It’s a huge mess and I feel for the queen.
I used to feel for the Queen, and I have a lot of respect for her any 90 year old woman who gets up, puts on an outfit and a hat and travels 300 miles to visit victims of a bombing gets extraordinary admiration from me but I'm now starting to suspect a lot of this problem with H&M might have actually been caused by the Queen in the first place.
I think a lot of the problem goes back to Andrew, and the way the Queen has fudged the role issues surrounding members of her family that slowly fall down the line of succession (Margaret, then Andrew, now Harry). And what indeed the line of succession actually means in real, practical terms.
I mean, lets face it ... there's no guarantee that William will actually be King. Charles is likely to become King in the next ten years, but you never know. Fate is strange that way.
So the only thing that marks these people as important is that they undertake duties on behalf of the Queen, that they act as the Queen in certain situations, that they are "working royals". But if we are going to go with that, then we have to consider that "the Monarchy" is actually not just one person, but more like eight: a titular head (the Queen) and the working senior royals.
And I'm fine with that, and I'm fine with those people being referred to as "Royalty". But within that, everyone of those eight people has to behave like the Monarch and undertake monarchical duties. And this is where it falls down with H&M, as it fell down with Andrew and Margaret.
And I suspect this is because the Queen doesn't actually want that definition of Monarchy to be the case. I suspect she wants it to mean her family regardless of what they do or don't do; how they behave or do not behave because she has taken an oath to God to undertake a role she did not particularly want to do.
I'm starting to get the feeling that we've been manipulated into accepting a very anachronistic model of royalty, monarchy and entitled privilege that benefits the Royal Family more than the country, and this has been done by virtue of the "duty and service" model that Queen has developed. That model has covered up what appear to be very entitled attitudes within parts of the royal family, which may very well come from the Queen herself.
So when we see some of this entitlement, as with Harry, this is why it's all WTF?! Because for ordianry people, it just seems unbelievably entitled bonkersness.
After all, the protocol surrounding Prime Ministers and their weekly audience with the Queen is very inappropriate in this age. One asks just exactly why a female PM should curtsey to the Queen and PMs should not speak unless spoken to and be dismissed by the sound of a bell. I mean, come on.