Page 4 | Is Harry just going through a bad case of Limerence?

Pearmain · 2022-12-09T17:40:06+00:00

It seems to fit the description and would explain how it seems like he’s totally taken leave of his senses. It must be so hard for the Royals but I wonder if they can see this which is why they’ve not cut him off, they know they’ll need to be there to help him pick up the pieces when he snaps out of it.

stillvicarinatutu · 09/12/2022 20:53

I don't think there is a Harry and Meghan problem.

They're grown adults maki g their
Choices- agree or not
And the way they are maki g money is unique because they're in a unique position.

I don't begrudge either of them . It appears that the media , and some of the public would like them to shut up and go quietly - but why should they not be allowed to answer their critics ?

Cookerhood · 09/12/2022 20:55

The curtsy thing was weird (only bit I've seen!). Harry looked very uncomfortable.
Other than that I don't really have opinions about them 🤣

stillvicarinatutu · 09/12/2022 21:00

Meghan was taking the piss out of herself not knowing the right way to curtsy - she was saying all she knew was big gestures like in medieval times - the meeting with the queen was sprung on her , she had 20 mins to prep, and I guess she thought maybe behind closed doors a grandson wouldn't have to bow to his granny ? I imagine if you are not a uk national the formality is all very "foreign " !

CaponeOnTax · 09/12/2022 21:02

Limerance is a made up concept to make posters on MN feel better about their husbands straying.

Everywhere else this is known as ‘falling in love’. Many of us got married and had babies while in this mystery state.

BonnesVacances · 09/12/2022 21:03

Says some ‘sad old woman’ (gosh 😬) being nasty on forums to random strangers they don't know.

You couldn’t make it up.

Harry and Meghan don’t seem to bring out the best in anyone..

It was deliberate.

So calling random strangers on forums sad old women isn't ok.

But calling MM all the names under the sun is ok.

The law of MN. Got it.

stillvicarinatutu · 09/12/2022 21:10

CaponeOnTax · 09/12/2022 21:02

Limerance is a made up concept to make posters on MN feel better about their husbands straying.

Everywhere else this is known as ‘falling in love’. Many of us got married and had babies while in this mystery state.

😂. Brill. Spot on .

I'm waiting for it to happen again and hope it does !

Calphurnia88 · 09/12/2022 21:30

BonnesVacances · 09/12/2022 18:38

I have a theory that some posters sit and look at their deadbeat OH and feel hard done by when they look at how H&M are with each other. So being just plain nasty about other people makes them feel better about their choices.

This theory has as much basis as people's theory about H&M. But that's my opinion and apparently anyone who feels hard done by inaccurate assumptions shared on social media has to put up and shut up.

No doubt this will be reported and deleted even though shit about MM stands because hate sells because some sad old women want to be able to be nasty on forums to random strangers they don't know, but they don't seem to be able to take it themselves.

But I'll still think they must be pretty miserable to be so negative and want to pull people down. And I see you, even if you don't see yourselves.

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Well said.

I find the level of vitriol aimed at H&M and the way people talk about them (as if they know them intimately e.g. 'She likes him well enough I’m sure and there is probably some love there') just bizarre.

ComfortablyDazed · 09/12/2022 22:01

BonnesVacances · 09/12/2022 21:03

Says some ‘sad old woman’ (gosh 😬) being nasty on forums to random strangers they don't know.

You couldn’t make it up.

Harry and Meghan don’t seem to bring out the best in anyone..

It was deliberate.

So calling random strangers on forums sad old women isn't ok.

But calling MM all the names under the sun is ok.

The law of MN. Got it.

So your way of urging people to #bekind is to be vicious.

Got it.

Carreterra · 09/12/2022 22:03

Georgeskitchen · 09/12/2022 18:03

What she sees in him is $$$$$, without him and his (former) family, she is just another 2 bit actress scratching for a living

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Well said !

HundredMilesAnHour · 09/12/2022 22:04

CaponeOnTax · 09/12/2022 21:02

Limerance is a made up concept to make posters on MN feel better about their husbands straying.

Everywhere else this is known as ‘falling in love’. Many of us got married and had babies while in this mystery state.

Perhaps limerance is a made up concept.

However limerence is not.

This is the Oxford English Dictionary definition of limerence:
“The state of being romantically infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.”

LemonSwan · 09/12/2022 22:07

That’s a word I never knew existed. Interesting google but no I don’t think he has limerance.

carefulcalculator · 09/12/2022 22:07

Maybe, just maybe, as an adult Harry is genuinely living his life the way he thinks is best? Maybe he genuinely is pissed off with his family/the institution? Maybe he has genuine feelings about what has happened to his family?

