Waity Katey and no jobs threads have me thinking

[LucyGoose]

As several threads have sprung up about Kate "wasting" her education, and squandering her bankeable skills due to her relationship with Prince William, I got to thinking....

did William really keep her hanging on for 7 yrs. with no guarantee of a wedding or engagement in sight? Would a young beautiful woman in this day and age really keep her life on hold for the next holiday with her boyfriend? Why the hell would her family basically pay for her to do this? She seemed to have no shortage of clothing, jewellery or spending money
Maybe the papers are right, the Middletons are social climbers willing to marry their daughter off to royalty, because there is no way in hell my family would pay for my education to have me wait around for my boyfriend to make up his mind.

Hmm, can't say I can summon up many 'sorry for' feelings for someone rich, beautiful, educated who'd always have had an enormously privileged life. I wish her no ill, either.

Perhaps she feels she is doing something worthwhile as well smc - supporting the man she loves in an incredibly difficult and unique position which he didn't ask for. And I expect she'll be a mother herself within 12 months. They may be wealthy and "privileged" - the favourite word that gets trotted out - but it doesn't seem much like privilege to me.

(not even going to get into the whole "motherhood is not a job" issue, but you know, it isn't.....)

I also think that they have had an "understanding" (to get all Jane Austen about it) for years.

No I don't feel 'sorry' for her at all, but terms like waity Katey are unnecessarily mean I think.

i don't think 'she' was waiting - i think her and wills had 'an agreement' and have had ever since uni.

they did live together remember.

woudl you not have insisted on a private agreement... ?

But even if they had a long term agreement, how would that prevent her taking up gainful employment for those few years - some would say even more crucial given that she'd never again have the chance to choose what she did on waking up in the morning.

I think if I was her and had that arrangement I'd want a very extended gap year as well.

In all honesty, I wouldn't bother with gainful employment if I didn't need the money.

She's not been on JSA for the last eight years, has she? I really don't see why it is anyone else's concern: if she's not bothered, her parents aren't bothered and her fiance wasn't bothered - big shrug.

In your opinion swc.

Fair point. I just can't help finding people like that lightweights.

Crossed posts!

I don't think she could win. If she had been working think of all those colleagues waiting to spill the beans? I think they wanted to keep their lives as private as possible for as long as possible. I assume they're getting married now because of the ticking biological clock.

swc - I may have missed something but why are you so down on her? I know she hasn't discovered a cure for cancer but she hasn't really done anything dreadful has she? Whilst I don't agree that she is somehow deserving of symapthy for the position she will take tomorrow I can't bring myself to dislike her.

What prevented her getting any form of normal job was the paparazzi - the Jigsaw post became untenable, she had to abandon the charity boat race - family firm was the only workplace where she could escape the intrusion was her parents' firm.

you don't feel sorry for her? i do. i'd rather be her sister or any one of that circle.

Loads of people are together for a number of years before engagements and weddings are on the cards.

In their case they have to be sure. The amount of fuss they'd have had to deal with had it been a broken engagement would mean they have oto know it is what they want and not rushed in to. Also, a lengthy engagement wouldn't be the done thing either - tbh never sure why anyone wants one of them anyway.

I was with DH for over 6 years before we got engaged, although lived together for 6 months before getting engaged. I wasn't "waiting."

More importantly, has William had hair plugs? His pate is looking distinctly less bald in the footage of the walkabout this evening. We have a right to know.

God yes please to being her little sister.

She's no worse than the woman next door to me who basically gave up work once she was engaged at 18, to plan her very ordinary wedding for 6 months and then got pregnant after a year of half hearted trying - he was away a lot but she couldn't work then because she needed to jump to action stations when he came home to impregnate her before going off again.

They had a few children, he then ran off with his secretary and she still hasn't done a days work at the age of 45.
It all seems to have worked out nicely for her aside of the divorce but she's still young and set for life with her lovely children.
And remarried to a man who could never have dreamt of affording the house they live in thanks to her ex.
I often wonder who is the mug for working ?

Hello? Hair plugs, people. Clear as day - no baldy bonce at all. Am I alone in noticing this?

No, I don't feel sorry for her at all. She's well into adulthood, educated, well-connected, wealthy and beautiful. She had choices and still has. She knows very well what she's signing up for, she is not a silly young fool. No one forces a person to be a king or queen or prince. It's voluntary. How is that worth anyone's sympathy? It's an educated choice she is making and 100% voluntary.

I feel very sorry, however, for the millions of women who don't have choice in their lives on the basis of their gender and the same accident of birth that meant William was born the son of a prince.

SWC - Parasitic?? Strong words. I'd probably agree that spending your twenties waiting for a bloke to propose is a bit of a waste but calling her a parasite is a bit much. I do think that the press made a regular job all but impossible.