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I think this might be FABCat's last thread

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JustFabulous · 03/08/2012 13:11

This morning she was coughing and has also had a sloppy bowel accident outside. She wasn't interested in breakfast even though I didn't come down until after 9 and she wasn't about when DH left at 7. He normally feeds her before he goes. I had to put the plate under her nose to get her to come and ear.

Her back legs are a bit wobbly and I will take her for a jab on Monday to hopefully get some relief. She didn't wee over night so that is postiive but when I was comforting her when she was coughing it really hit me that she is very old and isn't my baby anymore Sad.

She has lasted for DD's birthday but I am not sure she will make her own Sad.

I have just put a towel on the sofa for her to sit on, just in case, but she wasn't impressed and has jumped down on to the floor.

My cat is getting to the end of her life and I am not sure I will ever get over it Blush.

She means the world to me, is the only thing in the world that is 100% mine, and I will miss her so much.

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FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 20:15

I'm scared I am going to forget all her funny little ways. Over 18 years of stories there are lots!

Just had to lie in bed with DS2. sobbing his heart out and I can't ,ake it better for him. doesnt understand why we couldnt do it on the weekend. 2 more days would have meant more deteroration for her though Sad.

Sparklingbrook · 16/05/2013 20:20

Perhaps you could get a nice little book and write some of your memories of her Fab?

We had our v old cat PTS but we were on holiday. My Dad rang to say she had taken a turn for the worse. It was Wednesday and we were due back on the Saturday. The vet asked Dad if we wanted to wait to say goodbye but we said no-that wouldn't be fair on her. You made the right decision.

Your poor DS. It is so hard for them. x

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 20:28

Poor DCs,

But, Fab - if you'd left it to the weekend, he'd then have been upset that you 'couldn't have left it till during the (next) week'. He's just hurting and doesn't know how to articulate it.

I agree with Sparkling about writing down the memories of her. Why not get the DCs to set up, say, a little private website or something where you can put stories and pictures etc.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 20:37

I think it is because it has all happened so fast. About 5 weeks ago we told them to say goodbye as we assumed the worst but she came home. This time it was tell them Tuesday night and she has gone Thursday morning. If I hadn't have had children I may well have done it on Tuesday but they needed to say their own goodbyes and be able to spoil her.

Sparklingbrook · 16/05/2013 20:41

Yes, it's all a bit of a shock.

fengirl1 · 16/05/2013 20:47

Fab, why shouldn't you cry? You loved her. Your dcs will know that you love and hurt too - and that there's nothing wrong with showing how you feel. I still cry sometimes about a dog I lost over twenty years ago - not often, but I do when something reminds me of him.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 20:47

Does it get easier as right now I have physical pain, bad headache, can't see peoperly and dont think I will be able to sleep. Haven't sleep the previous 2 nights very well. 4 hours on tuesday night and about 5 or 6 last night. ds2 is asleep thankfully.

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 20:54

Yes, it gets easier.

Even if you can't actually sleep, go lie down and rest some. The DCs will be looking to you so you have to stay strong for them even though your own heart is a mess.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 21:01

I knew I wouldn't want to be without her. Life is no fun.

I got her when my ex decided he wanted a kitten. No discussion with me and I just went along with it. We split up and I said I was having her. No way I was leaving her with him. He had kicked her after hitting me. Didn't care about me, no way was he hurting her again. I bought a flat and she would sit on my kitchen windowsill waiting for food me to come home. The panic when she wasn't there and the relief when I fell over her when opening the door. She once ate daffodils when I was out and I came back to piles of yellow vomit. Panic call to vet, ran like mad to get her there when told they were poisonous, thanks to all waiting patients who let her jump the queue and huge gratitude when they saved her. At our next house she went missing for 9 hours. I was beside myself fearing the worse but clever clogs appeared at the front door (never been out so how she knew I don't know) miaowing to get in.

After leaving the bully and having been in care if felt so lovely to have my own front door and my own little cat who was all mine, company, fun and she really saved me. Never bothered when I cried into her fur. I just hope she can forgive me for today.

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 21:03

There's nothing to forgive, Fab. You did an act of great love and I'm sure she's thankful.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 21:13

I thought she'd live forever. She had so many lives. Currently 4 illnesses but had been managed fine until

YoniConnect · 16/05/2013 21:16

So sorry Fab Sad

When my cat died (she was a venerable old lady as well - older than my DCs, the eldest of which is a uni!) I found the nicest photo of her and had it put on a canvas (I used snapfish, the online service). It wasn't that expensive, and she has pride of place above my computer in the study. She's watching me mumsnet now!

