Member of Household resigns

[myrtleWilson]

Awful story just broken on twitter about horrendous racist questioning from Lady Hussey to Ngozi Fulani from Sister Space at yesterdays VAWG event.

Lady Hussey has resigned.

[Edited by MNHQ to correct typo at OP's request]

It is not difficult to do this no, but the question is why should she?

It's difficult when you have been invited to represent your charity but the person greeting you takes one look at you and decides to focus on your heritage instead.

Haha, saw you coming. Well, since I am from a minority religious group through lived experience, I don't seek guidance from anyone who isn't. Your understanding is based on activism and other consumption. You do not walk in people's shoes from watching a few videos 🙄

Well - I have donated to the charity!

I vote that Lady Susan should donate a years salary too.

I'm white (but could have been born in any European country)so if I'd been asked where I'm from and I said I'm British, the person asking wouldn't have kept on asking, but where are you really from , they would have just accepted my answer. Why should a woc explain her heritage if she's British.

Totally agree. You just know what they “really” mean with some of the questioning. Ive had so many interactions like this. And not in the past either.

@Justasec321 Oh, a duff note in the echo chamber who just happens to have a more nuanced opinion. I wasn't aware that you were sitting in taking notes when it happened. Eejit.

I have 80 and 90 year old white friends. A couple are from moneyed backgrounds. They have never spoken that way about anyone as they have a wide and diverse social circle.

People like her are stuck in the 1950s.

As a non-white person I am asked this all the time, by people young and old. I don’t mind it and I answer with both my nationality and my birth country. I think the badgering is what’s wrong, she should have left it when it was clear the recipient was not happy. It’s an egotistic power play more than racism I would say.

@Croque what are you talking about? Your attempt to minimise this is completely predictable and frankly, your minority religion is of no concern to me. Your hideous posts are.

Activism and consumption?! My entire family are from a different country half of which are non white.

I agree. But people of non British origin are expected to pedal a single narrative or it distresses some and you get cancelled.

I’m a white woman with a Northern Irish dad, and I was born in Germany. I look fairly stereotypically Irish in terms of my colouring and until I married and changed my name, I had an Irish surname. I have never once had anyone question me about ‘where I’m really from’ when I’ve told people that I’m English. Not once.

Not only was this woman racist - because I don’t believe for one tiny nanosecond that she’d have been pushing me or someone who looked like me for all the details of my family’s immigration history - she was unspeakably rude to a guest of her boss. Touching someone without permission and refusing to accept their answer to a question - both awful things to do! Both the racism and the rudeness make her totally unsuitable for the job she was doing. But mostly the racism, of course!

This. One of my grandparents was an immigrant to the UK. I have literally never had this conversation? Why? Because the grandparent in question was white European and it never occurs to anyone I might not be of British ancestry on both sides. I do feel British - why shouldn’t I when everyone I meet treats me (based on skin colour and accent) as being British. If I had to justify my ancestry as POC seem to have to do constantly, I’m not sure I’d feel the same.

I didn't realise I had (another) online stalker 😳So I have never conversed with you on MN but you have been sitting there keeping tabs on me. How strange. We are now going back to the point where I don't bother replying as I have no bandwith for you.

Time machine reverse 😅

She doesn’t get paid and as far as I can tell has never had a paying job so that isn’t really a solution.

Just to say my last post was agreeing with the poster who said many Black British people don’t feel British because of constant conversations like this not because I think for one second they aren’t as British as I am.

It’s disgusting behaviour by Lady Susan, and as well as being deeply offensive to Ms Fulani, this is overshadowing the purpose of both the charity she works for and Camilla’s reception.

Educating the palace worthies is not enough- there needs to be root and branch pruning so that bad attitudes to race, class, background and whatever other unsavoury prejudices and habits they have are expunged.

Charles needs to get over any misplaced loyalties and pretty damn quick.

xJ0y · Today 15:24
This lady Susan shouldn't have asked where are you really from Confused but I agree with the poster who suggests that reiterating I am british but my parents came from.............. shouldn't be that difficult.

I hyave always had to do this when my surname is questioned and I am fine with it because I am proud of my ancestry being different to the person asking and I am keen to enlighten them. Until this PC madness set in a few years ago, it was a normal question which I would be asked almost everyday.

I was so pleased yesterday that the reception had been held highlighting VAWG and celebrating those working on it. Now this silly racist woman has caused untold damage.

All she had to say was, "British born and bred and my heritage is..." - job done without all the trauma! Isn't she proud of where her family came from?

Is that what you say then?

i mean, I've never said "British born and bred and my heritage is completely British as far as I know".

Actually, this, and several other obtusely offensive posts on this thread, are way more alarming than an elderly aristocrat being racist.

I saw this on Twitter and I'm one of the replies saying how much it happens to me.

very glad it's front page news.

My Dad is 75 a mere 8 years younger and isn't a racist. It's not hard and she has no excuse despite the best efforts of posters on here to find one.

Is she bollocks ‘ashamed’ of it @hattie43 Fucks sake. She wanted to talk about her work, no doubt, not herself, and anyone up to the job of being part of hosting team would have clocked that and moved the conversation on, not kept badgering the poor woman. But sure, let’s make it the fault of the woman of colour who is a guest rather than of the wealthy and titled woman whose job it was to make those guests feel welcome…!