Does anyone want a thread for people who are happy for Harry and Meghan? Thread 3

[Samcro]

new thread hope Dave comes back

After all, it looks very odd if you know that your partner has a large extended family, but they refuse to invite any of them to your wedding.

you're surely not suggesting that MM's extended family were, in fact, invited to the wedding, and decided, en masse, not to attend for the reasons you state?

I’m saying it’s not out of the realm of possibility. Couples every day have small weddings or elope. We don’t know what the family dynamic is between her mum and her father, or his family members and hers even though it was reported that his children said racist things about Doria even calling her “the maid”. We don’t know how old her extended family is, how large, how close or if they can even travel the distance or would want to. LA to England is around 11.5 hours, not including travel to airport and lodging. How many times have we seen on here people saying that people who have weddings overseas should accept that people won’t come the distance or should have the wedding closer or a half way point?

MN is filled with threads about family dynamics where a lot of families don’t get on, fractured, aren’t close, only see each other every few years or even nc. Why is it hard to believe that that might be the case for MM? Why should it be assumed because it was her doing or they weren’t invited? Or that they themselves might have turned down the invite?

It’s not strange if you have lived with a complicated family dynamic.

Did she have to give reasons? Maybe the reasons were and are personal to her like many human beings isn’t she entitled to that?

We are all different, some people are very close to their family some not so much. I’m not just going to use the absence of extended family as a way to speculate on what kind of person Meghan is. Some of course will find it odd, yet some have gone further than just finding it odd .

I, too, am interested to find out more about the much-beleaguered Archewell

It's much beleaguered already? Blimey, that was fast work.

A couple trying to do some good and seeing negativity and nastiness at every turn. Even the name is mocked. Pathetic.

Anyone with a modicum of brain power would realise it does not matter what they call it, they will still be criticised, because those that hate them will find any excuse whatsoever. No name would be suitable for those people. Just an excuse to bash.

I am surprised that... given what the world is going through, there is still this hate around.

*Or, maybe they turned it down

After all, it looks very odd if you know that your partner has a large extended family, but they refuse to invite any of them to your wedding

Why? In normal life that happens. I went to a wedding of about 100 people, mostly the bridegroom's side and friends.

chrisseldeh you cannot have it both ways.

Either MM didn't invite her extended family, for whatever reason

or

The entire extended family was invited, and decided (en masse) not to attend.

Not both. One or the other.

chriss isn't saying both. She is saying either/or.
She is offering possible reasons.

And I agree, it's not a reason to hate her.

Well that is VERY strange, to my way of thinking.

Now you're saying that every single member of the extended family chose not to attend because it was too far and too expensive.

The famous people came, though.....

Jeez. I do not hate Meghan.

I am fed up of saying it.

I would never presume to know why someone I don't know who I'm never likely to meet has or hasn't invited members of their family to their wedding. Meghan clearly has her reasons. Perhaps if she posted about her father's antics on AIBU she'd be told to go NC and directed towards the Stately Homes thread!

Your posts are sounding unpleasant Mustress. You're revelling in a little snippet of something and trying to blow it out of all proportion. What an odd thing to do.

Was it 'strange' that the wedding I went to, had hardly anyone from the bride's family yet 100 there? Nope. There will be reasons and it's not my business.

Jeez. I do not hate Meghan

There's plenty of alternatives to the word 'hate.'

Abhor, despise, dislike, detest, loathe,
Take your pick

The famous people came, though.....

Well yes, they're easy to spot. There were plenty of non-famous guests too but obviously we don't know their names!

Lol I never even speculated that the family was invited en masse and didn’t attend.

I said maybe the extended family is not close enough to warrant a wedding invitation. Even the half sister and brother admitted that they haven’t seen Meghan for over a decade before the wedding.

I agree that not having her family there doesn't mean she deserves to be called names or whatever, but it is odd. I've never seen it happen before, although I'm Irish and we invite everyone we've ever heard of!

TheMustressMhor It was on the 'Archewell to replace Sussex Royal' thread yesterday, about 30 or 40 posts in, the article claims that MM's long term US business adviser Andrew Meyer registered the foundation on Oct 23 2018. I think that's the problem with celebs that want to only show their good side; whilst we have some 'journalists' that will spout any old rubbish, we also have investigative journalists that would put the FBI to shame. If you're not all that you seem, this could be a problem.

Maybe we should all hijack the critical threads

Her extended family not close enough? But presumably "closer" than all those celebrities, some of whom it is reported they hadn't even met?

Maybe we should all hijack the critical threads.
Don't think it hasn't happened.
But it's not "hijacking." This is an open site, any one of us can post wherever we like.

Maybe we should all hijack the critical threads

!

Samcro you can post anywhere, as can I.

• After all, it looks very odd if you know that your partner has a large extended family, but they refuse to invite any of them to your wedding.

It’s odd if you don’t have a complex family dynamic. My husband’s family is very close compared to mine and I have a massive family ( 10+ aunts and uncles not including their spouses). My dad’s side is quite close but don’t get on with my mum, my mum’s side aren’t really close and keep to themselves. My parents themselves barely get on despite living together. I was the black sheep of the family so wasn’t necessarily close to any of my cousins (on any side). They also lived in different states so only saw them during the holidays growing up. I wanted to elope knowing this and not wanting it to play out at our wedding. We had a wedding in the end at the halfway point between our countries (he’s British and I’m American). I did the “honourable” thing and invited both sides of my family. Guess what happened.. my mother’s sister and her daughter came with my parents, none of my dad’s side showed up. Not only that my mother accused me of putting my in-laws before them even though I told them where we were all meeting up for dinner and they had refused having found something else they wanted to do. My parents got into an argument and then my father and I got into an argument, then we all were arguing. All right before I was going to walk down the altar. I plastered a smile on my face while inside fuming and blaming myself for doing the “honourable” thing even though once again it ends badly because of the family I have.

Maybe we should all hijack the critical threads

As Douglas Adams wrote, there are some people who believe that this has already happened..

There have been plenty of incursions into the critical threads by posters who disagree strongly. Lots of justification is brought out for that, yet there seems to be a belief that posters there should accept being told off in 'their' but also respect and stay away from the 'happy' space. MNHQ's line seems to be that anyone can post anywhere as long as they don't break Talk guidelines. So it goes both ways and no one 'owns' a thread or gets to direct the content.

Sorry phoenix that does sound awful.

Samcro please write anything you like, anywhere you like.

No thread is owned on this site.

We just have to keep to the TGs.