Am shocked Meghan said this…

[Ndd135632]

She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

Wow how dare she not be in full ballgown and tiara? Seriously it's not her fault W & K are stiff (which they are allowed to be and I'm not surprised they are given how they have to behave in public).

IME of living in the US, they very much do expect the rest of the world to be like them and are shocked when for example they find out other countries don’t celebrate Independence Day or thanksgiving. It’s a very insular country that provides little or education in schools about the rest of the world, so it’s not really their fault.

Hugging jarring for a lot of Brits? She has her own reality doesn't she? Maybe constructed to always fit into her self-serving agenda and victim image of herself.

Meghan reminds me of a feminist ex-boss I used to work with where everyday she came in claiming she'd been sexually harassed or touched or a sexist remark had been made towards her, while the rest of us used to wonder why this wasn't happening to us. I mean every single day. She also didn't look like Pamela Anderson, very far from it! I think her self image was that she was irresistible by nature of being female and that all men were sex obsessed.

They call it confirmation bias, don't they? Where the person actively looks for slights and things that will fit into their beliefs and also image of themselves.

I wish the silly moo would stop moaning about her lot in life. I heard a clip this morning where Harry said some in the RF dont marry for love... what a vile thing to say. Unlike him of course. They are so so perfect and legends in their own lunchtimes.

I am convinced that she married into the RF to enable her to spout off about pet projects (and do the complete opposite to what they do themselves in real life!). It didnt work did it...... and neither of them liked this. It was their way or the highway.

@Needmoresleep interesting. Not as naive as she makes out then ?

There IS going to come a time when people run out of things to bash MEGHAN for.

I can't wait for that day. This is just reaching @Ndd135632

1/10. Lame.

Lots of British people hug. It's not odd.

I've already said this, but why is it her job to bend to their "cultural" norms? Why can't they be warm, welcoming and God forbid, have a hug... I doubt it would do them any lasting damage.

They are air kissers and huggers. They are if anything over friendly to people they have just met, far more so than ordinary British people.

Did you dress up to meet your boyfriend's brother the first time? I would definitely have been in jeans and I never wear shoes in my home

Also I hug everyone. (I live in a country where everyone hugs and kisses on greeting each other ).

I think this reflects badly on Harry more than anyone.

When you introduce a new partner to your family you prepare them for any quirks or preferences so that they aren't caught out by some innocuous thing like wearing your shoes in the house when they are shoes off people or saying grace before eating, or cultures where people hug/kiss/shake hands/bow.

Obviously you aren't always aware that your families quirks are quirks rather than normal but surely Harry knows that his family aren't quite like a normal working American family. He should have some awareness of cultural differences as a result of his position too, he wouldn't walk into a temple in his shoes, he knows who he salutes and who he bows to etc, it is cruel not to share that knowledge.

I would have thought Megan might have asked him, but the onus was on him to prepare her. He really learned nothing from his Mother.

Also though “met my BIL’a new GF and she came in for a hug. I’m not a hugger and didn’t feel comfortable with this”.

Half of MN would tell her to log it with 101 😂

I think William and Catherine were simply being cautious - which is understandable. In Meghan's shoes - or lack of them - I'd have been quietly vowing to myself that I would show them I was reliable and trustworthy. I'd realise that they weren't 'huggy Luvvies' but I'd be open-minded about the potential for all four of them to be good friends in the longer term.

I don't know why people feel it was down to Harry to teach her how to behave in public. She was nearly 40 and had already been in many other international relationships with a Canadian, an Irishman and so on. There were Hollywood movies and box sets showing British culture in detail and I bet she had watched them all. She was always online blogging, googling. It is fair to say she does not have self awareness

I sort of understand why they curtsy to the Monarch but I don’t understand why they are so formal when they have dinner with their siblings fgs. I’d have thought they all would have wanted to be in jeans and be barefoot in that sort of company.

I’m with Harry and Meghan. No wonder they’ve moved away, I couldn’t stand to bring my kids up like that either. It’s ridiculous

Charlize - I had a colleague like this... constantly telling people that she was being approached by various male colleagues in an inappropriate way every single day.

Again she wasnt particularly attractive, far from it. No one believed what she was saying! In her case I believe it was attention seeking and victimhood. Just like Markle.

Ripped jean? Meh, I doubt I'd meet my in-laws in ripped jeans but if my in-laws were royal, I'd definitely want to look at least smart casual.

Welcoming guests in your home barefoot is off-putting. It's not just informal but unusual super weird and shows an unwillingness to fit in straight from the go. I shared a house with some guys from New Zealand in London and they did walk around barefoot in the house and to pop to the shops in summer. It was rather weird, although one of them was rather good looking.

I suspect Meghan asked Harry what she should wear when meeting W&K and he said she looks super hot just as she is, in ripped jeans and bare feet, so they shagged there and then and sadly there was no time to get dressed properly after the fact as W&K were knocking on the door. Harry says that his family were super duper impressed with Meghan and didn't know what to do with themselves 😂he was obviously blindly in love and advised her badly.

I agree that in most British families meeting your sibling and their new partner is not a formal occasion. My DS has brought his girlfriend to meet us. She wasn't dressed up at all and neither was I.

It is extremely obvious what most posters & the british press have against Meghan.

She hasn't said anything wrong here? Not sure why you're so up in arms about it. Would a suit and heels have been more appropriate for you? Like a job interview?

I’ve only started the third episode but so far I find very little has been said about the Royal Family. Meghan and Harry seem to blame the press, or tabloids, rather.
I think overall they’ve played their hand terribly badly but so far this documentary is not shocking or mean spirited or blaming any one person or persons. Charles can relax, I think😁 Mind, I haven’t finished.

@OriginalOrchid I thought most families in Britain were shoes off houses?
So most people in Britain are barefoot, with socks or slippers. So informal is the norm in peoples own houses in Britain.

I'm watching the Netflix show now and it's just covered the 'straight out of Compton' thing. Claiming she was from a gang rife area, taking pictures of random houses on Skid Row saying that's her mum's house etc when MM has never lived in Compton.
Headlines flashing up saying "Royal Shame! Megan's Mum Hits Laundromat" etc.

I mean, why aren't people more cross at this?

I'm a hugger. I'll hug absolutely anyone. I'll also wear what I like and I dress in scruffs most of the time. I think I met my in-laws wearing jeans and a jumper. Sat and had coffee with them still wearing my beanie hat. Somehow I haven't shamed them or offended them.

Only in the confinement of MN. I don’t know of a single shoes off house.

This could be just as easily a criticism of K & W.
Why didn't they realise people are different, cultures are different. Why didn't they (when going to her home) try & find out about expectations/culture? Why didn't they ask Harry how to behave appropriately when meeting her in her home?

Let's face it K&W have staff & television they can figure out how people that aren't the RF behave.

Bloody incredibly bad mannered of them.

I think this has nothing to do with being Royal. She's a hugger & doesn't understand people who aren't. That's her issue not theirs. I'm not a hugger & so I completely understand. Meeting future family for the first time, ripped jeans and barefoot seems a tad disrespectful to me.