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Recall training for an adult dog - horrible park incident

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Quickdraw23 · 15/05/2026 17:52

Hi there,

has anyone any advice for revising recall training for a 5 year old dog.

my dog is normally very reliable with recall but I’ve had an incident in the park today that has really shaken me.

i was walking my spaniel around the same playing fields that we go on most days with DS (11 months) in the pram. My dog came back every time I called her until we reached the last bit of the walk when we met a man with two dogs, one on the lead one off the lead.

My dog bounded towards them to sniff and I called her because I saw his dog was on the lead, but she didn’t come which is really out of character, she struck a playful stance in front of the dog on the lead. He began swearing at me, calling me a fucking idiot and telling me to get her back on the lead.

I was calling her, but she thought it was a game and was dancing around trying to entice his dogs to play. He kept swearing at me, then began walking his dog towards her intentionally and encouraging it to attack, so she thought even more it was a game. I shouted at him to stop it and that he was winding her up and to walk away and he kept screaming that I’m a fucking idiot and shouldn’t have my dog off the lead. I was calling her all the time but she was so excited. He was then walking towards her trying to kick her and I was shouting at him to stop it and he kept swearing at me.

I was trying to get my dog back on the lead and keep checking back on DS who was parked in the pram about 6m away from where this is was happening. It was horrendous. the whole thing probably lasted about two minutes and he was verbally abusing me throughout. I kept saying to him “I’m trying to get her back on” and she kept dancing around because she thought it was all a game. He just kept swearing at me calling me a fucking idiot.

I told him to go away and that I would not be talking to him in front of my baby. It’s the only thing I could think to say. I was scared. A woman nearby actually told him he needed to walk his dogs away and he just kept moving towards my dog and shouting and swearing at me.

Ive walked my dog there for over three years and never had anything like this happen before. We did lots of recall training. I know she should have come back when I called her, and if a dog on a lead snapped or bit her because she hadn’t come away I would blame my dog not the dog on the lead, but it’s so out of character for her not to come back.

I’m ordering a retractable lead right now, I don’t feel safe walking her off the lead again, but does anyone have any advice on recall drills or training I can do? Is it just back to basics?

Please be gentle with me, I know my dog was in the wrong for not coming back, but I’m so upset. I’m scared of bumping into him on that park again even if she is on the lead 😞

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EdithStourton · 17/05/2026 09:55

I'm not sure that I have time or the energy for this today, but here goes...
@TheHungryHungryLandsharks you have made a lot of clear statements. I'm going to pull out a few and dissect them.

To @OctaviaC74
I maintain: I know people with the breeds you’ve mentioned who have their dogs off the lead, no recall issues, and no shock collar. It’s called competent ownership.
And I maintain that it depends on the dog. A breed description is not a guarantee. All dogs fall somewhere on the bell curve of behaviours for their breeds. Think about it. You have show-line GRs. They're a different bag of tricks from the working line, yet somehow the working line dogs were used to develop the show-line ones. You pick out the ones with low drive, limited ambition around game, who are very handler-soft.
It also depends on control of the environment. For many dog owners, strong environmental control is just not possible. Because of where we live, and what exercise areas we feasibly have access to, my puppies have to learn young that you leave livestock and wildlife alone. You can hunt, but you may not chase, and you must stop or recall as soon as I tell you to.
'Competent ownership' means having control of your dog. Ideally, that dog is well exercised, fulfilled and very very happy with the life it leads. (If you can get to define 'competent ownership', so can I.)

And more importantly, not all gun dog trainers are capable nor competent enough to train particular gun dogs. I wouldn’t want someone who mostly does spaniels coming near my Goldens.
It's true that gundog trainers vary. That being said, most of them train a variety of breeds perfectly competently, and adjust their expectations and techniques accordingly. I'm not sure how much the average show-line Golden needs a gundog trainer. This is not to disparage show-line dogs: they often make excellent pets and they are usually chilled and delightful dogs. Now and then you'll get one with a bit of drive and ambition who needs more control and fulfilment (friends of mine got one of those, after decades of owning GRs and finding them an absolute doddle). That's when you might want a gundog trainer.

If you have a dog you can’t train or control to the degree you need an e-collar, that’s on you as an owner.
See above about individual dogs and the feasibility of environmental control.

It’s never bad or untrainable dogs, it’s bad owners.
Not true that it's 'bad owners' (WOOT! I am a 'bad owner'. Do tell my dogs.) As I said upthread, both the BSAVA and Simone Mueller admit that +R control of chasing doesn't work for every dog. Do you know better than them? Could you share your +R techniques for control of chasing and show some videos? Because, genuinely, it would be great to know what you can achieve.

