfect as there's no need to add a cardigan.

Also, I just got hold of the caterer at the church hall who said we could provide our own catering making it much cheaper for us. I'm going to enlist friends (my best friend's husband is a pastry chef) and family to help cook the meat etc, have lots of fresh rolls, butter and salad and do a little buffet then have a table devoted to gateaux's, cheesecakes, fairy cakes and pick'n'mix sweets with little bags.

Now all we need is a date and we can start buying! We want next October but we have to see what's available in January when we have the money to book!

Scheherezade · 03/12/2012 15:21

That sounds lovely ellargh I think we're going to have quite similar weddings!

I've worked out with a friend I'll definitely be ok to have the hall, as they won't redecorate till the preschool breaks up for summer. So its just a case of finding out if we have to hang material up, or can paint it.

I haven't decided what to have for the evening buffet yet.

Are you going to hire staff to serve on the day?

ellargh · 03/12/2012 15:55

No staff. I'm just going to enlist people to put it all out on the table with some heightened areas for things like the basket of bread rolls etc and let people help themselves with paper plates. Picnic style.

I wanted wall linings but for the hall they'll cost over £1000 and if I'm honest I'd prefer a photo booth

ellargh · 03/12/2012 15:59

Just had a think about staff. I'm going to need them, aren't I? To set up, take away, bin the stuff we don't need. Any advice on where I can get free staff?

Hm. I love your idea of painting the hall. I wonder if my hall would be up for that? It's half peach and half magnolia with ugly curtains and the paint itself is worn.

ellargh · 03/12/2012 16:00

By free staff I didn't mean I wasn't going to pay them but as to how I would find them as literally everyone we know will be attending as guests.

Scheherezade · 03/12/2012 16:21

ellargh I'm going to put up an advert outside our village shop (they have a noticeboard), hopefully some kids will be up for some pocket money.

ellargh · 03/12/2012 16:29

That's a good idea. Thank you. Fiancé thinks I'm insane for wanting to pay staff and thinks that our family would be happy to do it but I think our family are guests and shouldn't be expected to.

Lots of time to figure that out though. My first agenda is getting DP a permanent job or at least hoping to help him in some way. His job is temporary so if he doesn't have a permanent job by Feb we are not going to be able to save enough for an October wedding :(

Scheherezade · 03/12/2012 17:00

Fx for you. It's so expensive, I can't believe the cost of some venues. I'm getting a large backpayment which we're using for it. But my mums buying my dress, DPs mum is giving some money. Trying to do it as cheap as possible.

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TobyLerone · 03/12/2012 20:08

I would advise getting professional staff. Kids from the local village are all well and good and cheap, but they'd need someone who knows what they're doing to keep them in line anyway. Better to hire a couple of staff from a temp agency, IMO.

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