If you inherited money, would you give some to your partner?

[Dilemm]

If you came into money, would you give your partner a wedge?

Not living together, you own your home and work a lot, made savings and pension, he rents, more cavalier attitude to going to work (public sector so gets paid)

Both in fifties

Both have dc but not joint.

Yes, It would if I chose to

Massive difference to working until 65

No not in that scenario. However if it was a large amount of money I might treat him eg to a weekend away or buy him something he wanted for his hobby etc.

I have just inherited some money (not loads but a decent amount for me) and have put the majority into investments for the future and kept some back for home improvement projects we have slowly been working on. So DH and the whole family will benefit, but I wouldn’t just hand him a chunk of money to do what he pleased with. And we’re married which is a different scenario to you.

Under your circumstances, no. I wouldn’t just hand a wedge over for no reason. As a PP said, I’d probably pay for a nice trip somewhere.

No and I didn’t give DH any of mine , we have separate finances but I did pay for some treats for us both and have paid costs like decorating house myself rather than joint pot

If you cannot merge finances and a life with him, you can keep going as you are and provide him with something small in your will. I hope of the majority of your assets goes at least to some of your blood relatives

No, not in that circumstance. Your benefactor intended the money for you. Respect their wishes.

It’s really a default inheritance

Probably not in your circumstances. I've been with DP and we jointly own a house, have joint account for bills and treats etc, but also have our own savings.

I would pay off ALL of our debts (my credit card, the car loan, our various device payments etc), and put the rest into my savings. I wouldn't directly give him money just to have, but I would pay for treats for us like holidays etc if I had a decent amount as well as some to save.

My CIL was in her late 50’s when she inherited a nice amount. Paid off the remains of her mortgage and she was able to make better life choices.

unfortunately she was living with someone who had the gift of the gab but had had money in his earlier life. That included a few acres in a very popular location and small cottage. He had adult children to his deceased wife.

he didn’t appear to actually go to work though but had carved off sections of his farmlet to support himself until CIL was paying their day to day expenses. I remember once he brought her back flowers but had paid for them with her debit card!

anyhow it all went tits up and she lost a lot of her money. He went on to bludge off someone else.

it’s not a good idea.

Not in a million years