There has been some pretty awful stuff left to stand about both parties I think Samcro
The pregnancy thread did meander fairly rapidly and the OP said they made a mistake pretty quickly if I recall correctly.
I agree it isn’t nice speculating. I do think there is a slight difference wondering if someone is pregnant (a joyous lovely thing that can be proven within a matter of months) or stating something that could end a marriage or could cause children to be tormented by their peers in the playground for years on end.
Like you, I find the folk who state things to be true or hear it from their security service spouse (or not) are about as knowledgeable and believable as a creme egg.
As you say - no one knows. I appreciate folk will gossip or delight in chatting shit when something first hits the gossip boards. It doesn’t make it right but I can understand it.
I do have to wonder though about the folk who bring it up weeks or months after it has been spoken about. It serves no real purpose.
From experience, it is a bloody hard road to walk down when you’ve been the victim of it.
It matters not if it was something that started in jest or something started maliciously designed to wound or cause harm to someone.
It is just a really shit thing to do to anyone.