I need to start over - please help me

[ElderflowerRose]

Weaning my baby has been a disaster.

Started just shy of six months on HV advice - he’d dropped a centile. Started very diligently with vegetables, but everything was refused.

I’m not really looking for suggestions as to what I can give him as I have absolutely loads of recipes and things I could give him. What I need to know is how to reset the button.

At the moment, he cries when you put his bib on, he cries when he’s in his high chair. He’s obviously got very negative associations with food. So for now the bib is in the bin and the high chair in the garage. I’m going to completely leave it for a week.

Does anyone have any suggestions for how I can do this again and do it right this time? No table so can’t sit him there.

@ElderflowerRose

Thanks, yes, I think I’ll just let nursery sort it!

You can work with them to so it but they won't be able to put much focus on it. Probably just put the food down and see what happens.

I'm probably not alone in thinking this but actually you've just got to pull your big girl pants up and get on with it. It's not about you and how upset you feel now you've encountered something difficult about parenting. You've got many many more of these difficult hurdles to jump over in the next 18 years and you can't just opt out and let someone else do it.

Pull yourself together, take all the excellent advice given here and start again. But do do it or you might possibly set a trend for yourself which would ultimately be a terrible thing for both of you.

No one is saying the advice isn’t good, but it isn’t working, and I really feel the best thing at this point is for me to step back from the process as I am upsetting both of us. But thanks for your ‘robust’ post.

You don’t get to step back, I’m sorry but that’s how it is now.

He likes yoghurt so give him yoghurt. In time give him other things too.

I agree with all the above my 5.5 month old will sit on my lap (she can sit unaided and will sit in high chair etc) and literally will just grab what she wants - banana, some avadcado, toast etc. She doesn't actually take much and will spit what she don't want out... Just lead by your LO

Does he have a high chair? Sounds like he's on the sofa when you feed him. He needs a proper high chair.

He has a high chair the op has explained that he screams hysterically just being put in it.

I also think a complete break and let it be reintroduced by nursery is the best course of action for her son.

Sit him in his high chair while you do other stuff maybe? Stick on some baby videos on the TV, sing with him, play, let him watch you doing things, give him toys.

And maybe put the bib on when he’s not eating - just let him play with it on.

Then eventually just put some finger food in front of him while he’s in the high chair and see what happens.

Maybe he’s stressed because you are too. Remember this is not a big deal - he’ll eat eventually