Why is Meghan hated?

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I have very strong views about the Royals especially Camilla, however I am genuinely interested and want to find out more as to why Meghan Markle seems to be so hated. I'm asking in case there is something I have missed. I do read up as much as I can and watch shows from 'both sides' of the argument, but there is nothing that I have seen so far that warrants the level of sheer hatred geared towards her - I don't mean on here necessarily, but on social media in general. She cannot do ANYTHING without a swarm of people descending on her like vampires to tear her apart.

She isn't an adulteress, she's not a paedophile or sex offender, she isn't lazy, she seems to genuinely care about people in need.....and from what has been shown, she genuinely loves Harry and is just trying to make a life with him. He left the UK to start a life away from a nest of some awful people, his mother died when he was 12, his uncle is a sex offender, there is racism and a rigid set of rules within that family where he won't be king anyway so what is wrong with him leaving?

I'm not starting this to start an argument I am genuninely interested in why she is so rabidly disliked and why? Maybe I will start to feel differently if there is more of a reason but at the moment I cannot see one?

I am on the fence. I really liked MM when she married into the RF. I think the way she had treated her father is awful especially when he isn't in the greatest of health, but then we don't know the full story as to why they fell out. If the RF were racist towards her then I totally understand why she is no contact but she is either in or out as a Royal . She does seem all too happy to use the royal connection to further her business ventures. I think Harry is stuck between a rock and a hard place. He wants to be supportive to his wife but at the expense of falling out with his family. Unfortunate for all concerned that a family fall out is played out so publicly.

Qwll on my opinion fhata how I think and would describe myself of when I would say im Young or old or would peecoecr other people to be if I had to stick that label on you.

Qwll on my opinion fhata how I think and would describe myself of when I would say im Young or old or would peecoecr other people to be if I had to stick that label on you.

Yes, well...
That puts it all quite plainly and is totally intelligible.
(Make sure you stick that label on straight and tidily now - some people can't even do that on jam jars.)

<goes off to find Klingon to English translator as it seems like no Earth language>

@Spectre8 we all make typos, and the odd one or two don’t distract from the post. However, if I accidentally end up with multiple errors - evident as soon as I press post, I do endeavour to use the edit function as a courtesy to other users.

There are plenty of measures for what is considered “old”. Pensions, health care, insurance, market research, all categorise us according to age.

I don’t feel any different inside to how I’ve always felt, I’m the same person. However I’m not deluded enough to think that’s how others see me. When I visit the dentist I have to remind them that I’m not ready to write off any of my teeth even if they are.

You can say you feel young at heart all you like but that doesn’t affect the reality of how you are seen by the world.

I am in my 50s and don't consider myself 'young' - of course I'm not! Not elderly either. I think 'elderly ' is far more variable depending on your health and well being. My mother is still well, independent and taking up new hobbies in her 80s.

It's weird to think Meghan is less than 10 years younger than me, we have been sold the 'young and naive' narrative so much.

You are as young as you feel, however, in terms of life cycle my DC's (early 20s) are young adults, me (early fifties) am a middle-aged adult.
To say Meghan, at nearly 45, is young is just silly, she is middle-aged.

I date being no longer young from the day I realized that my habit of wearing odd but matching ear rings made me look bonkers not charmingly quirky.

I realized that my habit of wearing odd but matching ear rings made me look bonkers not charmingly quirky.

Again I miss the laugh emoji.

I think the "Meghan is so young" narrative is getting a difficult one to push, especially as one main "insult" (and it does get used that way) is that those who prefer the RF or just don't like Meghan and her ways are old and, basically, won't be around much longer.
So we get someone of 44 being described as young...err...well, young at heart but she's only got 16 years left before she's old with not much time left.
You can't have it all ways 🤷🏻‍♀️
Maybe just stick to "Meghan has a young family" - that is at least true for the moment.

Given I get funeral plans and incontinence pants on my feed, and even letters from 'assisted living' homes in the post... I must presume I am old dammit
🤣

Where's the laugh reaction when you need it? 😂

The "young Meghan" narrative was pushed because it was easy to plant confusion in the susceptible public mind that being "new" (ie new to the RF) meant being "young". Especially when Meghan played the ingenue with all her "nobody told me" claims. "I'm such a hugger" and all the press comparisons of her being fresh versus Catherine's frumpy (yes, this was said at the time) and the RF's stuffy standoffishness may as well have read "young" versus "old", despite Meghan being a year older than Catherine and two years older than William.

And then there's Harry describing her as just like Diana - Diana being another one who was never allowed to mature in people's minds, who remained the innocent 19 year old sent to the slaughter, and sainted, despite her affairs and wily handling of the press.

It's all smoke and mirrors. Meghan was a player in the very tough world of acting and the machinations that go with that world. She's arguably much older in terms of experience and street wise than any of the other young royals. The "young mother" narrative we get from her fans is part of the victimhood narrative H&M continue to perpetuate, aided and abetted by people with no critical thinking skills.

