So I watched the 3 episodes and have decided H&M do genuinely love each other but it's a not just love its an overly romantised, victim based dependancy. Us against the world.
The cultural differences between USA's positive, self affirming confidence and lack of class hierarchy plus huge racial problems and the British class system, birth right, know your place and social distaste for confident, self affirmative and vocal progression have never been more apparent. You also have Harry who is not as humble as maybe we thought and has been raised knowing he was different, special and never fully meshed with anyone because he is born into such a different world.
Both are damaged and have childhood attachment issues. Neither have found acceptance in the world. They have unmet needs and they can bridge some of that gap with each other and their children but deep down H is angry, hurt, immature and very frightened. M is frustrated, self important has no understanding of British social structure, its complexity and she doesn't seem to get that even if she was white she would still get bad press because of her social status. She only knows this kind of marginalisation due to racism her mother initially experienced and this is why she and her mother perceives it as racism and many in UK do not. For the UK it's not a race issue it's a class issue. Neither are acceptable but the missmatch of these perceptions is a huge communication barrier.
Harry has failed to prepare M for the social difference and class structure. He was so in love with her and gave her too much misplaced credit for knowing how to act due to her public life. He has failed her and he knows it, trying to over compensate now. M needed someone, anyone to take her under their wing in the RF and mold her to match the protocol. I have my doubts M would accept such advise because she simply didn't understand the depth of the protocols and this adherence equates to respect of the monarchy and history of the RF. She is nieve and self important. She would deem it ridiculous the British people see it as disrespectful and self centred and H floats along with rose tinted glasses and huge deep seated fear he's going to be abandoned again by the nearest person who reminds him of his mother.
H&M don't feel heard or understood, the British people feel their heritage has been attacked and are defensive. The media in the UK has no morals, its all about what sells and they do and will destroy people.
It's a mediation nightmare that's go too messy with cultural differences of the USA's loud, self affirmative and modern culture against the UKs 1000 year old institution of its Monarchy, class structure and need for refined, respectful, underplayed controlled behaviour which is certainly not achieved by a netflix contract 🙈. A simple book is deemed as in poor taste in the UK.