It’s not philanthropy if you’re doing it to get something back.
That’s a trade, a deal. It’s work.
You can’t work as a philanthropist.
This is where they’ve gone wrong.
The causes they’ve chosen to highlight are worthy. Excellent. As philanthropists they would speak, travel, give talks, attend dinners etc to talk about these causes, lend their celebrity etc FOR FREE.
Even the RF don’t do this because they’re disgustingly well remunerated (and all the rest of it) for all their ribbon cutting. But the waters are so muddied, it’s gone on so long that people don’t see them in that light any more.
On the Oscars, if MM - a supporting actress on a little known legal drama shown on one of the lesser cable channels in the USA - attends, it would be an affront to the artists who are there on merit. I’ve no doubt the likes of Reese Witherspooon would passively put her in her place. WOC at the Oscars on merit would support her as a WOC, but I’m not sure that’s what MM wants to be known for/as. The only way she could show her face would be in her sole capacity as “wife of”. And what does Harry have to bring to that particular party? What relevance does he have to the Oscars show? W&K go to the BAFTAs as representatives of, in a country which still has royal patronages.
This is why they’re not going. They’re not honored to have been asked; they’re flattered to have been asked. She would have gone in a flash (“that’s why we’re really here. The Pitch”); but it doesn’t fit with their stated aims in life.