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inference from another owner

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AMcoffeeLover · 29/05/2015 19:00

Been loitering for a while but need some help now!
So I have an old (27 years old, 18 in a school, 3 with me) school horse who had a hard life but is now enjoying a happily ever after he has 3 great paces - slow, slower and stop! And I love him that way. His main use is to cuddle me and the occasional "wonder over yonder" hack.
But there is a very pushy girl at the small yard I keep my boy at who keeps trying to "motivate" him! Started out with her giving tips and telling me to "boot him on", slap his bum as we go past and say trot on ect. This annoyed me but was tolerable.
When I first got him he was very whip shy, if he could see someone with one he would shy and rear. Now he's fine, he know I'll never use one and that's fine. But the whip fear has been coming back over the last few weeks and have just discovered that she's been going into the geldings field (she has a mare) and "training" him while i'm not there. using a whip I wondered why is head collar was moving around but assumed I was being silly and not paying attention to where I put it.
I'm hopping mad and as its on the (brand new) CCTV she can't deny it.
I want to go in yelling but know its not the right way to go. How do I approach this and make sure it NEVER happens again?
I know im over protective of him but he's mine and if I accept him as he is and pamper him then that's up to me.
I could explode i'm so angry.

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AcrossthePond55 · 30/05/2015 05:26

Frankly, I'd walk up to her, smile, and say "In the future, if you get within 20 feet of my horse I will kick your arse into the middle of next week". Then walk away.

stolemyusername · 30/05/2015 05:55

I'm really not precious about our boy (although I love him to bits), but seriously if someone took it upon themselves to do anything like this to him I would force a bit into their mouth and chase the fuck out of them with a whip. I'm furious on your behalf

ChaircatMiaow · 30/05/2015 06:02

Absolutely seething on your behalf. Poor old man

Really looking forward to hearing the sow is gone!

whatlifestylechoice · 30/05/2015 06:06

Jesus! I don't even have horses, and I'm still spitting for you. The bloody cheek of her! I hope you she gets kicked off the yard and into a manure heap.

MokunMokun · 30/05/2015 06:15

Poor thing :(

Good luck with her.

BeaufortBelle · 30/05/2015 06:22

Just wait until the yard owner throws her out (you don't want to be thrown out too for descending to her level) and then post on local horsey networks how grateful you are to your responsible yard owner and why.

In this case revenge is a dish best served cold, not when you are breathing fire.

The bitch!

SoldierBear · 30/05/2015 06:55

Good morning!
Excellent idea about spreading the word via the horsey networks by using them"my yard owner is so brilliant approach".
It reminds me of "I come to bury Caesar, not to praise him....and Brutus is an honourable man". You could try "I'm sure she is a lovely girl but..."
If you do see this brat, try invading her space when you talk to her. Stand as close as possible, with your toes touching hers and speak in a very low, calm voice. if she moves back, you move forward It might let her realise how your dear old boy felt when he couldn't get away from her whip.

loveareadingthanks · 30/05/2015 07:23

I'd be tempted to stick it up on YouTube with a commentary about random nutter abusing your horse.

I probably would speak to the RSPCA too. With the video footage, they might be able to take action.

sunflower49 · 30/05/2015 07:28

I've not owned a horse for years but I have to add my thoughts!Which have probably already been covered!

-She's an adult! She may be 18 but at 18, 16, 12!! I'd have NEVER took it upon myself to do this!She's not right in the head!
-Your poor horse :( good on you for being such a caring owner he sounds lovely and I admire you for taking this so seriously
-I second the need for stern words if the owner doesn't sort it.

Good luck!

britnay · 30/05/2015 07:30

As a yard owner, she would be given her notice, banned from setting foot on the property, and horse put on full livery until she moves.

Stinkersmum · 30/05/2015 07:33

Omfg. Go apeshit. I would've done already. Cheeky little fucking bitch! I'm raging for you.

Golfhotelromeofoxtrot · 30/05/2015 07:44

Good luck with keeping your cool when you confront her- much better to have control when you speak to her than just shouting- though after what she's done, that is nearly impossible!

