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Gross misconduct....what happens next

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Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 20:54

I really need to voice this to someone who can help please. Frankly I'm sat here so worried, that my DH is going to lose his job.

He has a gross misconduct meeting, and been given the notes of the meeting. Mentioned his breaks being long, not fulfilling his job role. They do have a clock in and clock out system, and it did mention on the letter that they were satisfied with his break times. Went over his job role, about if he asked to move to a different location, what does he need to do.

After the meeting he was told that's fine, they will investigate and be on touch. We really can't afford to lose his job and I am so worried about this all. Any advice from anyone who has gone through this, or something similar? If he was at risk of losing his job, would they tell him in the meeting.

This was just a informal meeting between him and 2 managers, he wasn't told anything about this prior.

Any advice I can be given, I would be very grateful. He just says it'll be fine, but having never gone through this I am so worried.

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Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:29

Retireornot · 25/06/2026 22:28

Some of this advice is odd. If he’s in the union then it is them he should be contacting. Not ACAS. Unions have rules which mean if you take advice from anyone else then they don’t represent. Plus - that’s what he’s paying for. Forget all this crap like seeing if you have cover on house insurance (what?) because the union covers anything legal if you are fully paid up.

Tell him - contact his union - email them but try and call too. I have been a union official for over 30 years.

Yes he is apart of the union, I will tell him to be in touch with them. Hopefully they can offer some help on the situation..

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Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:31

Isitevensummer · 25/06/2026 22:28

ok, its becoming Clearer. Someone has made a complaint citing serious health and safety and conduct issues if what they are saying is true. The managers are doing a preliminary investigation and are satisfied that he's not committing fraud by essentially stealing time, or causing a danger by not answering calls when he should be. There might be some learning about how breaks are scheduled and communicated, possibly staffing shortages and a question to the worker who wasn't on break and didn't answer the call. I wouldn't be too worried either if I was your husband. The managers just had to explain that these would be gross misconduct if they were true.

I'm going to read this message and re- read and re- read again, and really hope this is the case.

My husband does night shifts so is not here for me talk to, and they are not allowed phones in the work space either so frankly not having anyone to sound off from is not easy..

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hyggetyggedotorg · 25/06/2026 22:32

So, is it something like the scenario DS was telling me about at work today (a colleague was dismissed).

They work 8 hour shifts with 2 x 20 minute breaks included. The breaks are unpaid. The team are split each day into first, second & third break. When it’s your turn to take break you clock out & then clock back in 20 mins later.

The colleague in question had been requesting third break but taking first break by tailgating at the door & not clocking out or in. He would then work the 20 mins through second break & clock out & back in formally for third break. So, the gross misconduct came in because effectively he’d been fraudulently claiming 40 minutes of extra pay each day for months.

Why it took months to question it I don’t know.

If it’s something like that then unfortunately it’s his own fault.

Ohnobackagain · 25/06/2026 22:33

@Bobblesandwool I would think it is normal to interview all involved parties in a case like this. I’ve seen it at a former employer when some people were taking the mick with timesheets. We all got investigated, which was nerve wracking (even though I knew I was in the clear).

Bonnylassie · 25/06/2026 22:35

As others have it is an investigation meeting, no notice is required, if they decide to move forward with a disciplinary he will need to be given notice. I would ask him to read his disciplinary policy as there is no way I could make that gross misconduct under ours.

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:37

hyggetyggedotorg · 25/06/2026 22:32

So, is it something like the scenario DS was telling me about at work today (a colleague was dismissed).

They work 8 hour shifts with 2 x 20 minute breaks included. The breaks are unpaid. The team are split each day into first, second & third break. When it’s your turn to take break you clock out & then clock back in 20 mins later.

The colleague in question had been requesting third break but taking first break by tailgating at the door & not clocking out or in. He would then work the 20 mins through second break & clock out & back in formally for third break. So, the gross misconduct came in because effectively he’d been fraudulently claiming 40 minutes of extra pay each day for months.

Why it took months to question it I don’t know.

If it’s something like that then unfortunately it’s his own fault.

I understand this, and would completely lay the blame at his door for this, but on this one it even mentions in the meeting notes: we are satisfied with your break times, you are not taking extra long breaks which you have been accused of. ( can't remember the exact words, maybe in one of my previous posts)

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Viviennemary · 25/06/2026 22:39

Ryanstartedthefire2 · 25/06/2026 21:24

That isnt gross misconduct. Could there be something else he has done that he is keeping from you?

That's what I think. Has he been fiddling his time sheets.

SylvanMoon · 25/06/2026 22:40

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:31

I'm going to read this message and re- read and re- read again, and really hope this is the case.

My husband does night shifts so is not here for me talk to, and they are not allowed phones in the work space either so frankly not having anyone to sound off from is not easy..