Get a dog that matches your ability as an owner, not a dog that you think you deserve.
See above about breed variability. And in my view my dogs do match my ability. By the standard of pet dogs, they are extremely well-trained. by the standard of working dogs, they are so-so. They were well-trained even before I got the e-collars to resolve the issues with prey that, despite all my efforts, we still had.

Honestly, perhaps it is condescending of me, but I don’t care.
Well, I find it to be so. You don't know me, my circumstances or my dogs, but you're happy to sit in judgment and imply or outright state that people who don't agree with you are bad owners, not competent trainers, and so on.

As I said above I can almost see it in one instance. But ultimately, these sorts of situations will always fall into me: wrong dog wrong family, bucket.
'Almost see it' - well, I appreciate that you're trying to look at the situation with a bit more objectivity. And I don't how it's the wrong family if the dog is happy. If someone medicates a dog because it's reactive or anxious, is that the wrong dog in the wrong home? Because a lot of medicated dogs, so I gather from those who know, are unfulfilled and under-exercised.

My friend has a Mali - they’re notoriously difficult to train (given they’re more intelligent than 99.9% of the human population) yet she managed it using reward based training.
Good for her, seriously. I have no issue with that. Yet I know, from the 101 podcasts I have listened to, that +R training takes very much longer. Practically speaking, not everyone has the time. Or is that 'wrong dog, wrong family' again - even if the dog is happy? Even if the dog is being competed and is judged, in part, on its enthusiasm and overall emotional state? Because the protection sports include that now: the dog needs to look happy and engaged.

I care for random dog’s wellbeing more than I do for their human feelings on the matter.
Does that also apply when the dog's wellbeing includes chasing and killing rabbits, which the human hates to witness, or barking like a lunatic every time it's let out into the garden, to the point that Environmental Health and the landlord are on the owner's case, and the owner's nerves are in tatters?

And that’s okay as we’re allowed to have different views and opinions. It’s just like how I don’t agree that the royal family are lizard people but some do - different views.
You make a great point in your first sentence. And the ruin it in the second, by implying that the understanding and use of aversion is like believing that the Royals are lizard people. I assume you chose that either unthinkingly or to make 'the other side' look ridiculous. And there was I, in the car this morning, taking my dogs to somewhere a bit different because they (and I) enjoy variety, listening to a highly technical, science-heavy podcast about safety cues, dopamine, cortisol, negatively valenced affect and so on. The main speaker has 30 years experience of training military working dogs, and my God, he knows his stuff. But lizard people. Sure.

To @21ZIGGY
Then why the e-collar? If your dog is as well trained and controlled as you claim, you don’t need one. No where have you said why you need one.
Perhaps because in part the dog is so well controlled because it has been e-collar trained. Perhaps because - as iirc Ziggy said - this is a large and serious dog which she doesn't want to have the chance to frighten anyone.

EdithStourton · 17/05/2026 10:00

instead we’ve got this (rather pointless) debate on the validity of e-collars.
It's totally NOT a pointless debate.
Dogs get put down because of 'uncontrollable prey drive' or are rehomed 'because he has high prey drive that this owners can't handle' (on a breed page I follow just recently).

E-collars are a valuable tool in a range of situations. I would agree with you that bunging an e-collar on a dog after one blown recall isn't necessary, but it's not a tool that should be knocked off the table just because some people, most of them with zero of experience of seeing them properly used, don't like the idea.

21ZIGGY · 17/05/2026 10:19

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 17/05/2026 07:42

@WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo Given she’s not said why she suddenly felt the need to use one despite being asked, you can’t know that.

The only reason I can actually think of why someone would suddenly use an e-collar after four years of having a perfectly trained dog, other than a serious recall break (which others have admitted but this poster won’t…) is aggression. If it’s as simple as a recall break, why not say?

