Best advice for Harry going forward?

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I have all the same initial reactions as many others on MN regarding Harry i.e. whiner, grifter, stupid, entitled etc and it's easy to dole out the criticism.

However while I wouldn't say I have sympathy for him, as so much of his situation is of his own making, I actually do have some underlying feelings of concern for him and his future (and children).

He reminds me an awful lot of a relative of mine who is neurodiverse with a mild learning disability and a tendency to be self-absorbed with an overdeveloped victim complex - always lashing out, blaming others, seeing conspiracy where there is none etc.

Harry is clearly a damaged man, with childhood trauma and issues which continue to plague his mental health.
As with my relative, he has grown up with a support network which has probably quietly managed and enabled his passage through life, but when big outbursts happen (as have happened in our family too) everyone backs off and 'grey rocks' him until he has calmed down. Some people just give up, too exhausted by the constant drama of it all.

Meghan looks lovely and I like her dress.
Harry looks like he's been in his bedroom, playing video games and getting wasted.
What a contrast.

She does that cuddle up pose with everyone though, , the Marcus guy, recently the photographer guy, her ex husband, her ex fiancé (the hot chef) her father, her female friends.

Its just a pose she has perfected to elicit a specific image, nothing to do with her connection to her husband at all.

Ah, you are right. Hugging is her power tool, meted out to all and sundry to break down their personal boundaries and to assert her dominance - and make them feel special if they are easily taken in. Those who aren't are called stuck up, frigid and a bit too British.

LOL even Larry King 😂😂

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She's consistent! 😂

I keep finding myself saying it, but poor Harry. 😔

He wasn't taken in by her tho - hilarious interview he had her squirming.

One hundred percent!

And I'd add that Meghan is ALL about photo opportunities and 'optics', and, never mind the reality of the situation - as far as the rest of the world is concerned, it's proof that Meghan is popular, loved, had a million famous mates and is on huggy terms with them.

I really think Meghan has no authenticity - it you made this accusation to her face, she'd frown and genuinely not get the point. She has grown up in such a dysfunctional family and such a superficial, transactional world that the probably has no clue that hugging people and gurning for the camera does not a friendship make!!

I really, really hesitate to make cruel remarks about people's physical appearance...honestly. But in view of the vile things said about William by the SS, I have to say that poor Harry is not ageing well. It's not just the hair-loss - I don't find that a reason to consider someone unattractive. It's the pudgy, not very healthy, exhausted and pasty look he's developed. It doesn't speak of a happy person living their best life.

If I'm going to be unkind, I'd say that, hair or no hair, William has lucked out with the bone-structure (Diana? Prince Philip?) and despite losing his thatch, still looks dashing. Harry, I think, looks like the less attractive Windsors (eye close together) but has the florid Spencer colouring and red hair. His bone structure seems to have disappeared under saggy jowls.

I'm sorry - I don't mean to descend to the level of Celebitchy. But yes, Harry's appearance is not improving and I'm sure it's a sign of something deeper.

He'd look better if he accepted the hair loss and shaved his head and got rid of the beard, that looks greasy and does him no favours. He should go for a Grant Mitchell/bouncer/menacing baby look. He's actually got a decent physique still, so could probably carry this off.

If your hair is going, just accept it. William looks fine, Stanley Tucci more than fine. Desperate hair transplants look like desperate hair transplants (excepting Mo Salah - his has worked a treat). The sparse plugs on Harry look truly awful.

I get that hair loss can be hard to accept for men (dh examines his enlarging forehead every day!) but toupees, transplants and Hair Club of America (swimming caps with hair on!) look far worse than no hair at all.

(Obviously female hair loss is very different and excluded from any Harry/male hair discussion.)

Shut up, grow up and find something useful to do with the rest of your life.

My DH is bald, and looks lovely with it. As you say @MaturingCheeseball ,it can be rather sexy on the right man. Crop rotation, when the crops are clearly wilting on infertile soil, not so much.

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Yes, he looks so unattractive, although the angry face doesn't help.
Funny how he made so much of William's baldness in "Spare", so nasty and snide, yet William looks so much better than him.

I think it's fair because Harry was so cruel about William's appearance.

Meghan does look stunning in those photos, I like her hair, her dress and her make up is spot on.

Harry just looks a bit sweaty and very slightly puffy. The hat is ...ok I guess, don't really see why it needed shown, but it's obviously making some kind of point.

Having seen the photo of her & Larry King - it's struck me finally what the issue is with her hugging. It's purely performative and just too much. Too close (actually verging on unprofessional with LK), too practised, too much within personal boundaries and yet very clinical. There's no genuine warmth, all just for show. Inauthentic. Which is becoming more obvious with her now.

The point being - using personal items to sell themselves and their relationship.

IIRC, it was tied in with a snark about how William no longer looked like Diana. I think that was a very deliberate passage designed to distance both William from Diana in the reader's mind, and Harry himself from the ties that bound him to his brother - both serving to frame William as having changed and transformed into something sinister and of the "enemy" now (ie the RF).

Did anyone notice in the BBC interview that Harry talked about another person not able to leave the RF due to security fears (I'm paraphrasing)? The only person that could possibly refer to is William. He is still jabbing at his brother.

Harry and his hair plugs can do one. I don't feel sorry for him at all.

You are aware the poster is referring to Harry ?

@MrsFinkelstein I think the hat is a clap-back symbol to all the naysayers: after the derision over "Take a bath, my love", the Harry interview over the UK, the African Parks scandal continuing and the Sentebale disaster and the endless chatter about the children. It is inscribed on the rim with "Archie, Lili, My Love", US and UK flags, the California flag, and an outline of Africa. It's supposed to drive home everything is hunky dory in their world, and us fuckers out here can talk all we like, it makes no difference to them. The thing is, if it were all hunky dory, they wouldn't have to be this try hard, and they wouldn't be following the naysayers in order to clap back at them.

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@jeffgoldblumi know who she was referring to I don’t need you to point anything out to me. In fact I would prefer if you didn’t comment on my posts’.

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