Even if this is all there is to it, your DH still needs to contact his union rep. He shouldn't just blasely assume nothing will come of it. The union has an understanding of what each step of these procedures mean and where they can lead to and will be able to advise him how to deal with it. Including ensuring that there is nothing on his record if he is genuinely not culpable, and perhaps even getting HR to deal with the colleague who has raised the complaint. This is one of those situations that he's been paying his union dues in order to have protection from. And you shouldn't have to be the one to remind him of it. But if he's not in contact with his union, you should insist he gets in touch with them.

Backpain2026 · 25/06/2026 22:41

Sounds like an investigation into a complaint, which must be taken seriously .

Does the letter say exactly what the next steps are?

Newyearawaits · 25/06/2026 22:42

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 21:28

So when they go to work, the have a clock in and clock out system. From there does not say he is late or leaves early at all. The document mentions timekeeping and they do look at his reports, for break times in particular. It says on it we do not feel you are take extended breaks as this is what you have been accused of doing. Break times are normal.

Something is missing OP.
There should be a company policy re disciplinary proceedings and stages.
Opportunities to improve where required etc.
Gross misconduct doesn't fit into time keeping.
And as others have said, sufficient notice needs to be given in writing with opportunity to arrange a union rep.
Please try and establish facts and your husband needs union /ACAS intervention.

declutteredliving · 25/06/2026 22:42

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 21:05

No he was never given advance notice of the meeting, literally went back from his break and told can you come up and see manager, who he went up to see, and it took place. He did mention his union and then it says ' I will carry on with the meeting regardless' he was given meeting notes, which says gross misconduct charges, and basically a run through of the meeting and what was said.

Okay. So what were the misconduct charges?
We need to know to be able to advise.

Cloudconfusion · 25/06/2026 22:42

Ok so it may not go further, he will need to wait and see, someone has accused him of not clocking in and out, so effectively lying about working, they appear satisfied thays not the case, but will now check further,

it’s odd it came to this though.

Pearlstillsinging · 25/06/2026 22:43

Retireornot · 25/06/2026 22:28

Some of this advice is odd. If he’s in the union then it is them he should be contacting. Not ACAS. Unions have rules which mean if you take advice from anyone else then they don’t represent. Plus - that’s what he’s paying for. Forget all this crap like seeing if you have cover on house insurance (what?) because the union covers anything legal if you are fully paid up.

Tell him - contact his union - email them but try and call too. I have been a union official for over 30 years.

Absolutely!
You pay your union subs like an insurance policy, so that your union will act for you, if the need arises. Your DH should have contacted thecwirkplace union rep, when he was asked to join the meeting and needs to contact the local/regional branch officer asap. I would have been on the phone as I came out of the meeting
It does sound as if the complainant is trying g to deflect from his own misconduct, though.

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:44

Backpain2026 · 25/06/2026 22:41

Sounds like an investigation into a complaint, which must be taken seriously .

Does the letter say exactly what the next steps are?

Nope nothing at all, it's more a minutes of the meeting that took place. His manager just said that's fine off you go to him at the end of it, back to work, and said they have to interview another member of staff too ( and told him who) , but they are still yet to do that, that has not happened at all. I did tell him track this manager down and see what he says. He handed him the notes yesterday and said nothing again.

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Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:46

SylvanMoon · 25/06/2026 22:40

Even if this is all there is to it, your DH still needs to contact his union rep. He shouldn't just blasely assume nothing will come of it. The union has an understanding of what each step of these procedures mean and where they can lead to and will be able to advise him how to deal with it. Including ensuring that there is nothing on his record if he is genuinely not culpable, and perhaps even getting HR to deal with the colleague who has raised the complaint. This is one of those situations that he's been paying his union dues in order to have protection from. And you shouldn't have to be the one to remind him of it. But if he's not in contact with his union, you should insist he gets in touch with them.

I will certainly be encouraging him to do so tomorrow, I know he would rather not but I agree, this colleague needs to be spoken to. You can't just leave it be, especially if you have to continue working with him

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namethisbird · 25/06/2026 22:46

Has your husband been suspended?
if not then it will be very difficult to then dismiss later on, not impossible but difficult as your husband/union could argue why is he being allowed to attend work and complete his tasks if he has allegations of gross misconduct.

He needs to speak to his union rep immediately as your posts make little sense and he needs factual advice.

Edited to add: I have just read your updates. Was this meeting a fact find investigation on the back of an allegation made by another employee?
Your husband isn’t entitled to a rep in an IM however the business has the right to meet with your husband without notice to investigate the allegations and ensure there is no risk to the business. It sounds like he was told to return to his duties so again highly unlikely he will be dismissed as they clearly don’t think he is a risk.

Happytap · 25/06/2026 22:48

I would resign now. Being fired for gross misconduct will massively affect job prospects going forward.

Jollyhockeystickss · 25/06/2026 22:48

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 21:11

So in the document it says poor timekeeping ( he is always on time and work and leaves on time) it does mention putting other health and safety at risk, says about not scanning his badge, but this was never mentioned in the meeting notes, just reminded to scan his badge on exit and entry ( but again not something he can get away without doing)

He has been with the same company for nrly 8 yrs or so.

