So this is my take on it…
I have no doubt Harry misses his family unit because that’s how Mum brought him up, to remain close to his Brother and Father, and extended family. However his head was turned and he saw another way of life, he has a short fuse, so did a number of foot in mouth things he should have thought twice about.
he and his ‘aids’ need to stop feeding the press and go about reconnecting without it being reported on a near daily basis. A complete media blackout.
he and his wife need to work out how this involves connecting his children to his family. It won’t take long and they will be of age not to be interested, plus if Mum is drip feeding concerns over security and “look what happened to granny” scenarios, the kids will not want to go. They will be fearful.
in turn H & M between themselves, need to work out where M stands in all of this. I have a family member in similar family circumstances relationship wise, and she has told him he can go and see his family, but their children will not be going and neither will she. Most of my family think the spouse is odd anyhow, but would remain polite. I suspect this is no different to the H & M situation. Either way, it puts Harry in a difficult position because if he leaves M, she has the kids already in America and they won’t be forced to return to the UK. So Harry will be torn either way unless he can get his birth family to them. But that will hardly pass by the media’s attention.
in a nutshell Harry should embrace radio silence. He can’t return to what was, but can try and forge a new future. His biggest hurdle is his advisors and his Wife’s career requirements ? of being visable, viable and popular.