There are three sides to every story - your side, my side and the truth.

Harry can genuinely view things this way, the palace genuinely view them a different way. That is human and normal.

I find it tiresome that the woman must be blamed.

HerReputationMadeItDifficultToProceed · 09/12/2022 22:19

I'm very confused by all of this type of chat. They seem very happy. A but loopy, sure, but happy. And the royal family seem horrible and not like something I would want to be near if they were mine either. So.... ? Maybe he's just escaped his dysfunctional family.

NorthernGnashers · 09/12/2022 22:21

@BellePeppa
Do you think it could be the Oedopus Complex, where boys/men are obsessed and look for a life partner who they think is just like their mum? I watched a scene from a documentary which featured Meghan "helping" with Water aid in Rwanda. Harry may have seen this and thought she was just like his mum?

NippyWoowoo · 09/12/2022 22:44

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 09/12/2022 18:36

I think I've probably made three posts about them since September. If you could tell me how many posts on any subject I'm allowed to make before it qualifies as 'obsession' then I'll take due note and modify my bad behaviour.

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3 since SEPTEMBER? That’s nearly 1 a month. I’ve never made one ever. Yeah I’d say that’s a bit of a qualifier

ChristmasJoysuckers · 09/12/2022 22:45

@Pearmain

What is limerance?

How long does this relationship have to last? sometimes people have an incredible decade then fall out of love .

HeadAboveTheParapet · 09/12/2022 22:46

I think he's a terrible husband.

He didn't get her help when she was pregnant and in MH crisis instead took her to a very public engagement. You can't convince me that he couldn't have got her help within 20min if he'd have tried. They started a MH charity for goodness sake!

Didn't warn her or run interception on the racist family members she encounter. we all have dodgy family we know need to be kept away from people they will offend! You warn people about the worst and keep them away.

Didn't give her the heads up on protocol and behaviour expected.
The royals aren't a normal family. He should have told her that she would be kept at arms length especially at the beginning.
Meeting InLaws is quite a big thing, royal in laws even more so. He should have warned her.

The list goes on.

If MM was on here we'd all be telling her she had a DH problem!

I think he wanted what Wills has with the Middleton's. A semi normal family life being taken into a loving, whole family- outside f royal engagements. No it's not perfect but it's very much what the boys didn't have growing up.

Unfortunately he fell for someone who didn't have that either. They haven't got the extended family security, they are pushing away what they could have had. But every time MM says something about not realising, not knowing, putting her foot in it or being surprised at protocol etc I think Harry you did that to her!

ChristmasJoysuckers · 09/12/2022 22:47

@HerReputationMadeItDifficultToProceed

I adore the royal family in that role.

But as an actual family?
Who on earth would want to be part of it?? My goodness!
They are a horror show!

ChristmasJoysuckers · 09/12/2022 22:49

@HeadAboveTheParapet and Harry would have learned all that... from wherever exactly?

Eton? Where he spent his childhood?the army?

Or a totally self absorbed distant father too busy with Camilla to be there for Harry??

That leaves William.
And Kate.

Who do people think did raise Harry??

ChristmasJoysuckers · 09/12/2022 22:54

@CaponeOnTax

I don't understand this limerance.

saffronrabbit · 09/12/2022 22:57

I do think they genuinely love each other, but I don't think they're healthy for each other -the obsessive photo taking and sharing and trying desperately to paint a picture of a happy couple is worrying and unnatural.

I hope they finally feel heard and settle into a peaceful and private life together. He seems more vulnerable than ever before (or maybe we never quite realised how bad it was before Meghan)

HeadAboveTheParapet · 09/12/2022 23:03

@ChristmasJoysuckers Protocol etc? He knows protocol of course he does.

I think they are both damaged souls like most children of divorce and death. But some of this lashing out is misplaced.

Anon778833 · 09/12/2022 23:05

McBurgerTime · 09/12/2022 18:28

Some of you are absolutely deranged with your Meghan obsession.

He's been with her for 6 years, married and they have two children. Is your husband in love with you or is it just limerance?

I agree!!

arghtriffid · 09/12/2022 23:07

I think the documentary is good. Just a lovely love story. I wish them all the best. I hope things get better for them now.

Mirabai · 09/12/2022 23:12

HundredMilesAnHour · 09/12/2022 22:04

Perhaps limerance is a made up concept.

However limerence is not.

This is the Oxford English Dictionary definition of limerence:
“The state of being romantically infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.”

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Not limerance then is it, they’ve just had 2 babies.