I posted this on the banned from
balmoral thread but copied here as seems relevant. Tbh regardless of the ins and ours it’s pretty poor form he’s even discussing private family business relating to his grandmothers death given she was quite a private individual.
My take is that HMTQ was clearly elderly and likely unwell but in decent enough health just 48hrs prior to stand and appoint new PM. Her family knew she was deteriorating most of the summer but I think the actual timing would have been a shock and I think events happened quickly. Charles was in Dumfries he went by helicopter back to Balmoral. Anne was in Scotland on official business and near/at balmoral coincidentally already. Both their spouses were in and around balmoral also due to this. Andrew and Edward being her other children and Sophie being her other DIL (whom was close to her and had been in family many many years) were called to come to Balmoral that morning once doctors confirmed things really were not looking positive.
I think all the grandchildren would have been informed at this time also but no plans made for them to go to balmoral. Although doctors did suggest this was the end they wouldn’t have known with certainly. I’m sure I’m not the only one with experience of being called to care homes or hospitals to say goodbye to elderly relatives only to find them very much alive for days or weeks after (or indeed many more years on cases!)
So that leaves William. I believe he’s be summoned to Balmoral not just because he was a grandson but more because of his constitutional role. If she hadn’t died that day and had eg had a stroke Counsellors of State would have been needed. This needs TWO so Charles and William (this happened at opening of parliament too W had to attend not just C) hence Williams presence was needed at balmoral to fulfill this role should it be needed.
Of course as we know her death came relatively quickly that same day so in event no CoS was needed as death resulted in KC.
I think grandchildren was asked to come to say their personal goodbyes then. I believe the family were all together the next day - certainly I remember seeing Beatrice, Eugenie, Zara and Louise (who has just started at St Andrews Uni and was drive to balmoral from there). I’m sure Peter and James were there (not 100% on Peter). There was clear a family gathering to have private goodbyes and to come together on the day or two that followed. With the exception of KC and W who returned to London for their duties. I’m sure they’d have rather stayed with the wider family having private time together.
So that leaves our much discussed Harry. Likely what he said is partially true (so many of his tales have just that slight hint of truth to them but never the full story) and he wasn’t invited that specific day and moment. He was called to be informed just like all the other grandchildren. HE then immediately assumed he and Meghan should be going to
Balmoral (he said he contacted William on this). W calls his father to inform him. C agrees H can come to balmoral but not M as none of wider grandchild going at that point. H has hump until C says even Kate isn’t going then H immediate backs down and says okay I’ll come alone. By this time the flight is ready to go so no there isn’t a seat for you now as we are going now!! He he interprets as not being invited on plane!
He arrives in balmoral sulking. Says a “private” goodbye to his gran and ignores his dad and brother. Flies out shamefully early the next morning without waiting for rest or wider family to all mourn together.
Simple and totally made up by me but makes as much sense as any other story out there!!