It took me a long time to get used to her not being around. We had her cremated and she's still in a box on a sunny windowsill.

I am sure that in time she will enter your family folklore, IYKWIM. My cat was 22, and had bags of personality. She managed to get herself into lots of scrapes, and used up most of her 9 lives. We still enjoy remembering some of her more bizarre adventures, and in the not too distant future you and your family will remember FabCat without sadness.

Sending you and your family Flowers Flowers

shallweshop · 16/05/2013 21:23

I so empathise with how you are feeling right now. Firstly, you have done the hardest but kindest thing for your much loved pet. It would have been easy to keep her alive a bit longer for selfish reasons but you put her first. You gave her a lovely, very long life and she was a very lucky cat. I will never forget my lovely old cat and now I can talk about her funny little ways and smile - you will be able to as well.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 21:30

I am so greatful for all of your kind words and sticking with me. It has been nearly 12 hours Shock since she died and I am still where I was 12 minutes after.

My poor children are missing her so much too and my youngest keeps saying he didn't want her to die. It is his birthday soon and all he wanted was her to be still here.

DH been secretly looking on the Battersea website as we watched Paul's for the love of dogs.

DoingStuffForHarriet · 16/05/2013 22:27

I've only just come across this thread and my heart is breaking for you. I can imagine what it must feel like. My old girl is nearly 18 and is starting to become frail. I just hope that I can be as brave as you've been when the time comes.

Mushroom must have had a very loving and happy life, and it is so good that she was able to die peacefully in the arms of the person that she'd known the longest, and loved the best. It's lovely that you were able to stroke her paws at the end.

I feel so sorry for you.

Horsemad · 16/05/2013 22:38

Hello Fab, you're doing just fine. It's totally normal to feel as you do, so don't try to bottle it up. XX

FabCatsSlave · 17/05/2013 06:20

Just come down stairs and in floods of tears again. Evenrything has changed. No more coming down, spotting her on the patio and smiling in relief she is okay. No more dodging wee puddles while I feed her. No more having to think about where I leave my laundry baskets as she wees in them. No more row rows from her. I want her back SadSadSad.

FabCatsSlave · 17/05/2013 06:25

How can life go on? The news is on. Don't people know the best thing in my life has gone? The first person to ever love me has gone and I am supposed to just carry on.

FabCatsSlave · 17/05/2013 06:26

Her bed is so empty. She used to look to funny with her head poking out of the hole. It was such a big bed. Now there is nothing.

MrRected · 17/05/2013 06:36

Oh FCS - I totally understand how you feel. Unfortunately there is nothing, right now, which will make you feel much better.

You spent a big part of you life with this amazing animal - she claimed your affections and you hers. It's not going to be easy but you will get through this.

RIP Fabcat
xxxx

maybeIwillmaybeIwont · 17/05/2013 06:38

Bless, you will see her everywhere. She has been with you such a long time, she's not just going to disappear, you will always have the lovely memories of her.

You are full of grief but you know you did the last final loving thing you could, you just didn't want it to happen, that's why it hurts so much. Mushroom is there FabCat, just not where you can see her.

cozietoesie · 17/05/2013 06:40

Yes - it hurts like hell.

Start writing down all your memories of how she was, Fab. Surprisingly, recalling her that way will help and the DCs will be glad of the memories in later years. Just open a new file on the computer and write when you remember something.

We're all with you.

Horsemad · 17/05/2013 07:27

Hi Fab, the pain will subside but it takes time. I like the idea of writing about FabCat.
In fact, I'm going to do the same for my old girl, it's been 8 mths and one of my funniest memories is of me rubbing my hands over her catmint plant and savouring the lovely scent - only for me to see her wee on it 5 mins later, cheeky thing! Shock Niiice!

FabCatsSlave · 17/05/2013 07:36

She was so clever. She had 2 tablets in the morning. Last week she said she had swallowed it so I put her food down. On the way to the plate she spat the tablet out. When I picked her head up to give it to her again she had gravy all over her nose and mouth. So so cute and funny.

Sunday is going to be crap. We've been having chicken every week for ages now so she could have some and DH would carve while I served up the vegetables. It would start going cold while we took the chicken to her on the sofa to entice her into her room to eat it. For this week I have bought gammon. I can't see us having chicken for a long long time.

FabCatsSlave · 17/05/2013 14:40

I have uploaded some photos of the greatest cat that ever lived.

I am still heart broken.