If you inherited money, would you give some to your partner?

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If you came into money, would you give your partner a wedge?

Not living together, you own your home and work a lot, made savings and pension, he rents, more cavalier attitude to going to work (public sector so gets paid)

Both in fifties

Both have dc but not joint.

This 100%

No - wouldn’t give to partner, but would save some for children for when they are older.

no, but I might pay for something we wanted to do together (eg a big holiday or an allotment or perhaps even a VW camper to be kept at my house)!

My first thought was "It would be our joint money", but that's because I'm married to my partner and we live together. In your setup, OP, absolutely not - keep it and use it however benefits you most

No I wouldn't. You have kids. If anyone was going to get any, it would be my kids for their future.

Absolutely not

No,absolutely not.

My husband, who I own my home, share children & finances with would equally share any inheritance as he would with me.

In your situation, no I wouldn’t. I’d invest it in my children and myself.

Definitely not. I had a fairly small inheritance (50k) and didn't share it with my husband of many years, but did share it with our children.

Absolutely not

100% no.

Ditto.

Similar here, my H has just inherited a sum. He’s using it to pay off our mortgage and then he’s putting the rest into savings. So I guess he is “giving” some to me in that I no longer need to pay towards a mortgage but not handing me a wad of cash. I must admit I’d have been peeved if he hadn’t wanted to clear the mortgage but that aside I see it as his money not mine

Not in a million years.

Of course not!

No, treat yourself and maybe him to dinner. The windfall should go to you and your kids.

No, not in your situation.

I did receive a small inheritance (under 10k) and spent it on a kitchen so dh did benefit but we are married for years.

A nice dinner, like others suggested.

How long are you together?

Not in your situation OP.

My DH inherited a substantial amount and it has all gone in the joint pot … same when I inherited a small amount.

No and I don't think he'd expect any

Hell no

Not in that set up!

No not that with set up! I’d treat them to a holiday or something like that

Not directly - when I inherited I paid for his ( necessary) cosmetic dentistry, a new car, and a lovely second home on both our names. He chose the car and property with me. Wouldn't give cash in your situation - maybe a nice holiday

No I would probably pay for some shared experiences so he would benefit too IYSWIM. Nice holidays etc.

Certainly not in those circumstances as ultimately you’re just giving money to his dc inheritance and not yours. It would be completely different if you were married or living together but not wise at the moment. His financial situation is not your problem.

I would maybe take him on a nice holiday.