Oops I typed and sent quickly not always time to check or realise and re edit. Such is life

Very sound points, an excellent post.

I suspect he is very accurate. We have seen her in action. Remember the near chaotic scene in Columbia with Meghan flirting.

I think Meghan herself aims to be “young” . Harry and Meghan (to coin Logan Roy from Succession) are not “serious people” so I suppose we view them as younger than others, especially William and Kate.

I did chuckle at the MNetter who said she had the epiphany that her boho look made her look like Suzi Quattro’s fat nan. I realised I was less Stevie Nicks and more the witch in Snow White 😭

She is definitely two-faced, especially regarding her "feminism". She tells Oprah in the big interview she feels erased not being referred to by her family name of Markle, but then, some time on, filming in a kitchen making pretty snacks for her kids, has a moan at the interviewer not addressing her as "Sussex!" 😂

I’m not a royalist but I actually was really pleasantly surprised that Harry decided to settle down with Meghan. As a mixed race person myself (Indian and English) I thought it was refreshing not to see a plummy, 6 ft blonde from Chelsea. Or someone who had been groomed their whole life to marry into the royal family.

As a young woman I could never relate to Kate at all. Her fashion sense (coat dresses?), lack of personality, lack of career etc were nothing that I could admire.

But when Meghan came on the scene she wore the clothes my friends and I wore, she was able to speak publicly without it seeming very awkward (sorry but Kate is an awful public speaker despite the hundreds of £s spent on her education). Meghan came across like she had a bit about her. I did find her engagement interview a bit sickly sweet but gave her a pass. She was a woman in love

But it became quite obvious she literally could not stop acting. She honestly just cringed me out. Comparing herself to Ariel who found her prince and finding her voice, complaining that she didn’t want the multi million pound wedding (funded by taxpayers).

But when Harry and Meghan started playing the oppression Olympics I was completely done. People were literally dying during the pandemic and we had to listen to these out of touch losers complain about their lack of privacy and how tough their lives were.

I honestly found it offensive that basically the entire UK was tarred as racist for finding an annoying woman annoying. Given Harry’s past with the nazi uniform and P word it really took the biscuit.

Meghan just comes off so fake and disingenuous. Someone really needs to tell her stop talking about being her authentic self. It’s just too cringe. And I think only a weirdo is that lacking in self awareness.

I don’t know why she thinks wearing jeans and being barefoot makes her “real”.

plus the way she just stopped speaking to Piers Morgan showed she was a bit of a user.

This is an excellent insight and a similar trajectory that I followed. The penny didn’t drop as early for me though as you, at the engagement interview and I actually fell for her polished articulate performance at the MH initiative interview with W&C.

What made my toes curl was the ‘poor me’ interview in Africa - the searching and downcast eyes - it just jarred as hammy acting.

And from then on you just can’t unsee it - the grandiose, delusional nonsense, stepping on anyone’s neck to get ahead - and ruthlessly using fake charisma to ‘kiss-up’ to those who have status / opportunities she can utilise whilst comfortably ‘kicking-down’ on those she either sees as competition or just ‘inferior’.

It’s amusing to observe like watching a pantomime with all the predictable, exaggerated behaviours.

Funny how people have different perspectives. I don’t want royals who look and dress like me. I find Meghan’s style lacking in class and finesse, I don’t want our country to be represented by someone who looks like she might have been recruited for a reality show.

She has turned out to be exactly how she appeared from the first time she told everyone they were a couple. I can’t believe people didn’t see it sooner.

I agree when she said “thanks for asking, no one’s asked if I’m okay or whatever ” I was so weirded out. She was clearly acting. And not very well. Her “pained” face was just too on the nose.

I just remembered that the Africa interview was when we heard Meghan refer to Harry as “H” and the way she did it was very awkward and contrived. Acting like it just slipped out when she clearly purposefully said it.

They’re not massive transgressions obviously but it just shows her to be a fake person. It really gives me the ick.

I think Meghan’s style and makeup/hair is an elevated modern look. Being slightly less done and natural is what a lot of younger women go for. Myself included. I thought it was refreshing to see a royal wear clothes that I actually coveted.

I don’t have anything against Kate but the coat dresses, prom hair, boring nude heels and wedges + blazers were extremely boring. I get she’s the future Queen so probably felt restricted in her choices.

Each to their own I guess. I’m only sharing my own experience of liking Meghan initially. Her fashion, career, mixed background and beauty styling are a part of what I gravitated towards at first

I didn’t mean to sound harsh, @Lobas, I do actually take your point.

I think what I’m saying is that whenever a royal is “relatable” things go a bit south. It’s just not possible for them to be one of us, and it comes off phoney when they try it.

Our RF are part of an ancient history and tradition, that’s their USP. That they are a bit different from the rest of us is OK.

Her fashion, career, mixed background and beauty styling are a part of what I gravitated towards at first

That makes sense, though I think it's a little harsh to criticise Catherine for the lack of career given that she had to leave her job due to the media intrusion (which included daily groups of photographers and upskirting)