They haven’t been huge fans of me for a while, it’s all very civil and we still see eachother and get on fine but I am very much not their cup of tea in a lot of ways, they adore DH’s ex and are still very close to her, I am an introvert, not a huge drinker, don’t massively enjoy loud social gatherings and prefer quieter socialising like going for dinner and a glass of wine with friends, and spending time out walking with my dogs and lunching in country pubs. I’m 44, I’ve done my partying! They are very loud and drink like fish then become even louder…no issue with that just not really me.
Anyway they think I’m boring, which I’m fine with. Last week with the England game on Saturday night, there was a big family party to watch the match at one of their houses. I didn’t go - I was at a funeral during the day and had from word go said no to going as I knew I would definitely not be in the mood after an emotional day.
DH went - plan was drive over there, drink, watch match, sleep over there and then back the following day. I was home - chilled evening, glass of wine with my dogs in the garden then an early night.
3am one of my dogs started barking like mad. We had a cat get in through an open window a couple of days before so I though it might have happened again, went downstairs to find DH attempting to unlock the front door unsuccessfully as I had left my keys in the other side of the lock. His car was on the drive. I let him in and he was very clearly absolutely smashed. I went mental, called him stupid, told him in no uncertain terms how fucking furious I was. Went back to bed seething while he fumbled around downstairs burning toast like a moron. The next morning I woke up still fuming and decided to message the family group chat to let them know how pissed off I was that they had allowed him to drive in the state he was in. I wasn’t rude, obviously he is an adult and made the choice. But they are such enablers, I have never known a group of adults to need to drink to such excess.
I didn’t get a single reply to my message. I over heard a call from his parents where they said he was silly for driving but luckily he “got away with it”. They genuinely only think the risk was being pulled over, not that he could have killed himself or some other poor person . I heard his Mum say “well never mind alls well that ends well, it was a good night.”
Today - another England game, I’m not in the country as am abroad visiting my family. DH is with his family to watch the game. He swears he is not drinking and is going to actually stop all together as he knows he makes bad choices when he has been drinking…that won’t last! He called me and told me His Mum has been badgering him all day about why he is not drinking tonight and that he does not need to listen to me as I am a kill joy.
Urgh. I don’t care but it’s just so awkward.