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I have no idea what you would use an e collar for on aggression. I decided to use it because of the flukes. My dog decided to play with a sausage dog one day and the sausage dog changed his mind, but my dog didn't. Very out of character for my dog, as all owners say when these things happen ie, op, and I realised that I can't have a german shepherd who I know is friendly scaring the life out of a little dog and its owner even if that was a once a year occurence, it isn't worth the risk for me. I want my dog off lead the entire walk every single time because that's what he enjoys and needs. This way, if we ever encounter a sausage dog scenario again, I can put a stop to it. There is no further positive reinforcement training that I could have done to avoid that incident reoccurring. I want the certainty.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 17/05/2026 12:14

I do not and have not ever used an e-collar or a prong. And wouldn’t personally. My personal solution to the below scenario would be to hire secure fields, just for the record

I do have to wonder though with a dog which has an off the chart prey drive, where you’ve tried everything else and your options are ‘keep the dog on lead forever’ or ‘use an aversive briefly and then tte dog can have a lifetime of safe freedom ’ ……which one would the dog choose?
I don’t have tte answer to that obviously but like everything else, I suspect it depends on the individual
My working lines dog for example, finds a perfect fit harness (the rolls Royce of R+ equipment allegedly) a horrendous torture instrument that must be fled from on site
Yet that’s what would be promoted as the ‘kindest’ thing I could use

OctaviaC74 · 17/05/2026 13:50

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 17/05/2026 09:28

@WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo pressed send to soon!

I would also say, that despite my dogs being highly trained, I understand flukes happen. Dogs aren’t mindless zombies.

Which was the point of my original post on the first page - the idea that OP should immediately stick an e-collar on her dog, which someone did suggest, after one incident is just mind boggling. Which no one has admitted was frankly insane suggestion - instead we’ve got this (rather pointless) debate on the validity of e-collars.

We should all be agreed that shoving an e-collar on a dog after one small slip is completely unacceptable and that people who DO think that are unfit to own a dog. I don’t think that’s a controversial thought. There are far more avenues to explore than that after one incident. But I seem to be the only person willing to say that.

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Trouble is, that fluke might end up with the dog getting belted/kicked by an irate man/attacking other animals/running out into a road/perhaps even being shot.

If the correct use of an e-collar can prevent the above and used correctly, i fail to see why you are sooo against them.

The OPs experience with this man may have had very serious consequences, next time the dog might be of type that could cause serious injury to either the dog or the OP - not everyone is reasonable and nice.

GSPs come in all flavours, some are very food oriented, for others its a ball/games but for some it will be to hunt, they are called HPRs for a reason and with a high prey drive but not used as a gun dog, 100% recall is very difficult/impossible and dogs like these can cause serious damage to another animal.
Look up GSP rescue for the people who buy these and quickly realise the amount of work the breed demands - or as someone once said "If you dont give a GSP a job, it will become self employed" often with disasterous results

But i do "admire" the fact that despite not owning this breed, no experience, never met the dog or the owners, you know soooo much, remarkable.

EdithStourton · 17/05/2026 14:32

Dunnocantthinkofone · 17/05/2026 12:14

I do not and have not ever used an e-collar or a prong. And wouldn’t personally. My personal solution to the below scenario would be to hire secure fields, just for the record

I do have to wonder though with a dog which has an off the chart prey drive, where you’ve tried everything else and your options are ‘keep the dog on lead forever’ or ‘use an aversive briefly and then tte dog can have a lifetime of safe freedom ’ ……which one would the dog choose?
I don’t have tte answer to that obviously but like everything else, I suspect it depends on the individual
My working lines dog for example, finds a perfect fit harness (the rolls Royce of R+ equipment allegedly) a horrendous torture instrument that must be fled from on site
Yet that’s what would be promoted as the ‘kindest’ thing I could use

I appreciate your open-mindedness very much.

I can see that enclosed fields would work for some dogs and their owners, but my two would get bored very quickly and wouldn't find them fulfilling. I can imagine circumstances where I would find one useful.

No one can know for sure what my dogs choice would be if the options were 'no e-collar but on lead' or 'e-collar but freedom', but I'm 99.99% certain that they'd opt for the latter. Especially as I barely touch the collar remotes these days.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 17/05/2026 15:14

I can see that enclosed fields would work for some dogs and their owners, but my two would get bored very quickly and wouldn't find them fulfilling. I can imagine circumstances where I would find one useful.

oh absolutely, my dogs would be extremely bored in that set up and I’m lucky (and yes, even as a professional dog trainer I recognise it is at least partially luck) to have only had dogs I’ve been able to train recall reliably to. I have had clients over the years though who for various reasons would not be able to achieve safe off lead experiences with their dogs, so this is the compromise I am happiest to recommend.
it’s a trade off and not the ideal, clearly. But is my personal preference - especially for a pet dog. Aversives timed badly (which an inexperienced handler will almost always do) will cause distress, confusion and quite often, additional behavioural difficulties.

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