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Sex with a kitten in the house

52 replies

Abhorrentpeople · 04/09/2025 07:32

My kitten is very playful.

My boyfriend stayed at the weekend. Both sessions of morning sex became a threesome with someone burrowing under the quilt, pouncing on moving limbs, using toes as toys etc. Boyfriend was understandably particularly wary.

I shut her out of the bedroom, but she started clawing the carpet up outside trying to get in.

So I shut her downstairs in the kitchen, where she mewed and mewed. Understandable, as she's not used to being shut in the kitchen during the day. We stopped in the end because of it.

What do the rest of you do please?

OP posts:
abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 07:37

It won't always be like this. Adult cats don't try to join in - they just sit and watch.

GlassofRosePorfavor · 04/09/2025 07:37

are you both on glue?

Zonder · 04/09/2025 07:38

abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

😂 love it!

Original poster
Abhorrentpeople · 04/09/2025 07:39

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 07:37

It won't always be like this. Adult cats don't try to join in - they just sit and watch.

My last cat used to stubbornly lie on the quilt come hell or high water!

OP posts:
overthinker001 · 04/09/2025 07:41

abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

Oh my god…I’ve heard it all now. That’s enough mums net for today!

Original poster
Abhorrentpeople · 04/09/2025 07:41

abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

She's not a baby, she's a young cat.

OP posts:
overthinker001 · 04/09/2025 07:43

Sorry op I have no advice as I’ve never had a young kitten but I hope someone comes along with better advice then to not have sex and look after your “baby” I personally would just keep shutting out. They will get used to it eventually.

cheeseandcrackers · 04/09/2025 07:44

Take the opportunity to try using different places, the shower perhaps?

Danikm151 · 04/09/2025 07:48

My old cat once jumped on my bf’s back 😂 she was curious. Just shut the door!

Original poster
Abhorrentpeople · 04/09/2025 07:55

cheeseandcrackers · 04/09/2025 07:44

Take the opportunity to try using different places, the shower perhaps?

Have you ever had sex in the shower? Sounds like such a good idea, but the reality of it is uncomfortable and cramped. Wet shower curtain stuck to the leg...urgh.

OP posts:
TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 04/09/2025 07:55

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 07:37

It won't always be like this. Adult cats don't try to join in - they just sit and watch.

... with some disdain. Apparently.

MolluscMonday · 04/09/2025 07:58

Shut your kitten away for short periods at other times so she gets used to it. Before you shut her away each time give her fuss/play and then shut her away with food and water so she sees it as a good thing.

Wynter25 · 04/09/2025 07:58

abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

😅😅

DurhamDurham · 04/09/2025 08:00

@abracadabra1980🤣 I’m hopeful that you’re joking but if not then you sound entirely joyless and judgemental.

LlamaNoDrama · 04/09/2025 08:01

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 07:37

It won't always be like this. Adult cats don't try to join in - they just sit and watch.

🤣🤣

watermybegonias · 04/09/2025 08:21

LTB.

Focus on the kitten.

DBSFstupid · 04/09/2025 08:28

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 07:37

It won't always be like this. Adult cats don't try to join in - they just sit and watch.

😂😂😂

DBSFstupid · 04/09/2025 08:28

watermybegonias · 04/09/2025 08:21

LTB.

Focus on the kitten.

😂😂😂

DBSFstupid · 04/09/2025 08:30

GlassofRosePorfavor · 04/09/2025 07:37

are you both on glue?

😂😂😂
Sorry OP but this thread is absolutely hilarious!

DBSFstupid · 04/09/2025 08:31

overthinker001 · 04/09/2025 07:41

Oh my god…I’ve heard it all now. That’s enough mums net for today!

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😂😂😂

fandjango · 04/09/2025 08:34

Our puppy (years ago) licked my husband’s bare bum mid session. Absolute passion killer.. he grew out of it thankfully. Just like another poster said about older pets just watching. They soon just ignore you. Won’t be forever x

Bumblebee72 · 04/09/2025 08:43

abracadabra1980 · 04/09/2025 07:36

Common sense really-don’t have sex and care for your kitten as a priority. She’s a baby and needs you.

It's not a baby anymore than it is a puppy or a foal, it is a kitten.

TessTickle0 · 04/09/2025 08:43

I can't have sex if there is an animal nearby..sleeping or otherwise so it would have to be shut out.
Always.

TheCurious0range · 04/09/2025 08:50

Give the cat some toys to play with and one of those treats toys where they have to bat it around to get the treats out, keep her occupied in another room, also get her used to being shut out of certain rooms at different times

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