When Meghan invited Willian and Kate ( the future King and Queen and potential in-laws) round for dinner to meet for the first time, she tells us she was barefoot and in ripped jeans. Her point was to put across she’s relaxed and they were formal and uptight. The symbolic difference them illustrated by her sartorial choices. It’s clear she was sending a message in that first meeting. Why didn’t she elevate her ordinary outfit to find the wonder in that first meeting?
It’s interesting comparing Meghan’s account of her first meeting with William and Kate to Harry’s account of her first meeting with Charles and Camilla (in Spare). He mentions she was wearing a full-skirted black dress with white flowers on it, her hair down and minimal makeup, which Harry notes he had suggested to her as he knew it would create a good impression with his Dad. He also discussed the necessary formalities with her - who she’d curtsey to, how she should address them etc.
An interesting contrast with the first meeting with William and Kate then, when Meghan and Harry seemingly hadn’t bothered to either communicate to their guests what the level of formality would be, or Harry hadn’t let Meghan know how their guests were likely to respond to the invitation. Meghan was in ripped jeans and barefoot and hugged Kate - then commented that her informality and warmth was obviously “jarring” for Kate.
We don’t of course know which meeting happened first. But the difference between them, as told to us directly by the couple, is fascinating.