Sounds like hes lying to you and gross misconduct means they dont like him theyve had enough and want to get rid of him or he isnt doing all the things they say hr isnt doing in which case they want to get rid of him, gross misconduct is the enf of the line

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:49

No he has not been suspended.

I'll be honest I'm trying to answer all the posts as I am finding this very helpful. Am commenting from what on the document too, as he left it with me today. I've explained literally everything I can, I'm really sorry if that does not make sense.

Having never been in this position at work, it's not something I understand or even know how it is dealt with.

My wording may have been wrong, as this was clearly a meeting to decide if this goes further into gross misconduct or not.

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Isitevensummer · 25/06/2026 22:50

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:31

I'm going to read this message and re- read and re- read again, and really hope this is the case.

My husband does night shifts so is not here for me talk to, and they are not allowed phones in the work space either so frankly not having anyone to sound off from is not easy..

I'm glad. I have investigated complaints before and you have to investigate and rule out employee error or misconduct first - because honestly, lots of incidents are caused by those things. If you are not expected to answer calls on your break and he can demonstrate he is clocking in and out properly then he's not the problem. The issue is someone called for support and didn't get it and depending on what he does, that could be really serious. Either that person is pissed off and making allegations or they are just trying to rule out your husband and question the guy who didn't respond. The last investigation I did, none of the staff were at fault. A new policy has not been communicated. Maybe they need to look at how work is allocated or scheduled too. It's not nice but try not to worry. I also echo talking to the union. If there are unsafe working practices or systems they should know. Besides supporting your husband.

TY78910 · 25/06/2026 22:54

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:46

I will certainly be encouraging him to do so tomorrow, I know he would rather not but I agree, this colleague needs to be spoken to. You can't just leave it be, especially if you have to continue working with him

OP, that’s one thing you don’t do! Your DH absolutely cannot go and address this with this colleague. The complaint may have been made in good faith, it could have been malicious (the investigation manager will decide that). But addressing this directly with the colleague can be seen as retaliation, same as avoiding him afterwards etc and that is misconduct in itself.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 25/06/2026 22:55

Jollyhockeystickss · 25/06/2026 22:48

Sounds like hes lying to you and gross misconduct means they dont like him theyve had enough and want to get rid of him or he isnt doing all the things they say hr isnt doing in which case they want to get rid of him, gross misconduct is the enf of the line

Stop filling in the gaps and read OPs posts.

Saying stuff like that isn't helpful and is actually quite nasty.

namethisbird · 25/06/2026 22:55

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 22:49

No he has not been suspended.

I'll be honest I'm trying to answer all the posts as I am finding this very helpful. Am commenting from what on the document too, as he left it with me today. I've explained literally everything I can, I'm really sorry if that does not make sense.

Having never been in this position at work, it's not something I understand or even know how it is dealt with.

My wording may have been wrong, as this was clearly a meeting to decide if this goes further into gross misconduct or not.

I edited my original post but wanted to reply as can understand how worrying this may be and if you have no experience of managing people and dealing with disciplinary cases it can be a minefield.

I have just read your updates. Was this meeting a fact find investigation on the back of an allegation made by another employee?
Your husband isn’t entitled to a rep in an IM however the business has the right to meet with your husband without notice to investigate the allegations and ensure there is no risk to the business. It sounds like he was told to return to his duties so again highly unlikely he will be dismissed as they clearly don’t think he is a risk.

TY78910 · 25/06/2026 22:57

It sounds like he was told to return to his duties so again highly unlikely he will be dismissed as they clearly don’t think he is a risk

not necessarily, we recently dismissed an employee for bringing in an illegal substance in to work. Not using it, just fell out of her bag clearly from the night before. She still worked all her shifts up until we let her go

Jollyhockeystickss · 25/06/2026 22:58

Bobblesandwool · 25/06/2026 21:57

Ok so I have re read the document,

For the gross misconduct part it says breach of health and safety: this goes on to mention not scanning your badge, and just says you understand this must be done when on site. They reiterate this to him in the meeting. But nothing after that

Refusal to carry out instructions: and the meeting goes on to mention what would you do if we asked you to carry out another job on top of your tasks, and just says I would carry out my extra role as requested. In the last bit it says " there has been no mention of issues relating to refusing reasonable request" this is quoted on the document

Mentions about fraud, and this is where it says extra long breaks, but does say this is clearly not the case looking at the report. It says about the team managing breaks, and if it is not managed this is a breach of trust, but they are not saying this at this point.

Hes not scanning his badge because hes lying and doing stuff onsite which he shouldnt be doing, also if hes on site and not on record yes thats health and safety huge huge issue as they place could burn down and they wouldnt look for him as hes not on site, hes also probably fiddling his hours either to earn extra money or not work the true hours in his contract,