I agree. Their actions (well, Harry's at least) are at complete variance with the stated views and aims.
If Harry wants a reconciliation with his father and brother, then why on earth is he revealing deeply personal (and embarrassing) details of his family life and relationships?
If he and Meghan are so against the Royal Family and all that it stands for, then why on earth do they persist in using their royal titles - and why was Meghan so peeved that her son would not be given the title of Prince?
It makes no sense - unless the actual truth is that Harry is insanely jealous of his brother, resents having been born 2nd (the "spare"), having had a less lavish wedding, having to live in less lavish premises with (I assume) fewer servants etc.
It does seem that there is a lot of jealousy there, which is so very sad.
I think Harry comes across as needing psychotherapy, not only for his jealousy and inferiority issues but also, sadly, to help him process his emotions around the death of his mother. I feel for him in some ways, yet in other ways he comes across as a bit of a "spoilt brat" throwing his toys out of the pram and wanting everyone to run around after him picking them up.