My last day today and nobody acknowledged it

[Iamsohungryy]

I left the company after 1 year (6 months in 1 team, then 6 months on promotion in the second team')
It's really shown me how the office environment can make or break a role. Team 1 was absolutely fine, I had a couple of friends, manager was great, job was fine, I just applied for promotion to team 2 as it was a 5k payrise.

Should say on team 1 I joined with 5 others and that really helped bonding and settling in. Team 2..put in alone with people who'd all been there years and all very extroverted/loved banter. Nobody was nasty but I very quickly got the frequent 'quiet' comments and label. I did make conversation and try, went to the team lunches twice but just always felt on the outside. No friends on that team, nobody to talk to.

Gave my notice in 1 month ago as I got onto a course in an area I'm trying to progress into. Manager announced to the team of 12 in an online meeting I was leaving. One woman (the only genuine one) said 'have you got a new job?) I was told I could wfh for the rest of my notice except for once a week. Nobody asked me what job I was going onto. They knew when my last day was. Nobody said a word to me.

Did handover with manager, gave them my laptop etc. He said good luck and all the best. The woman in my team didn't even look up from her laptop. I just walked out and quit the group whatsapp.

Nobody's said good luck. Not a word. I'm not expecting a red carpet, 6 months is only short but it's basic human decency.

I left a job after 6 months 2 years ago (it was a fixed term role) and I got a card, collection and leaving drinks. It just depends on the culture, I've just never known anything like this. Have I expected too much?

That's just awful. I'm so sorry. It them not you x

Just unbelievably cold. So sorry.

On the upside pp, introverts tend to be more intelligent, so take heart :)

I've seen so many come and go over the last 30 years I'm kind of bored with it now. It won't be a 'you thing' just everyone with staff turnover fatigue especially with so many WFH now which stops you building a real relationship with people.

May also be a few irritated at all the time invested in getting you trained etc but that isn't your problem.

After only 1 year
I would not be expecting lots of people to acknowledge you leaving the company

Not enough time in the job

I took early retirement from the Civil Service after 15 years. My line manager did not say one word to me from the day I handed my notice until the day I left … four months later.

Feeling for you. A card with a few nice words costs very little effort. It says more about them than you x
Some groups of people are just plain nasty.
I have a lovely friend (NHS) who is a the only specialist of their type working in a big team of other professions. Tried to integrate for years, contributed to and joined it all celebrations for others. But their birthday is actively ignored each year, even their 50th. They’re leaving soon and placing bets on whether their departure (after 5yrs) will be ignored, or if there’ll be a 1/2 hearted attempt they’ll have to sit through.

OP, six months is a relatively short time to leave your new team never mind the weird team dynamics in the mix! I’ve just left my role after six months! Apart from my manager and a few colleagues who wished me well, I didn’t get any other acknowledgment in the form of a card/present/leaving do and honestly I didn’t expect it at all. I would have felt weird if they had as I did not stay long enough to warrant it! Make peace with it and hope your course goes well. Onwards to a better future. Cheers

I'm sorry that's rubbish. Good luck with your new venture

Went on Matt leave after working in my job for 7 years (as Front of house manager of a theatre) nothing. No email, card, flowers when I left , I just went home after my last shift at 38 weeks…. Also nothing after I sent a pic in of the baby vie email…. Applied for other jobs on Matt leave and never went back.

It's happened to me before too. I even brought in trays of doughnuts (tradition for a persons last day) and someone asked "who's leaving" to me when they ate one. I had contributed to everyone else's leaving gift but when my time came noone even arranged one. Best to walk on and use it as confirmation that you left for much better things

I left a job after 17 years, not even a leaving card. I am so glad I left. They obviously really hated me and were just doing fake friends. Move on and forget them.

You could have said goodbye to them. If you felt like this about the team it would have been fairly obvious, so that'sprobablywhy nobody said anything, if they even knew. Not sure why you are bothered considering what you've posted about working there.

I worked in a school for 2 years and not one member of staff acknowledged I was going. What made it worse was that I was made redundant and didn’t want to leave.

That behaviour was downright despicable-what’s wrong with people ?! Just rude and hurtful 😡

I've been in my current job 18 months.

My dear mum recently passed away after a long illness. I've heard nothing from anyone at work.

Every time since I started working there when someone's parent / close relative has passed, there has been a collection & flowers sent. I've always contributed.

For me, literally nothing.

It's not like I'm broken by this fact but it has registered. I feel I need to start looking for something else once mum's funeral is over & life starts returning to a normal routine.

You're lucky if work colleagues become work family, but for both of us OP it's a reminder not everyone treats colleagues with the same basic level we assume. Work is work even tho it can be a huge amount of our time.

You are lucky you have moved on from the ppl you were with. I still have to secure my get-out.

I think you simply did not fit the culture, hence never got connected. Don’t be sad as you can’t be friends with people who are too different and might even be relieved because of being too self centred. Possibly it wasn’t really your world and it’s nobody’s fault

It wouldn't bother me because it's very rare that I like the people I work with so I couldn't care less about leaving gifts or anything. Work is something I had to do to get money Office parties were like having teeth pulled. I think it's because I'm choosy about who I class as a friend and I've had enough experience of office cliques and politics to know the darker side of people's nature's. One of my workmates died and I refused to go to his funeral because he was a lecherous, pervy excuse of a man and I told the office straight out why. I just can't be false to look nice.
I've never been loyal to a job, if someone offers more money I'm gone.
You are hardly likely to spend time with those people now you've left, be thankful for it! You don't need validation if you have integrity, you have personal satisfaction that you have done a professional job.

It works the opposite way too! I left after 20 years, and did not want any fuss at all. I ended up with the best part of £400, a lovely card and some wonderful messages. I was mostly embarrassed, but spent the money on frivolous things all the same, and still have the card.

I must admit to not reading the whole thread, but was someone in the Team 2 expecting to get the job that you were given OP? I have been in that situation more than once. I have ended up with very bitter staff who were difficult to get anything productive out of.

I'd be perfectly happy with that, I find people making a fuss over me totally awkward and cringe.

Office dynamics and politics are so political and complex. Sounds like the extroverts have seen off people who don't fit in their gang. It's the manager's job to set standards in an office, including social interactions. Clearly your manager failed you. It's horrible to feel as though you are invisible and unvalued. But groups can be terribly cliquey and someone perceived as outside the group can end up being almost ostracised. Brush yourself down and determinedly vow to give these people not one more second of your time. If you find yourself in a team or group situation later on, perhaps you can take the experience you've had and ensure that others who might be excluded are made to feel welcome and a part of things. In other words, that old cliché, be the change you wish to see. Good luck.

That's really mean of them not to even say goodbye. I hope your next job is better.

You sound like one of the ones who didn’t bother to look up from their desk. Ignorant. A simple cheerio and good luck killed no one but would have been appreciated by the OP. She wasn’t expecting bunting and a pipe band FGS.

I left a job after 8 years with two colleagues who had been there 10 and 12 years. We dropped our IT equipment and passes off together to an empty office and left.

The company had been great for the previous 7 years but has changed a lot in the previous year. It was an awful way to finish

6 months was not long enough to get leaving acknowledgement, you were like a temp to them. I worked for the NHS for 40 years, general culture was: less than 2 years? Nothing.