My last day today and nobody acknowledged it

[Iamsohungryy]

I left the company after 1 year (6 months in 1 team, then 6 months on promotion in the second team')
It's really shown me how the office environment can make or break a role. Team 1 was absolutely fine, I had a couple of friends, manager was great, job was fine, I just applied for promotion to team 2 as it was a 5k payrise.

Should say on team 1 I joined with 5 others and that really helped bonding and settling in. Team 2..put in alone with people who'd all been there years and all very extroverted/loved banter. Nobody was nasty but I very quickly got the frequent 'quiet' comments and label. I did make conversation and try, went to the team lunches twice but just always felt on the outside. No friends on that team, nobody to talk to.

Gave my notice in 1 month ago as I got onto a course in an area I'm trying to progress into. Manager announced to the team of 12 in an online meeting I was leaving. One woman (the only genuine one) said 'have you got a new job?) I was told I could wfh for the rest of my notice except for once a week. Nobody asked me what job I was going onto. They knew when my last day was. Nobody said a word to me.

Did handover with manager, gave them my laptop etc. He said good luck and all the best. The woman in my team didn't even look up from her laptop. I just walked out and quit the group whatsapp.

Nobody's said good luck. Not a word. I'm not expecting a red carpet, 6 months is only short but it's basic human decency.

I left a job after 6 months 2 years ago (it was a fixed term role) and I got a card, collection and leaving drinks. It just depends on the culture, I've just never known anything like this. Have I expected too much?

If you didnt really take part in much or tell them face to face you were leaving firstly they might not even know. They might think if she can't be bothered to tell us she's leaving then we can 't be bothered to say goodbye.

I hear you, OP, I'm not an extrovert or a natural joiner-in (although I don't avoid light chat with colleagues and have had nice work relationships; I'm not a misery!).
It irks me that extroverted people don't seem to be punished or judged for it, or told to rein it in a bit, but quieter people get told they need to join in more, come out of their shell etc.
Even for someone I didn't really know at work, when I realised they were leaving I'd at least smile and say, 'Good luck in your next job' or 'Take care' or something.
I guess you're better off out of there.

Why? You haven't been there long enough to be a team member.

i was made redundant last year from a role in emergency services. I had worked there in several different roles for 29 years. Several people all left for the same reason at the same time. We were told as we were going that we didn’t need to attend the workplace for the last few weeks, but to continue to wfh.
On my last day, I logged off, shut down my laptop and that was it. No card, no gift, nothing.
I was alone at home - couldn’t even find the cat to have a party with him 😹
Just put it behind you and look forward to your new role. Good luck.

You aren't expecting too much but the veneer of 'we're a team' has definitely died off in the last 10 years. Nobody gets a job for life and nobody expects you to commit for life.

Can't believe how many people here are acting like yabu. It's just common courtesy to ask what you're leaving for and wish you all the best. Personally I'd suggest a drink but I'm old and maybe that's not the done thing anymore. The only thing I can think of is that maybe people expect someone's last day to be a Friday, so perhaps they didn't clock that it was actually today.

Hi OP
Sorry you're getting such crap, unsympathetic replies. It's Mumsnet - not the real world and not normal.
6 months is still a decent amount of time and even if it was less - of course it's common decency to take a minute wish you luck or ask about your new job!
Most of my workplaces have been kind and lovely when I was leaving, but I had 1 that I wont forget:
I was there for 1 year, was always nice and friendly to them, did not complain or create trouble. BUT I didnt fit in (I was older, non-British and not interested in drinking every Friday night). Still, I thought I got on well with some of the people.
On my last leaving day I'd brought some sweet and savoury snacks, which i laid on a table next to me (open plan type office). Only 2-3 people stopped to get food, and even they did not say a word to me. Literally the only person who came over was my manager - she did give me a gift card (probably paid for by the company) and that was it.
It was truly awful and I hadn't done anything to them either. I felt very sad at the time but now I dont care at all. I'm happy with my job and have lovely colleagues.

Sorry if I've missed it, but I don't think you have answered the questions being asked, did you (not your manager) -

Take in cakes or sweets for your last day?
Talk to your team mates about leaving and that you would miss them?
Make more of an attempt to get to know them than 2 lunches?
Ask them if they fancied a lunch for YOU to say goodbye to THEM?

Or are you one of these introverts that expect extroverts to do things for them while you make absolutely no effort yourself?

Perhaps they thought you didn't want to discuss it, or wanted to leave quietly, or that you hated the lot of them. When someone is leaving, especially after such a short time, they are the ones that set the tone around conversations about it.

I think you need to look closer at yourself before you go to your next team to see how you can make a better impression and bond with your team.

Best of luck in your new role.

My bil got nothing after 30 yrs! Not nice. I think nobody does collections or cards now.

People could have at least said goodbye and wished you well in your new job. I think expecting a card and a gift is a bit excessive though but that’s just me. We have constant collections at work for leavers, retirees, landmark birthdays, new babies, weddings etc and it’s a bit much sometimes.

This happed to me i was only there for 6 months, but others had been there less time and we all put in for a present and card, when I finished my shift not even a goodbye, just wish I hadn't bothered when others left.

I wouldn’t be as unfriendly and would definitely ask you your plans (out of nosiness if nothing else!) However, I kind of get it, particularly if people have been there a while and seen people come and go. I know it’s dependent on circumstances but, to some people, a person leaving after a short period of time = wasted time on training/onboarding, with more of the same to look forward to for the replacement.

I’d expect a verbal ‘good luck’ but no more. Cards, lunches and presents are for colleagues who have contributed something and that isn’t really the case at six months in for anyone. So, I don’t think they’ve necessarily been rude and I wouldn’t give it any more thought. Look forward to your course instead!

It wouldn’t be too much to ask, to expect a farewell and all the best. It takes more effort to wilfully ignore it than to say a few words!
YANBU.

Those team members had 0 to do with my recruitment or training, my training was on teams for 4 weeks with other new starters across the country.
We also work on our own individual caseloads, we don't really have different contributions to the team in that sense.

Do lots of the team wfh most of the time? I’m just wondering if there weren’t many relationships built?

We were wfh 2 days a week and office 3 times per week,we all had to sit together in the same desks

Sounds like just a bit of a shitty place then.

I retired from a civil service job after 31 years and got absolutely nothing. Not even a goodbye. Not that I miss any of the people I worked with. But that’s the civil service for you 👍🏻

Lacking in human decency thought to not at least acknowledge it! I'd say good luck even after a month!

That's awful. I'm v sorry. I took voluntary redundancy from the civil service after a decade but did get a leaving speech etc....so it's not necessarily the civil service. I'd rather have not had that speech though as I'm v introverted and felt embarrassed....

It’s not you, OP. It’s them. How bloody rude not to even say goodbye. A card would have cost, what, £1. This says a lot more about them than it does you.

You’ve made lots of other work friends along the way so think about them and smile. I’m still in touch with people I worked with 35 years ago and they’re very special to me.

Hope you love your new course and make some new friends there. Best wishes.

I think it was harsh.

We did leaving drinks and a card for the temp who was only with us for about 6 weeks.

I got a card and leaving gift from a place I worked in for 4 months.

Just seems basic manners to acknowledge when someone is leaving the team/company.

On the other hand, don't take it personally, you were probably just unlucky with that team.

Shame this post can't be permanently pinned up for those people who say 'we decided not to have children, but concentrate on our careers, as it is more rewarding'.

I had the same after 6 years it was really horrible actually and despite telling myself it's not personal, it felt it. It sucks OP, it's not hard to say bye to someone just as a pleasantry.