Been asked to leave yard because I’m a SW

[YipYapPaddywack]

I’m a discreet sex worker and have been for 4 years. I do very well and pay all my tax etc.
My family are aware of what I do, my eldest (17) is semi aware but because iv done it so long its just a “normal” job, in the fact I go to work and come home every day.
we have a pony who we have owned for 2 years, last year we moved the pony 5 mins away from home. It’s been fabulous, my daughter loves it and had made lots of friends there, but we usually keep ourselves to ourselves.
The YO texted me last week and said that circumstances are changing and she’s had to ask a few people to leave, as I was one of the last to join she said we had to leave. Obviously daughter was/is very upset. Turns out she hasn’t asked any of the other 5 people who joined after us. It’s only us. It came out yesterday that somehow someone on the yard found out what I do and told her, and she obviously doesn’t agree with what I do so has asked me to leave.
The worst part is, they are treating me now like scum. Literally won’t speak to me or look at me, has ignored all my messages, and is making me so anxious that I’m refusing to go down and my husband and daughter are doing it. We’re looking to move asap but everywhere that’s close is full. I’m so stressed. Obviously I knew I wouldn’t be able to keep it secret forever but I wasn’t expecting for my child to be punished because of something I choose to do behind closed doors.

This. It’s just not a pleasant thing to do, is it? And that’s putting it mildly. We see it all the time on the news, someone’s lost their job and their kids been thrown out of school just because their mums on only fans. And this is full on prostitution. And from the looks of it it’s very common knowledge that the ops a prostitute. People are going to be disgusted/look down their noses, and the livery owner has her own reputation to protect

Sorry, come again?

Look, you’ve chosen your profession and are clearly comfortable with that choice. But you can’t choose how people feel about it and what decisions they make as a result of knowing about it.

I mean, the fact that you yourself don’t tell people what you do shows that you know perfectly well how it will be received. So it’s a bit naive to be upset when it is received in exactly that way 🤷🏼‍♀️

When your children find out what you do, do you think they’ll think the pony and other non-essential luxuries you’ve clearly been able to afford were worth it?

I initially thought you meant you were a social worker and couldn't see what the problem was.

Has someone's husband used your services perhaps?

Well without sex workers there would be no "punters"... Honestly Op it's pretty shocking you have a husband and presumably young children. Can't believe your husband supports you going out and having sex with other men for money. Nasty. Your kids are going to be affected while you are doing that and I think it's disgusting that a 17 year old "semi knows" whatever that means how you earn money

I'm surprised this is the first time.

It will only get worse now it's out, especially for your children.

These are the consequences of such actions.

Poor kids.

And I find it hard to believe you're DH is OK with it. How on earth does that work?

Loving that this thread is in Active and is probably full of people clicking to find out why a social worker has been asked to get out of a back garden in the North of England 😀.

i have no way of knowing who signs up to my services so I’m unsure.

i really hope those who are judging what I do have never watched porn in their life.

luckily for me non of my content is able to be leaked and if it does I have a team who are able to take it down. So unless you’ve subscribed you wouldn’t know what I do.

Op, a lot of people send their impressionable teenage daughters to ride and spend time at livery yards. I can see how many of them may not be keen, and the yard owner is trying to protect her income. She doesn't want to lose their custom.

It is not fair on your daughter but you can't be surprised. I wouldn't want my shy 15yo son spending time in company with someone who thinks that sort of work is acceptable. Surely you can understand that.

And no, I don't watch porn. I've always found it distasteful and unnecessary.

I'm very happy for you having found a niche in a very difficult industry where you can work successfully and (hopefully) be physically safe, but you are very naive to imagine that there aren't significant repercussions for your children here.

Sleeping with who? Who said I sleep with anyone. You’ve assumed that.

Let’s hope your 15 year old son never watches porn ;)

You’re a cam girl? Why didn’t you just say that? You made it sound like you’re a prostitute.

This was me. But to be fair social workers are constantly being told to leave property so it made sense!

@YipYapPaddywack 'Let’s hope your 15 year old son never watches porn ;)'

If he does, it won't be because his mother led him into it, or let him think it is normal or healthy.

Bingo. Plus phone chat and OF which is my main earner.
iv never slept with anyone other than my husband.

Ok so based on your last couple of posts its cam work etc. It's still something people will judge, and as someone up thread said, yards are personal fiefdoms, so there is really nothing you can do regarding that except move the pony.

The bigger issue I feel is once its out - its out. You probably need to discuss with DH how to have a conversation with DC especially the older one who is connected to the yard. People will add 2+2 and make 5000 so she's likely to hear a number of versions of what you do from other people. I'd be making sure you were clear with her before that happens not only so she's prepared (imagine being 17 and discovering this from someone outside the family) but also so she understands. How she judges you will depend a lot on how you handle it with her but I'd be preparing for some backlash at least initially.

I must have missed the part where @YipYapPaddywack asked all of your for moral judgement. She's stressed and being judged/ghosted by people in real life, take a good look at yourself in the mirror if you're piling on rather than offering advice.

@YipYapPaddywack are there any pony clubs in the area that might be able to advise you of places that can take your pony? I'm really sorry you've been treated this way.

If it was discreet then no-one would have found out. I wouldn't want my teen associating with someone who created such damaging content.

"Cam girl" is dressing it up, making it sound nicer than it is. It's porn.
This is a woman, a mother and wife who at minimum performs sexually on camers for men to get off on. Since she mentioned pom herself she may also have sex with men. Like others have said, most people aren't interested im researching jobs in the sex industry

We see it all the time on the news, someone’s lost their job and their kids been thrown out of school just because their mums on only fans

I have literally never heard of this happening. I would usually assume it was sarcasm, but the rest of your post didn’t sound very sarcastic.

You're acting like a hysterical old bully @Bbq1.

I wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to normalize the pornification of society, it is having a really negative effect.

Mostly on young women who are being subjected to increasingly levels of sexual violence in their sexual relationships as it is increasingly normalized within porn.

But it isn't good for young men either.
So I'm not particularly impressed by little winky faces suggesting it's all a bit of a laugh and if we were more fun or cooler we'd understand that.

I feel sorry for your dd as your choices as her parents are going to impact her.

Can you not retrain? 😆