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AMcoffeeLover · 30/05/2015 08:18

Well I was very proud of myself! I was obviously angry with her but managed to talk rather than shout (more out of respect to sleeping horses than to her!) Told her exactly what I think of her and what she did and just as I was coming to the end of my rant the yard owner came over. She told the girl in a cold tone of voice (scarier than my angry voice. I'd have shat myself if she spoke like that to me) that she has 2 weeks to move her horse. The yard owner will care for the mare and other than collecting the mare, which the yard owner must be around for, she can't enter the property. If she does the police will be called. If after 2 weeks if the mare hasn't been moved she becomes the yard owners property which she will sell. (apparently its in the contract!) She won't be getting her security deposit back as she breached the no handling other peoples horses part of her contract. (yard owner giving me the security money as an apology that it happened for a while without her noticing. Be spending it on the vet coming out for a check up). Then gave her the formal written notice and told her to get off her property now.
Still seething but happy now I don't have to guard him day and night!

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AspieAndNT · 30/05/2015 08:22

What an absolutely fantastic yard owner! So pleased for you

AspieAndNT · 30/05/2015 08:25

What was the girl "training" him to actually do? Was she holding him and just hitting him with the whip?

bimandbam · 30/05/2015 08:26

Wow. I love your yard owner.

Your poor old boy though. And her poor mare. I hope one day the cruel bitch picks on something that double barrels her into next week. Horses are generally gentle creatures but I have known one or two hold a grudge and serve their revenge weeks or months later.

whatlifestylechoice · 30/05/2015 08:27

Good outcome, OP. How did the girl react?

Redhead11 · 30/05/2015 08:30

Your yard owner sounds brilliant! Good on her and good on you for not losing your cool. I would have been screaming at the pitch of my lungs if it had been me. Your poor old boy. I know you'll spoil him now to make him feel better and he deserves it!

TallulahFallula · 30/05/2015 08:31

So did she respond at all? Apologise? Give reasons for what she was doing? Cry? Argue?

Justusemyname · 30/05/2015 08:34

Your story has really upset me and I have never had anything to do with horses but I'm an animal lover.

I'm so glad the yard owner has done all she's done. Please let us know what the vet says. I'd be asking for my own copy of the CCTV recording too.

How was your horse this morning? Did he see the cow?

TwartFaceBeetj · 30/05/2015 08:36

Late to the thread, but I felt very angry for you when I read it this morning.
So glad the yard owner did that. It's what yard owners should do. But a few are sometimes lacking in balls.

I'd have loved to see the girls face. Stupid bitch. I'd have ballistic at her.

Hope your boy is alright.

hotlikeme · 30/05/2015 08:38

I'm so happy that your yard owner took this on and took appropriate action, and well done you for keeping your own rage in check. I would have been heartbroken to learn that something like this had happened to my horse and there really is no excuse for an 18 year old to behave in such a way. I'm sure with your love and patience your dear old fella will get back his confidence in time and you will spend many more happy years enjoying him.

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AMcoffeeLover · 30/05/2015 09:02

The girl was trying to turn him into a "go-er".........at 27 he'll never be a "go-er"! She cried, said it was unfair blah blah blah she only wanted what was best for the horse. Apparently by turning into a "go-er" it was going to cure his arthritic joint and improve muscle tone. (His muscle tone is fine!)
But no apology.
My boy is oblivious to it all! Its sunny so he's happy just wants to stand in the sun while having a groom we keep having to move around the yard to find the best patch!
We're moving him and his friends to a field that no incidents (we believe) have ever happened in, we'll see how he is going in in a bit.
All the other people have been great but now questions are being asked about the other horses. How many others has she interfered with? Another horse (youngster) has been regressing lately, but without her confessing we'll never know as the CCTV is new and only shows the one incident.

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SoldierBear · 30/05/2015 09:05

Your yard owner is magnificent!
Hope you and your boy have a lovely day together

bronya · 30/05/2015 09:13

Glad it has been sorted. If your boy is scared in the new field perhaps sit with him for a while to give him confidence. Hope you have a lovely day with him!

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